Red Flags

yeah racists, homophobes, bad tippers, snobs and the like are certainly not for me.

 

I use internet dating sites so I like to do lunch with her first either at the food court at a mall or a bagel shop. If she seems like a bullshit artist, pretty wild out there with her past life ect Thats a red flag for me.

A lot of text messaging would be a redflag for me as well. I don't know about the phonecall thing as most people do take their calls in private. I either blow mine off or shut it off though.

 

I don't date lol

 

Owning a massive shiny car, or several, or talking constantly about massive shiny cars.

 

3 words


constantly itchy privates

 

Really? I guess women are incapable of abuse. I guess that it is perfectly alright to stand 3 inches from someones face and scream at the top of your lungs (Which is classified as torture under the Geneva convention) while simultaniously moving so as to always block the exit then laughing that you "Made the Buddhist Hippie lose it."

Or how's this for a fun little mantra "If you want her you can have her". Used in context:

Me: I think Jennifer Aniston is really beautiful.
Her: If you want her you can have her.

Me: That girl would be really pretty if she didn't have 5 pounds of shit hanging from her face.
Her: If you want her you can have her.

Me: That girl is way too fucking skinny.
Her: If you want her you can have her.

Then on top of that I honestly tried playing music with this other person. If we were at an open mic night ans somebody told me we sounded good and not her she wouldn't talk to me for 4 hours. If we were practicing in the living room and I started smiling while we played she would accuse me of standing there laughing at her.

And I'm the abusive one who should learn to control their emotions.

Stay Brown,
Rev J

 

sorry rev i didnt really know your situation, I was just basing your statement on my past experience. I just thought you sounded a bit like my ex boyfriend in that you were blaming the other person for your anger. I did think that sounded a bit out of character because you do come across as a bit of a buddhist hippie in your posts lol. my apologies.

this made me laugh.

i dumped a guy for the same reason once. well actually i dumped him for being a racist, spoiled rich snob who came to my house and said "this looks like a scene out of deliverance," because i lived in the country at the time. what a prick.

 

Women who talk too much about themselves and how awesome their life is. Don't get me wrong, I like positive, confident people, but some people really overdo this one. It almost comes off like they're doing a sales pitch, trying to sell to themselves.

I've gotten that a lot in the past too. I figure it's because I'm usually so quiet and calm, when a girlfriend has been pissed and upset, they often have tried to work me up as well, I figure because misery loves company. Then when I get mad, they tell me that I'm making shit worse by being upset

 

Doesn't like wearing heels.

Ladies - high heels make the world a better place.

 

Now these are red flags.

Rev, your reactions are very human, however, it doesnt matter the reason...at least to me. i try very hard to be the better person, b/c i know i'll feel better afterward. No judgment though, dude.

 

Red flags from my experience:

- Crying every time we met up
- Didn't shut up about cars and told the same stories about how he did something "awesome" over and over.. it got boring.

The were 2 different guys. Haven't had much experience with "dating" so meh xD

 

so I just got my script filled from the psychiatrist..

 

Telling you telepathically that she loves you and then treating you like shit face to face. Major red flag.

 

lieing

cheating

inconsistant disposition ( jekel & hyde syndrom )

bi polar ( or mentally ill in general )

Controlling nature

bitchy behavior

unshaved vagina ( or an unattractive or smelly vagina that i don't want to put my mouth on )

fake boobs

dramatic change in hair style/color ( like lopping off your beautiful long locks & getting a "boy" cut )

excessive weight gain

prying into my finances & banking

Keeping me up all night fighting so i can't study for a test because you feel that i will leave you when i am sucessful

ignoring me in the club when your girlfriends are around

breaking plans at the very last min. when i have spent time over 2 days preping a dinner

 

the rev and I were apparently married to the same women...hey rev....is her name brenda?

 

No, Kate. Last I heard from her she was trying to deal with her issues. I still have a mild form of PTSD from it.

Stay Brown,
Rev J

 

smells like cat piss






and doesn't own cats

 

Apology accepted. I probably overreacted a little too.

Stay Brown,
Rev J

 

Red Flag- You drop by unexpectedly to say hi to your girlfriend who's sitting around all dolled up, ready to party with a bottle of liquor even though she doesn't drink.....


Edit: I've got another good one- Shortly after the above mentioned incident strange phone numbers start showing up on your lady's phone and when the phone rings and you're there she hangs up right away and tells you she doesn't know who it was that phoned, occasionally telling you that it was her brother.....

 

occasionally calls you "daddy" and cries during sex= red flag