Should I cheat?

be very careful and discreet ... have a blast; other alternative (safe) masturbate with thoughts of the person

 

The others have said it. Cheating ain't the option. Can you imagine how she hurt she would be?

 

Frustrated is Frustrated. If you love her, talk to her. If you cannot talk to someone after that long together, then you need to make more than "should I cheat on her" decisions. Man, you still have 40+ years to go with this woman. If you cheat on her that just makes you a piece of shit. If you cheat, just leave. End the relationship (no matter how hard you think it might be) but she does not deserve that. On the other hand, is she cheating on you? I know I was married for 18 years and the sex dropped off for about a year!! Found out she was having an affair. Obviously I ended the marriage because of it. Good luck. I know how you feel and do not envy you at all..

 

NO! NEVER!

Cheating is complicates things. I would only consider another girl if your spouse knew about it and approved.

Sounds more like what the 2 of you need is professional help. Make an appointment with a psychologist for the 2 of you. If she won't go, go yourself and work on you.

 

Been there, done that. Got the T shirt...
multiple school age kids, the whole thing.
Ended up divorcing her. The best decision I ever made.
Much happier now than ever with her...

 

Loves it but she should've used his account lol

 

Just do what I do and think... What would Wilt Chamberlan do...

 

Tell your wife exactly how your feel and what you desire. Don't do things behind her back.

 

Welcome aboard!

Patient? Have you tried to be caring?

Well, maybe. If you don't show that you care by looking into this. Unless it's just so you can get "some" finally. Then it's greedy.

Maybe it's just the choice in words, but instead try talking with her. Something that could be causing this issue could be severely damaging, not only to you, but it could be much more than that. It can really mess her up medically and or psychologically. So I suggest that you do more than just talk to you. "With" really is better.

Maybe she'll be more responsive if you show her how much you care about her?

If you do that I hope your wife divorces you and takes everything you own, leaving you to live on the streets. Because if what you said here is true, I'm wondering how much you do care. Have you talked to her doctor about this? At least express your concerns about it to her doctor. And then sit down and discuss it WITH your wife.

 

Everyone follows their own pleasure (what they call "happiness"). Can you be different from the rest of the world?

 

My advice: divorce. You have already wasted all those years in your sexless marriage, so why punish yourself further? After divorce you will be guilt-free because the next girl you fuck will not be a matter of "cheating," as you say.

 

i think if u still take care of her and the kids and all and u are just going with this other person for sex then yeah cheat

 

I think everyone else has said all there us to be said. I have one piece of advice:
If she's rolling over and going to sleep when you try to bring up the situation.. You are talking in the wrong place!
As others have said already, schedule some time together. A small holiday, even a day or half a day alone, to have the talk. She needs to understand the importance of the situation in a way that she can't just roll over and ignore it.

 

so, how was the cheating? if you can remember, now that it's been so long.

 

Agree, putting up with it only leads to a deep down feelings of hurt and anger on your part. You only get one chance at life and we should not have to pay everyday just because we enjoy something our partners do not anymore or really never have.

 

I say do it. If it satisfies you and means you can relax and contribute in a more healthy way to the relationship then I agree. Just you have to be so very discreet and make sure she never ever finds out, that would just be unnecessary hurt. I believe it would probably make you a better husband, and you never know if you are backing off she might come around.

Otherwise you probably should leave because it seems like a loveless marriage and that's the ore important thing here.

 

I am pleasantly surprised by this post; I almost skipped reading it.

Yes! In the end, I still have the feeling that cheating saves just as many marriages as it destroys.

 

cheating present participle of cheat (Verb)
Verb:
Act dishonestly or unfairly in order to gain an advantage, esp. in a game or examination: "she cheats at cards".
Deceive or trick.


Synonyms: deceive, defraud, shaft, victimize, betray, mislead, delude, trick, scam, fake, lie etc.


Should you do this to someone you love? No.
Should you do this to someone? No.

 

if i only sex . SEX SEX SEX . AND NO EMOTIONAL SHIT THINGS . then do it .