Sex drives don't match up with partner

Some people just don't feel a healthy active sex life is an importent part of a relationship! I was married to one of them for a long time and I was unhappy everyday of my life in that situation, but stayed for all the wrong reasons. I know better now and would not spend my life with someone like that ever again, because I know there are people out there that do value that in their relationship as much as I do. It isnt everything, but it sure as hell is something I want and need to be happy. I guess you just need to decide how importent it is to you.

 

that is why you need to communicate. maybe your spouse just doesn't ever think about sex. remind them that you do and it is important. if they only want sex once a month and you want it every day then you need to work at a compromise, say twice a week.

as much as I believe in monogamy, if I was a woman who wanted frequent sex and my husband never wanted to AND I had begged and pleaded over and over to no avail, I would dress in the most slutty outfit I could find, put on bright red lipstick, walk up to him and say "honey I am going out and I am going to fuck someone tonight" and then walk out the door. If he lets you go then you have absolutely zero reason to be married to him.

 

That marriage has been over for a while now! I know all about communicating, but when your with someone who doesn't communicate back you are just talking to yourself.

I am in my ideal relationship now with my ideal woman so the past means nothing to me anymore. You live and you learn.

 

Im in the same boat Livvy, my wife says she hasn't got the same drive as me, i want it at least once a day, she makes out there's something wrong with me or that " im just male". Tried to spice it up before don't work, i try to be happy with what i get and if i get too horny i take matters into my own hand (if you know what i mean) but that seems to be wrong too, Im not cheating. Also always gets put down to having kids has killed the drive which is BS in my mind. Wondered before if im still attractive to her, god knows