Saying things but never being heard

Smelly Socks · Sep 17, 2008

You should have your own seminar.

Mr.Writer said:

Funny, I have a friend with your exact problem, and he is also quite touchy and defensive when it comes to his own shortcomings! Maybe it's a problem with caring too much about "how you sound" and thus not really putting yourself forward and saying things with the right energy to make people really stop and listen.

Right, and yet people seem to not really hear you. So either you're wrong, or you're missing something in the picture.

Careful with this, it's not always a good thing

You may have no idea how much you are telling people with things outside your voice. Posture, the way you walk, eye contact, tone of voice, punctuation, style of speaking, topics you bring up and topics you come into to voice an opinion . . . many, many indices that people take subconsciously to make a judgement call on what kind of person one is.

But then why do they care about the shit other people are saying? Do you see an inconsistency here? I somehow doubt the problem is with everyone else, and you are just this funny, great, interesting person. Behold, the defensive reaction.

Yeah, but that's because I'm freaking amazing.

Lighten up, and stop taking constructive criticism from a fucking stranger on the internet so seriously.
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prissbaby · Sep 17, 2008

it's selective hearing. I am guilty of this ..... especially when it comes to my parents who never seem to shut up. or a good portion of the people i know, who never have anything remotely interesting to say.

oh well, that's life.

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