Relationship Without Sex, Possible?

^ He'd have to masturbate more frequently, and I am presuming she is not dumb, so she would understand that this is a 'reaction', but he can always give her a hint or 100 that's he's just 'respecting her choice'.

Manhood, in one of its essential aspects, is about control.

 

why?

 

lol because she must have noticed the arguments between them over the issue, but yeah, she might well be.

 

Well, that's one way to look at it. Another way is to say that sexuality is hard-wired into us and depriving ourselves of an essential part of our being can be very hard over the long run, and probably destroy the relationship eventually.

Bottom line, if she is not sexually inclined and you are, there's an imbalance in your relationship that will probably just get worse over time. It's probable you aren't as compatible as you might have thought. Your emotions may be causing you to go into denial about how healthy the relationship is overall. If you aren't meeting her needs and she isn't meeting yours, something's got to give.

I've been married for over 21 years. Prior to the ceremony, sex was hot. After, well it cooled down considerably (common sad story). It hasn't happened for years for us. Not my choice. She says penetration hurts. She refuses to try anything that will help with dryness and pain. Now, after 21 years, she tells me it was painful from the very beginning. She never said anything back then, never refused. Was very sexually involved with me.

So I have to ask the same question you have to ask. Am I willing to shut down that part of my life, permanently? If I had known 21 years ago what I know now, I would have not continued the relationship.

You my friend have an opportunity. My advice, cut and run. You haven't found the "one" for you yet. Keep looking, trust me ... you don't want to look back on your life decades later and wish you had done things differently.

 

Why is everyone replying to this guy jacking him around with all these murky possibilities?

The chick's screwing around on him.

Call me rude, callous or simplistic. Makes a lot more sense than these meandering bland guesses that don't add up for beans.

 

It's become too routine, and less rudimentary. You just need to make it seem worth it all over again, make more of an effort to romance her, treat her well

and if that's fails, you've turned her into a lesbian. May I suggest then, you subtly include a hot friend and try and get an old step in- at least they'll touch your dangle even if it's an attempt to pull it off.

 

Yeah it's possible, they are lucky to be that patient or probably they are the ones wearing those purity rings lol

 

There's really two ways this goes:

1. She has a low sex drive
2. She's fucking another guy

And sadly reason 2 is usually 90% of the time the result.

Prove me wrong, for your sake I hope it is.

 

Sex frequency in a long term relationship will decrease (generally - but if there is any couple on here that is still doing it daily after 20 years - I would like to hear from you -seriously I want to know if that exists)

Problem is it is usually one left wanting more than the other. So either one moves on or one gets it elsewhere. If one gets it elsewhere, they either do it on the side or with the partner's blessings.

If one wont put out AND wont let the other get it elsewhere - then time to reconsider - in this situation you have to ask yourself whether she is taking advantage of you love

 

I don't know how you do it. There's no way I wouldn't have sex with someone who was infuriated and wanted to pound me. Demanding sex? seriously? ....HOT

 

Last time this happened to me che was out screwing around not saying that's the case but your not happy leave. I knew this huge bobdybuilder who put it to me like this on women"yeah bro women are like a gym that you sign up to you don't want to quit it and find a new gym so you keep paying and not using it"