Side piece issue: No oral sex?

Obviously you don’t go to a nice restaurant. There could be more menu options but you only get a couple of them. If you want everything, you can do so by going with the right person who will give you everything even if you don’t choose all those options every single time. But knowing you have more options available with one person should be a good incentive to leave.

I had a FWB I was absolutely crazy about years ago, all I could think of was to make her cum all I could, she wanted to give me oral and play with my cock. The sex was amazing. But oddly enough she wouldn’t receive oral and I felt short changed plus she was on the intense side of personality. So I ended it, I hated that it hurt her but if we kept seeing each other things would have ended in a worse way. The writing was on my wall and I chose to read it

 

Knowing those menu options are there are one thing. Being able to order them is different. But not knowing those options are there is the piece that's missing. I'm sure the live in bf is getting that option but according to her he's not licking her right. I guess that makes me her Dairy Queen. She comes to me when she needs the little bit of desert. Maybe I need to be happy not getting it from her and getting it from my other side piece. I was just hoping to not have to keep getting it from so many different "restaurants".

Let me get this straight, you had a girl who enjoyed pleasuring you orally but she didn't want to receive oral from you? That's a first for me. Typically the "intense" ones are the best ones.

 

Yes she didn’t want oral on her, she felt it was a degrading thing to do.
As for checking other women and give yourself a chance to find better, I encourage you to try.
I mean it with saying there are better choices as I know you can find it.

Really, but I could be wrong but I don’t think so, you seem to settle for less because you are used to it but reluctant to seek better. Selling yourself short. I had someone like that a few years ago, after a few times together I ended it when I realized things were not going to improve between us. It was a good decision.
I wrote about it in another thread on this forum.

Intense didn’t relate to sex with my fwb, but a personality that would have affected the relationship with her, it would become tiring to live with.