Red Flags

back on topic. Other red flags that will make you end a new relationship?

 

When they learn how to make me into a screaming Maniac and they do at every opportunity. Then call me the abusive one.

Stay Brown,
Rev J

 

clinginess
revealing too much personal information too soon. I think there is something wrong with people that can really reveal personal information to someone they just met.
being a barfly
too much emotional baggage from an old relationship/talking about an ex
getting too emotionally attached too soon..

....reading over my list, i'm starting to think its me that has the problem. maybe i'm just afraid of intimacy.

oh also, anger. i dated an angry man once. as a result, people who readily show anger scare me very much. Anger is a natural emotion but if you're showing your angry side to someone you've only been seeing a few weeks, something is wrong.

oh, and stupidity.

 

I dont know...my angry ex boyfriend used to try to blame me for getting him so worked up, but I was just doing exactly what I did with every other ex and he's the only one that ever got pissed off at me for just being me.

The only person in control of your emotions is you.

 

an ugly vagina

 

When you make it to the bedroom and she reaches in the drawer and pulls out the gimp mask. Maybe ok for others but not for me.

 

If she has leather pants but wont let me spank her in them.

What's wrong with bitches? Why would you get a pair of leather pants if you're not gonna use them.

 

To answer seriously, clinginess. Bitches can be clingy as.

 

I actually dated this girl once who, when we first met, liked that I am quiet, don't talk much, she once called me, "mysterious," because I'm so reserved in person.

After dating her for over a year she got to know me well because naturally we both shared personal information with one another; childhood, likes, dislikes, quarks, quirks, ideas, etc. Eventually she felt she knew me pretty well and then decided that she wanted to end the relationship because it was, "boring," because there was no longer any real "unknown" about me.

That was probably the most stupid, vain/shallow thing I've ever heard come out of a girlfriend's mouth. I didn't even really care that she wanted to break up, I was more shocked at idea of growing bored with someone because you know them well.

 

why can't we see the quiet and mysterious side of you? It's not fair

 

Because I'm a writer by nature. I've never been much of a talker, I just don't care for it.

 

yeah, i think the anger thing is always a red flag for me. i was in a couple of abusive relationships, so i have a hard time deciphering abusive behavior and true anger with a worthy cause. if that makes any sense.

 

Abuse is when you're physically or verbally attacked. Anger is when the person is expressing coherent concerns, though usually in an elevated voice and in a manner that often lacks reason and insight.

Abuse- "You're a bitch for...."


Anger- "You did....that pisses me off"

 

i'm sort of the opposite, i'm better at the odd turn of phrase than writing down my thoughts. I can't spell for a start.

And anyways, I don't believe anyone is strictly quiet- you've just got to find that twinkle in their eye, which again, is something I am quite good at doing at with people.

 

That's true, I can be quite talkative and very passionate when the subject gets onto one that I feel strongly about. In general though I don't talk all that much, I usually only speak when spoken to, unless I'm around my brother or someone I'm close to.

 

The most impressed I've ever been with a girl was when I was at a Halloween party and someone spilled their drink on me and this girl went to the kitchen, got a sponge and came back to clean my pants. If a someone shows respect towards me like that it's a big turn-on but if they show very little respect it's a turn-off.

 

I think abuse can be defined as anything that makes you feel degraded.

Emotional abuse is always harder to decipher than physical abuse (obviously.) It took me a couple of years to figure out I was being abused by the Angry Man I dated because he never took it to a physical level. Then one day we were babysitting for couple of friends and they had a book on emotional abuse. I was reading this checklist on emotional abuse and it suddenly dawned on me..I turned to him and showed him the book and he told me not to be a bitch.......lol. Its not really funny but its one of those things you have to laugh about in dismay.

One time I was dating this guy for a couple of months and he would get insanely jealous when I went out with friends. I was making plans one night and he hugged me and said he never wanted to let me go and maybe he would just lock me in his basement. That certainly sent up a red flag.

Damnit...I've never had a normal relationship.

 

heh

 

IB, roflmao thank you for that.

and thanks lunar for the breakdown.

yeah, meliai, sometimes i feel like i've never had a healthy relationship either.

 

glad you liked it, I put all my artist energy into that one