Sex offending - what the heck are people thinking?

Sorry, I’m coming across as sharp and prickly. Probably because I’m sharp and prickly when it comes to how little progress this society has made in dealing with the sexual abuse of children and adults.

Re: dynamics… briefly… I come from a family very different from yours. Predators recognise vulnerable children. They target them. As your mum knew it went on, she made sure that you were aware. Sounds like you were “‘connected”. My parents were both traumatised individuals who were also very old parents. Emotionally unavailable and disconnected. People of their type and of that generation didn’t speak of such things. They never thought it would happen to their children, even though similar traumas had happened to them in their lifetimes. Predators recognise easy pickings. I can’t type endlessly about other situations, but the recurring ingredient is that predators recognise and target vulnerable children/adults/family dynamics. It’s not the fault of my parents that stuff happened. They did their best under very difficult circumstances.

Regarding the endemic abuse of children… just go online and pretend to be a young girl on a platform where anyone can chat with you. Actually, don’t do that. You might get into real trouble. You could be perceived as a predator yourself. Every active child abuser will abuse around 150 children in their lifetime. Most predators are not detected. The sexualisation of children is going on right now in our societies. Certain paedo groups have been trying to lower the age of consent since atleast the 70’s. Playboy had children in sexual scenarios throughout the 70’s and 80’s. Some of the clothes designed for children are a paedo’s dream come true. Most women and some men I know were abused sexually as kids. I think the ration for girls is one in four. The ratio for boys is one in five. If that not endemic, I don’t know what is.

When Kennedy was assassinated, i lived in a small village in Sussex in the UK. We didn’t have a tv until the 70’s. I would have been very small though, so I can’t say I actually remember it happening.

 

Honestly I don't know how an adult can have in their constitution any desire to abuse young children. But then again I don't understand the mechanism of any form of mental illness, as abundant as it appears to be. It's unfortunate that you were on the receiving end of that. I had my share of traumas but wasn't subjected to that so I can only be empathetic. Here's hoping the situation is far less dire in current times.

I was in grade school at the time of the assassination. Yank grade school, hence my questionable dialect of English. They announced the news over the classroom intercom system, no doubt a vacuum tube system, and the shock motivated the early departure from school. I may not remember much detail from then but that part was pretty stark. We had a TV at home but I don't remember watching the coverage, although I'm sure we did.

I have family in Latin America, where the age of consent is 13. Abuse happens of course but the occurrence is mitigated by religion and by a strong ethic of vigilante justice. If you remember the Lorena Bobbitt incident, that's how male offenders are dealt with, typically. It's enough deterrent to dissuade all but the most severely mentally ill. And it really puts the kibosh on repeat offenses! Additionally, no burden to taxpayers.

 

Actually she was 19 at the time and it was her party. What were they thinking inviting a 14 year old male to the party in the first place? Maybe there should be legislation on who you can invite to a party.
1. For a family birthday party where the birthday is under 16, only relatives and their partners allowed.
2.For a friends birthday party where the birthday is less than 16 then only guests under 16 would be allowed and no alcohol.
3. For a 16th birthday friends party only a few 15 year old would be allowed. They would have to wear a large badge showing 15. No guests over 18 , no alcohol.
Such legislation might seem like Government intrusion into peoples' lives, but legislation is based on compromise and it would help prevent future cases like Shawna being branded for life when she is clearly not a menace to society.

 

My bad. Ok, so she was 19. Well she certainly deserved some form of punishment, and a requirement to attend some kind of re-habilitation, but I still think being registered as a sex-offender for life was inappropriate. Your 1,2,3 rules are good btw

 

That age of consent being 13 is awful. Awful for girls anyway. Girls that age, becoming pregnant, is a significant risk to their physical health. Any female giving birth has to have a birth canal capable of passing a child. A child of 13 is likely to tear in her bladder. Biological fact is important when deciding the age of consent for girls.

 

Oddly then in that society they seem to far fewer young teenage pregnancies than here in the states.

It's not a matter of consent because young adolescents are humping each other like rabbits.

 

More laws, a bigger more powerful judicial system, more and bigger jails... The cost to society in funding and demonizing the people...

Sounds like a secular approach to "solving the problem".

 

I blame religion

 

There's a lot to be said for being brought up well. Corny as it sounds, the old wisdom always proves to be the best wisdom.

 

To be brought up well doesn’t necessarily equate with being brought up with religion though does it?

 

Not necessarily. But you said you blame religion. For what? Fewer teenage pregnancies in religious countries? That's what it seemed like but please clarify and expound on your position.

 

Total crap !!! Catholic Ireland is a religious country and only recently in the 21st Century have they allowed women to seek abortions.

More recently (within the last few months) has the issue of abortion been won in Northern Ireland.

 

Subject change much?