Rings From Broken Engagements...

I'm not the jury lol I was just expressing my opinion I think you sound like a cool person and I def didn't mean to start anything or make anyone feel bad.

 

Im sorry.. im just cranky today.. i didnt mean to go off

 

I'm sorry too hugs

 

I'd have to agree.

I've never been engaged with anyone other than my husband but if I had been I'd give it back. Technically the ring is his considering he gave it to the girl with intent on getting married to her. I don't think it would feel right keeping it. What am I going to do with it anyway? All it would do is remind me of what once was which is not now.

That's just my opinion.

 

Okay...sold diamond jewelery for tens years. Think of the ring as what the very first one symbolized (still does) its like a contract agreement between two people to wed. If that is broken verbally or by actions, the offending person breaks the contract. So if you in good faith keep to the agreement, or he breaks his end by his actions or verbally, they are your rings. If you however break the agreement by your actions or verbally, you give them back. Some stores will allow to to trade them up (if it was worth 200.00, use that towards something 400.00 or more) or if the diamond is at least large enough to see, hehe, reset it, or resize it.

Main Entry: 1con·tract
Pronunciation: 'kän-"trakt
Function: noun
Etymology: Middle English, from Latin contractus, from contrahere to draw together, make a contract, reduce in size, from com- + trahere to draw
1 a : a binding agreement between two or more persons or parties; especially : one legally enforceable b : a business arrangement for the supply of goods or services at a fixed price <make parts on contract> c : the act of marriage or an agreement to marry

 

you have a good point, gdhmomchild...it depends on who screws up the relationship. sometimes that's not always a black and white issue though, sometimes both people are in the "wrong", or sometimes it's just not in the cards, or whatever...

 

yup, agreed. Just a basic guidline. I've seen so many assholes on both sides of that arguement~grrrr!! Little bitches that fucked anything that moved and wouldn't give the ring back...and guys that did the same that thought no matter what they should get the rings back.

 

Save That Fucker! Hey You Never Know When A Buddy Is Gonna Knock Somebody Up And Need A Ring In A Hurry!

 

I was married for 3 years. I bought my own engagement ring because I was stupid enough to marry a poor loser at the time who couldn't afford the $.25 machines in the supermarket. Anyway, after I filed for divorce, I kept the ring because I didn't know what to do with it. I had it for like 2 years. And by that time I was in another relationship. It didn't mean anything to me in the least bit. But actually in a way it was a bad memory of a stupid mistake I made as a dumb kid. So I threw it away with my lunch one day. I thought of a pawn show, but there aren't many here and I figured why bother, it was only a $100 ring to begin with and it was like 4 or 5 years old at this point. Couldn't be worth much and throwing it away meant more to me. Like a symbol or something.

 

crap! lol, size it fer yer middle finger! hehe...
Shoulda just given it away in that case, or traded it towards something else like earrings

 

What about after a divorce? I've only dated one woman who was married and she pawned it. Would you ladies keep it, give it back or pawn it after a divorce?

 

hmm....my sister got divorced and come to think of it....i have no idea what she did with the rings.....probably just gave em back to the asshole.....can you tell i don't care for her ex-husband? only good thing that came from that relationship was my niece......

 

It would depend whos fault it was and how the relationship was. That's much more complicated then just being engaged to somone because everything's 'yours together' when you're married well it kind of is when you're engaged and cohabitating too but I don't know it just seems different. Unless i got royaly screwed over which i don't think I would ever put myself in the position for I would give it back.

 

Ya know, now that I've posed this question. If I were a man and ended up getting a divorce - I wouldn't want the ring back. Actually even in a broken off engagement I actually wouldn't want it back.

Would you ladies want the wedding band you bought for your ex-husband back? I wouldn't think you would.

 

i personally don't understand the whole big hype surrounding wedding and engagement rings.....

less is more......and some people just get too carried away (such is life).....my parents both have simple silver bands for their wedding rings......

 

no but wedding rings are different. You usually have to make payments on engagememnt rings and they don't depreciatte. So basically you give it back because it would be very unfair to have somone continue to make payments when you'renot together.

 

I would certainly hope that even if I did end up getting divorced someday, that the marriage lasted longer than the payment plan for the ring. I guess I never thought of it that way. Even still I wouldn't want it back.

 

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I am very unmaterialistic when it comes to relationships. It turns me off completley if somone tries to impress me with money or buys me something instead of giving me love but an engagement ring is different. It's something you wear forever and is the only thing I would be picky about gift wise. I was stoked with mine though.

 

If I was engaged I'd give it back but after I have been married it becomes mine. His would be his.

Right now I think I would keep my rings if that ever happened. I don't think I'd ever pawn them.