I just don't know how to say these things to him without him freaking out, because he's already scared since I was with a woman for so long that he can't please me, but I know he can, he's just being a lazy asshole.
foreplay is a necessity for sex, I don't stop until she is begging me for it, and even then sometimes I tease her a bit more to make her want it so bad til she can't take it...however long it takes
worst case scenario: he gets mad and/or feels insecure if he gets mad, he's not really a keeper in my opinion. if he feels insecure, you can address that as it comes up and reassure him. talking about what you want and what feels good is SO worth it. why just go through the motions with someone? you deserve a partner who is open and willing to work at having amazing sex with you, and you deserve that kind of sex with them. i bet he would be happy once you guys get things goin right...
also.. some guys are saying "oh get a man" and whatever but not all dudes really feel confident about performing foreplay.. it might not be that he's selfish or immature, rather he just doesn't have a lot of experience with it, doesn't think it's necessary for you, and/or is afraid of doing a poor job at it.
Thanks! I am going to talk to him about it, I think. It's weird cause when we're fucked up and have sex he does spend a little bit more time doing foreplay, but whenever we're sober it's a lot less. Maybe he does feel insecure about it.
no prob chica sounds like he could be.. i bet all he needs is a lil guidance and reassurance and you'll both be on track! i don't know if this will help you but one time i basically taught this dude how to give me oral by licking him the way i wanted to be licked. he loved that. he said he didn't really have a lot of practice with it and he asked me directly for instruction after he could tell i wasn't really getting off. i was trying to give him a chance first haha so maybe that's a route you could go w/it? good luck
I think he might be coming here tomorrow so we shall see If not, I'll def see him sunday and get some actionnnn haha
So, I was going to talk to him last night, and I came home round 11 with my friend who's home from Chicago and is staying with me, and he "greated" me in the kitchen by saying "Oh.... here's the liar. You told me you cleaned out the fridge, definitely fucking lied to me, it's disgusting. I just cleaned it, you're welcome" I was mortified that he was talking to me like that, especially in front of my friend. And secondly, it's not even his fucking house, it's MY house, I can do or not do whatever the hell I want with my fridge. Thirdly, I didn't even say shit about cleaning out the fridge..but again, that's my choice. So basically, I was not able to have the sex talk with him. The only talk I had was my friend from ChiTown literally sitting me down and asking me if I felt safe in this relationship and if he is always that abusive. Nice.
he might be spending more time with foreplay when he's drunk because he can't get it up as easily i, on the other hand, think foreplay is half the fun. i <3 eating pussy
I read/heard somewhere black ppl don't like to go down there......you gals just need to find a white male giver.....not being racists but I believe it's statistically proven, but my source was Manswers so......
you should check out the anal section i post all up in that yes i prefer it...i had anal sex before i had vaginal sex, and to this day i could live without ever having vaginal sex, just doesn't do it for me um i am exclusive yes...dont remember the rest of the questions and i'd give it if my man would take it
