Relax

So we don't need to reflect upon experience repetitively; the kharma does it for us. Justice, on the other hand, coming from the Divine Law, exists by the Nature of our use of the hapless environment. We thus adjust to the refusal to read; just because we don't want to know injustice.:sunny:

 

No, I haven't viewed that thread, do you think it worthily invites my perusal?

 

What I think doesn't matter. I wouldn't dare speak of what you would, or would not, deem worthy of your attention. Only you can determine that.

 

But you thought it worthy to tell me where the comment came from other than your mind.

 

You said: It is a frequently observable phenomena that if you ask a man to let go his suffering he will fight you to keep it.

To which I replied: In another thread, I did point out that a certain group has seemingly decided that they are distinct from the rest of us by virtue of past suffering, and that, having chosen such an image, are not willing to give up their suffering even though that moment is gone. They have chosen to base their identity on the past--a martyr complex--and wear that pain like a badge of distinction. I understand that.

To which you commented: I regret you have not understood further.

I would think that you might have asked me what thread I was referring to before saying that you regret that I had not understood further.

 

I took it you understood to that point and to that extent the things I have said.
It didn't occur to me to inquire of any other associations you might have had regarding what you said to me. What you said has the same perceptual taste regardless specific context and seems a complete statement of itself. The information that you said it in another thread just means to me you are repeating it.

 

So, we had a misunderstanding, then.

 

Hard to believe you missed that thread though. It was all the rage! There were facts and then complaints about those facts, and then there were more facts followed by insults, which was followed by more facts, and then there was some screaming about those facts, and then more facts, and then more screaming followed by yet more screaming, and then one final fact before the squeaky/screaming wheel got the oil and the thread was locked. And they all lived happily ever after.

 

Sounds like reruns. I did see the title but I have no affection for the subject.
My interest in historic revisionism involves undoing a bad lesson we had learned from our parents called guilt.

 

Yes, other than the facts, it was a rerun of learned responses to undesired adjustments to one's store of knowledge.

I wonder how many parents contemplate the connection between their use of guilt as a tool of control against their children, and their children's use of guilt as a tool of control against them.

Are you sure that "bad" is a good descriptive when assessing the incorrectness of parenting styles?

 

I don't know but I have examined the specter of guilt in all of my relationships.

I'm not assessing the correctness of parenting styles but the content of a specific lesson. The lesson arouses suspicion on the virtue that it does not supply the advertised effects.

 

Well, after researching the issue, you'll perhaps be astounded to know that one billion, six hundred and forty-two thousand, nine hunderd and seven (give or take) parents have contemplated the connection between their own use of guilt and their children's use of guilt as a tool of control.

 

I find it amusing you think so but your thought is based on falsification of statistics obviously. I find that most assume guilt having experienced the displeasure of a god figure like a parent. A parents displeasure however is not justified in the appearance of innocence and has the effect of making the child feel responsible for the parents emotional state, an obvious distortion as children do not create their parents.

 

You're absolutely right! After yet more research involving lots of cross-referencing, I was wrong.

 

It happens . . .