Sex is unpleasant for me

I went to the doctor and she suggested I have oral sex as an alternative.

i dont' have much money or insurance to see a specialist so i don't know where else to turn. i wish i did because i wouldn't be haivng ppl telling me i am gay as a way to solve my problem

 

gay?? you dont know what asexual means do you?? lmao..




i think your really confused.. perhaps you should brush up on your reading comprehension skills then try again...

oral sex instead,, sure but a guy is gonna get awful tired of eatin pussy an gettin blow jobs...

 

Hippie, this is a pretty sensitive issue for women. If you are just going to patronize her, I'd appreciate you leaving the thread.

 

i understand perfectly. you do have internet access obviously, so if you google sexual dysfunction and start reading, you might be able to figure this out on your own. that's what i do nowadays anytime i have any kind of health problem. there's a wealth of knowledge on the net, and it takes awhile sometimes, but i can usually figure things out on my own...or at least narrow down the possibilities considerably.

 

I've done that but it does not give me any information on how to treat my problem. All it does is say see a doctor which I dont have the money or insurance for.

I've called around to Planned Parenthoods and the don't waver prices at all. If they do that is probably just for the consultation but to run tests, and get treatment you still have to shove out a lot of money.

I guess i'll just do what i always been doing and put up with it and pretend like I am having a good time

thanx for the advice everybody

 

well, if it makes you feel any better, what i found is the more i 'used it' the more sensitive and responsive i got over the years. another thing a lot of women in their 20's don't realize is that you haven't reached your sexual peak yet. wait til you get to your mid to late 30's. you may find that you're a horny sex machine!

 

HOw do you explain women who are already enjoying it in their 20s?

I don't want to wait until I am in my mid 30s to enjoy sex. That means I will have to silently suffer for a decade of unsatisfying sex. And I probably won't even have my looks by then so whose to say someone will still want me when I am that old

 

Plenty of hot chicks are in their 30s. Pretty much every hot chick on tv is that old (Angelina Jolie is 32, fyi). The only reason chicks look like crap when they get older is because when you're young, you have that going for you. If you want to look attractive as you age, you need to work at it. And like most things in life, people are lazy, and they'd rather smoke weed and hit up the ps2 instead of going for a run every morning and eating healthy.

You don't need to "shovel out" money to see a therapist. I've gone to one of the best ones in my town and it costs me $150/hour, and she drops her rates down to $40/hour if you are seriously financially fucked.

In all, you probably spend as much to fill up your gas tank than you would to see a doctor about it.

 

That is not cheap either.

And if I see a therapist will I start to feel something during sex??

 

what i get lambasted for trying to help and offering valid suggestions on what may be the reason for her problem all because she isnt reading my posts correctly and i dont have the right to laugh it off?? spare me please, my posts were valid an she went off on me because she obviously didnt comprehend what i said..

leave the thread? not a problem,i did what i could to offer a possible explanation an this is what i get?
you people got more problems than not enjoyin sex IMO..

have a nice day ladies...

 

If you don't you won't.

Starting figuring out your priorities. If my sex life was trash because my head was mucked up (and therefore you'll never be in a good relationship for your entire life), I would sell that computer your on and use the money for that.

I find it hard to believe that if someone put a gun to your head and told you to figure it out you'd reply back in tears saying I CAN'T OMG. Just go do it and stop fronting like it's impossible.

 

So you're saying a man will never want me because of my problem?

I just need someone to talk to because I don't know anybody else going through this. Most of the women I know relatively enjoy sex unlike me. I know there arent' any guys who are breaking their back to commit or marry me. Most of them are only in it for the oral sex until they get bored. I know that already I don't need anyone rubbing it in my face

 

could it be the condoms that are making sex unpleasant for me?? should i try sex w/o one?? input please

 

of course you don't! i wasn't suggesting that you should. you were the one who said you were gonna put the whole thing on the back burner. all i'm saying is, you're not done maturing yet...physically or psychologically. things will still be changing. you can take a proactive attitude about it and go out and look for answers, or you can relax about it and see what develops. the choice is yours. *shrug*

i think it's kinda sad that you question whether anyone would want you in your 30's. wow... honey, if you have the right attitude, they'll want you in your 90's!

 

why do you ask? kinda sounds like you know they're bugging you. if you trust your partner enough to run the risk of std's, and if you have an effective alternative birth control method, go ahead and try sex without condoms and see if it makes a difference. someone asked earlier if you were using lube, and i didn't see an answer. if you're not, you probably should be considering the problems you're having. you can get petrochemical-free lube in health food stores and co-ops now, and online through sites like this:

http://www.yesyesyes.org/Natural_Lubricant1.htm?gclid=CKP9toaCi5ACFQU6awod8BEYtw

 

I think she's trying to get attention

 

so ms rasberry really doesnt want any suggestions or ideas on her issues with sex. it has been fairly evident from the start of the thread,,, any suggestion anyone has made , she has taken offense too... One person thats asked not to be taken the wrong way, was n with snideness, another suggested possible asexuality,,, that was damned and she took offense again,( as well as plastic bagism apparently), someone suggests a doctor or mental therapy,, she has an excuse, some one suggests something else,,, ,,,,, she doesnt want help, she doesnt want suggestions,, and she doesnt really want to do a damned thing about it since it would actually require her removing her ass that is plastered to a chair and attempting to do something of her own accordand helping herself..

i find it quite odd that people offering rather sound advice and suggestions were asked to leave the thread because its a sensitive issue for women... or that it offended the op.... so much so that she had to go n make a seperate thread on being offended after her sorry ass asked for ideas and suggestions.


once again,,,, asexuality... definition of

An asexual is someone who does not experience sexual attraction. Unlike celibacy, which people choose, asexuality is an intrinsic part of who we are. Asexuality does not make our lives any worse or any better, we just face a different set of challenges than most sexual people. There is considerable diversity among the asexual community, each asexual person experiences things like relationships, attraction, and arousal somewhat differently.

http://www.asexuality.org/home/index.php?option=com_content&task=section&id=6&Itemid=28

perhaps this time because it is a woman typing this instead of a man ms rtasberry will not be offended and perhaps look at one of the first suggestions made to her instead of spouting off at the mouth and saying that ppl are suggesting that she is lesbian... it has nothing to do with it!~!!

 

I am not asexual. I enjoy oral sex and other sexual activities with men. When I was in a relationship I used to often INITIATE. We used to do this several times a day and/or everytime we saw each other. I am rather offended that you suggest that I am asexual just because I do not enjoy sexual intercourse because if I were I would not care about this problem.

 

did ya even bother to look it up ,,, look further into it,,, obviously not or you would not be replying with what you just did,,,, readmore than what is typed here, obviously if you wanted to deal with your issues you yourself would be dealing with them and trying to figure your issues out rather than asking others to do it for you and then finding fault with everyone replying,,,,

 

Asexual ppl don't want to engage in any form of sexual activity. That is not me. I don't need to look that up. I am not interested in living an asexual lifestyle.