Reaosns for divorce ??

Of course very nice...I wonder why specially the copules who were in kind of strong love relation tend to be very bitter at each other after divorce ??

Thanks

 

Is it becasue we work to much now a days ?

I'm not calling ladies to stop working. But, assuming that befroe it was like,

1 person work (70% load) + 1 person home & children (70% load) = 140%, Remining = 60% ...Good for enjoying companion, really communicating, more patient..etc..

Now, 2 persons work (140% load) + 1 or 2 persons sharing Home & children (70%) = 210%... no remaining ...actually over.

Repeat...I'm not calling ladies to stop working....It is just an overload for every body.

 

I did not get that .....sorry... :&

 

I wondor who in Earth would not respect the most important and the most difficualt job on Earth ...The woman working at home...This is the base for happiness for all parties..specially raising the children herself which is the future of every family and nation.

I think that is much better job than serving companies and being just a No. in the Payroll.

 

I agree with that too 100%...nothing really is going to change such a genuine
trait..marriage might just hide it for a while.

 

The main cause of divorce is selfish stupidity and too many UNREASONABLE conditions in a relationship ...

... it's a typical American epidemic ...

 

I'd say that's a pretty rosy picture of marriage before the 1970s... Most people I know of my grandparents', and even my parents' generations are not so good at really communicating about feelings... But I may be jaded...

BUT, yes, the fact that women now have plenty of opportunity to get decent-paying jobs outside the house most likely has a significant impact on the divorce rate. After all, she no longer has to choose between putting up with a cheating scumbag OR being severely limited in her income possibilities. Not that I don't know couples today who would love to get a divorce if only their could afford to, since our economy has gone down the tubes to the point that most families now barely get by on two full-time incomes, and neither could support him/herself on a single salary. But that's a different rant!

My grandma left my grandpa because he was a violent alcoholic... Her best option was to get married again as quickly as she could find someone willing to be a step-father (which was rare in those days)... So what if he occasionally beat the children, it's far less frequent or severe than their father did, and at least he's putting a roof over their heads and food on their plates.

My other grandparents stayed married till death did they part, precisely because the man was supposed to supportn the woman and divorce is just not something you were supposed to do back then... So he worked 18 hour days to avoid having to see his wife, who smoked and drank way too much to self-medicate the pain of being stuck in a marriage to a guy who didn't even like her.

Sometimes, divorce is a good thing...

 

dawn_sky - I think the whole thing in a nutshell is this part of your post ...

Basically; the Dating game has become an advertising and promotions campaign.

Unfortunately; too many people are good at wearing a plastic face (false advertising and misleading promos).

In my day I was a pretty good looking guy - people I knew said a lot of times that I changed women like they changed underwear ...

fact is (and was back then) that the real me - as nice as I can be, am also rather abrasive.

When I met my wife I was fortunate enough to have figured out that the best advertising campaign for me was brutal honesty and demanding the same from her ...

now that we both got fat (together) we still like the real people we introduced each other too ...

of course; there were surprises in our personalities that still failed to surface until well into marriage - but they were more tolerably than being bombarded with a ton of unexpected traits.

That is where the old sayings came from, like:

"Put Your Best Foot Forward"
"Don't Walk Into The Party Backwards"
"Don't Get Any Egg on Your Face"

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There is also another saying that applies to the opposite of the tree above:

"Don't Look At Life Threw Rose Color Glasses"
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Unfortunately; that's hard to do if people are on their best behavior and not showing you the REAL them!

see? It's all about putting on an act ... a plastic face ... a phony front ...

END RESULT: When people see the REAL YOU - they may not like you at all!

Now me on the other hand: I like to display the worst of myself
.... then IF (if I let them - usually; why bother?) someone gets to REALLY know me - they see my better traits for what they are and they actually like me ...

That is part of the reason for this picture I took (the one below)
... because it reflects the real nature of what you see ...

 

Or is it Greed ?????

 

I thought people in past times used to communicate easier, do we really communicate now ?? or is it just going with the flow and saying yes o each other, otherwise will be called close minded, old fashioned...etc.. The percentage of divorce is much higher than in the past.

And about the second case...why not seeing it from another point of view...the man worked hard trying to provide what's enough for their home ! True this could lead to some emptiness in the Wife side..but also at the man..they had the holidays, understanding should be on both sides, as well mutual encouragement.

When thinking, busy working woman would not have solved any marriage problem better, simply because both are tried at the same time, and there is o much time left. Actually that can end it earlier.

Remain the money problem..this can be done as now by laws..or through awareness of the husband to secure the future of his wife as much as he can, or by her/him working half time, home business...etc.

Somehow i think when we have many choices..we tend to sacrifice people easier..i.e.. more money..add to it Stress because of working too much, and the result is clear....We are not then there to solve our problems, rather getting rid of it or him/her becasue we are tired.

Best regards

 

isn't greed an UNREASONABLE conditions ?

 

It should be moved as it is not a gender issue, it is a relationship issue. I can not move it so I let this one go and hopefully it helps those it should.

I did not close the thread as I think it is a good thread.....but I also think it is a relationship issue.

 

It should be moved as it is not a gender issue, it is a relationship issue. I can not move it so I let this one go and hopefully it helps those it should.

I did not close the thread as I think it is a good thread.....but I also think it is a relationship issue.

And because it is my job to either move it, delete it or lock it.

For now it can stay open.

Heat

 

Heat, let me know if you want to move it. I can do it.

 

Thank you Lady...

Her job is to move it, delete it or lock it. Hell..this is frighting...Hahaha.

See You

 

Come Oooooon Sugar...Have Mercy on us...lol.

 

If you never get married, then you can gaurantee never to get divorced.

 

www.nomarriage.com View of western women in general with the exception of a few, basicly says women today are raised to not be very marryable. I Must say after seeing all my friends go through marriage I agree with some of his points....

 

No it is an AIR condition...hahahaha..just joking..

 

Lol...that's similar to the old song "No Woman no Cry"...hahahaha