So I realized today

my mom raised me to gather guests stuff up and take it to the kitchen lest they should trouble themselves over it.

 

unless you are throwing them, and one of you is going to end up laughing about the ceramic shards in your ass.

 

yeah, i was raised differently and going on the second day i said something and expected it to change. there are a lot of other things i am upset about, but it was wrong to air any of it out on a public forum, so i am not going to go into it any more.
basically i feel like my feelings were not taken into consideration and that everything was expected out of me, but nothing out of him, except being here, which i know was an inconvience for him. But, on the same token i also moved things around to make it happen.

 

my husband is really awesome and every guy i have been with cleans up after themselves and further more always asks if i need help with things. so, i guess i was just kinda shocked, but i should have resolved it with Chris, not here. For that I apologize.

 

just because I didn't log in myslef, I want to make it clear that Andy doesn't really feel the same way I do about this.

 

I throw dishes and shoot at them with my laser gun that blows things up.. I would use it on people, but I haven't perfected it yet...


I understand people get bothered by some things, people are different.. But I really wouldn't care if someone didn't offer to help clean up a mess when they are a guest at my house.. Though, I don't have too many guests, hmm, maybe I should look into why I don't...

Lets hold hands guys, and get through this together!

 

there were a lot of other issues.

 

sorry, i had to run off before i finished what i was meaning to say. anyway, what some people would consider rude behavior could very well just be a difference in upbringing. old habits are hard to break unless you're following an example. in my home, a guest was not allowed to lift a finger to help, ever. to this day it makes me excruciatingly uncomfortable. when i met dave's family, they acted like i was being the biggest bitch in the world because i wouldn't help out. after all, in my family, it just isn't done. the guest enjoys some drinks and hors d'oeuvres and chats while the host (our family) would set about the business of preparing everything. when a guest would insist upon helping, it embarassed us and made us uncomfortable. that's what i knew of entertaining.

but dave's family is totally different. they'd lightly mock me for not doing my share of the work. it was hurtful and a huge paradigm shift for me. to this day i'm still not comfortable entertaining that way, and i will probably raise my girls entertain the same way i do in their own homes. however, when out and about, i've learned to lend a hand wherever i can in case they're the sort who expect it. i don't mind helping at all, but it does still give me a wierd feeling, to be completely honest. it's just different.

 

:cheers2:

sometimes people rub each other the wrong way. that's why you marry one and are just friends with others. but never forget that old saying "fish and guests smell after three days." i'm a firm believer.

 

Thats just the way redneck white trash likes to roll.

 

lol.

 

i will, however, let people grab their own damned beer.

 

i think ia m going to put myself on a time-out from here. I don't know for how long.. i just have a garge full of unfinished furniture, dogs that need to be walked more often, an overweight body that needs to go to the gym, some anger management issues i need to address, huge control issues and a bad case of being a perfectionist with too high of expectations from myself and others that i need to work on.
i allow people to make me angry too much on here and before it was okay because it was just the internet, but it seems when i meet people from here in person and they do not align with my values i get too pissed off, it's not healthy. This isn't the first time it has happened.
hopefully when i come back i will have a healthier mind, body, outlook and all of my furniture will be done lol.
once again, i am sorry for dragging this all out in public, Chris you are a good person, you are just very young for your age and have a good mom who takes very good care of you. i am sorry if i insulted you.
i love ya'll. i am not doing this for dramatics. i just need to get control over me, instead of trying to get control over everyone else.
HUGS,
Lynsey

 

I wish they had boot camps for men where they get trained to become good husbands Tim is so oblivious to the mess he makes around the house, he leaves dirty socks lying around, dirty dishes, bills, everything.. Ok, fair enough, he always cleans up after himself but only AFTER I've had to nag at him to do so. There is no way I'm gonna pick up after him when he's totally capable of doing so himself. Argh..

His ex-girlfriend completely ruined him in that sense.. Bitch

 

take up boxing and finish your furniture manually. break some.