should never have gotten my hopes up

I'm with ya man I don't get it either, haha. I just got fed up when I had been trying so hard to get with this girl and had done a lot of shit I had never done before for a girl, and after all that she still wouldn't even sit next to me on the fucking couch. Point is, once I stopped caring and trying so hard, I literally had a couple girls to choose from .

 

Never.. EVER.. give your hopes up

I think Ari has it right to a point.. there is a point in life where you finally go.. "i'd rather be single",, but not everyone is like that.. i have met a lot of people who need a relationship at all times.. silly co-dependents... me.. i like the single life.. no drama what so ever.. can fuck and not have to carry the baggage that goes with sex

 

yup fine line between trying too hard and being a gentleman :cheers2:

 

See your problem was you were too soft and sensitive with her. You need to act like a dick and be cocky, because no matter what chicks say otherwise they really go for being treated like shit. Keep in mind tho i said act like a dick to attract them once they are interested then you can be the nice gentleman and that shows them your a great guy. My only advice now would be to confront her about how she ignored you and tell her to go up and say shit flat out, even tho it may hurt you got to stick up for yourself.

 

Whoa wow, you don't have to be a dick, I think ur mistaking not sounding desperate for being an asshole, two different things.

 

Looove this version too!

 

ok, i didn't read the whole thread, but this is what i gather...

you made yourself too available too soon...

first a relationship wont survive endless compliments unless you're willing to back them up with SURPRISE-passionate make-outs. second, you were too nice and perfect all the time. here's an analogy... you can be a cute fluffy puppy that folows her around and she can pet it whenever she wants and it will always be there no matter what crappy shit she does cuz its a stupid dog fluffy puppy. or you can be less fluffy, slightly scruffy, limping mutt with a dark past. you're mysterious and some of her actions offend you so you bite at her a bit, but if she plays her cards right she can get close enough to pet you for a second and you'll make that second worth it to her by making her work a bit to get there.

that was probably a shitty analogy. but just don't be a pussy, and definitely don't be her toy.

 

^^ I thought it was pretty good

 

if you're into the insecure, desperate, codependent type, i agree with your advice. if you act like a dick you will be attracting one type of woman.

 

^ not really true.

it does pay off to be somewhat of an asshole. but you cant keep up with the asshole act for too long, otherwise you ARE an asshole.

bein a dick makes her notice you, being big headed makes her interested (why are you so cocky?) and then you be a nice guy and she likes it

not all girls are the same, obviously, but in varying degrees these three will give you success

 

I've never had to be an asshole to get a girls attention that I wanted

 

you dont have to...most of the time though, jokin around and poking fun can really open a situation up

 

I didn't realize jokin and poking fun was part of being an asshole

 

yeah... no... i don't know a single chick who digs anything like that

 

:cheers2:

 

Again with the whole being a dick thing i mean not in a mean hurtful way, but in a flirty way. You can't marinade them in compliments thats putting the pussy on a pedestal ha ha. That just makes the chick look down on you and think man this guy worships me i bet i can take a dump on his heart and he wont do shit about it. So if you treat the chick like a person and not a goddess she will do the same for you. The best advice I got from experience is when you want to ask a chick out you say flat out Do you want to go on a DATE. That implies a relationship intention, not lets go to a movie which could be a friend thing.

 

it is!.. *kicks you in the nuts* *laughs* *runs*

 

fuck being a dick.. i can do that anytime... when i want pussy.. im a charmer.. not a dick..

 

i guess its just my charm that kills em then