yeah this place has changed a lot lately. it's hard to find people who'll be up for an interesting debate. I do admit to posting random stupidity lots of times but this forum is a way for me to express my ideas, i'm sure for the rest is the same but lately its all moslty about mindless ramdomness with no purpose whatsoever. Its not even amusing most of the time. oh well, a break would be nice as i seem to be spending lots of time online instead of doing my readings.
No, that would be no problem and I hope it would not be a problem that I have been married and divorced three time and been sexually active since I was 14. I have slept with many Women and wonder why it's different for chicks? My own feeling is if my partner was with many Men (could have been women too) is if she is with me after all those people and I rock her Soul. I know she really wants to be with me. Also-Bringing experience to the bed is kool too. It's really all about the chemistry between the two lovers anyway. In my current relationship it work's for both of us because we can pretty much tell eachother Anything and can be who we really are with out the other person Judging the other.
exactly! my thoughts are if she has lots of experience, and lots of folks to compare you to, and you end up in a good, long term relationship with her, then she's got to see something in you that wasn't there with the other fellas, and she isn't gonna be complaining about the sex, i'm sure! my ex, yeah, shed had plenty of one night stands and casual encounters with people that didn't involve a loving, caring relationship. but we were fucking head over heels for each other, and i became (at the time) the longest running and most committed relationship she had ever been in. that made me feel way luckier than if i had been with a completely goody goody girl who'd never known anyone else and had nothing to judge my by....hell yeah, come to think of it, i may even PREFER more experienced girls. not only will they likely be better in bed, you KNOW where you stand with them, they're more likely to be upfront and honest with you about your performance and how you can improve (always a good thing as long as it isn't BRUTAL honesty!!), and they're far more likely to feel enough at ease with you that they will actually communicate what THEY want to you. few girls really open up about how THEY want to be treated in bed, what to do to get THEM off....a more promiscuous or experienced girl knows what she likes, knows whats shes after, and is more likely to let me know what tickles her fancy!
maybe that quote is true to a degree, but i think that people have to be attracted to each other initally to come to love each other. it's true my beloved was not my personal ideal when we first met, but MAN! did i ever wanna strip him naked and fuck his brains out. so there was something there that perhaps i had conditioned myself not to see. but i never woulda given it a chance ha di not been attracted on some level.
The guy I was most recently with was 19(just turned) and had had 30 sex partners. I thought he was a slut and also reminded him of that everyday. There is such thing as self control. One of my friends had sex with 3 guys over the past 2 years, none of which she was dating, and she's this huge slut to everyone. But I guess it's the age old double standard between guys and girls. I guess it all depends on numbers and circumstances.
That's how I'd put it, too. I don't want anything to do with a slut, but experience has nothing to do with it. As far as I'm concerned, a person could be a virgin and still be a slut, if they are actively using their sexuality, being a complete tease, to get what they want. Have you ever seen Chasing Amy? It's a damn good movie, especially for those of you who are still so immature and insecure as to worry about how many partners your current partner had before s/he even knew your name.
racist/sexist/whatever jokes are definitely a-ok by me, its racist/sexist/whatever PEOPLE that i dont like. still not exactly offended by them, but they do annoy me and i dont want to waste my time with it. there are a number of people here who say things i dont agree with that piss me off a little, when its by no means apparent that its a joke on any level. thats not even too common and doesnt bother me so much as the sheer stupidity of many of the people here.
