So my mom said...

I don't have dreads but my hair is uncomfortable unless its dirty so I get bitched at a lot. I say fuck what they say, do whatever you want with your hair!

 

Ha. I'm very disappointed in you. I expected some hardcore ranting. Oh well

Yeah, I would do what I want with my hair. Except last time, they held me down and cut it :/

 

pushit your signature messes with my head

 

Lol I get that a lot, its supposed to mess with peps who are high.

 

to the OP...as a parent myself I understand that my job as a mother is to be a guide and teacher for my daughter on her path to self discovery....its sad to me that some parents dont understand that. Anywho, do your best to show them. Show them how happy dreads make you and why your a better person because of them. From other posts Ive read of yours you seem like a good kid, as long as your staying clear of trouble and lighting up the room with your smile and inner and outer beauty, eventually your parents will let up. Depending on who they are and where theyve come from it might take them awhile to understand....but seeing you happy and defying negative stereotypes of dreadheads through your actions should help them on their path to letting go and accepting. AS you grow you will realize that your parents are just people and you have no obligation to please them. Be who you are and dont apologize...but be nice about it because kindness goes way farther than spite and hatred. Remember though above all else, that your parents love you. They love you more than anything...theyre just different from you and well...your different from them. Their is always strength in differences. Focus on the positive.

 

Good lord Mandy, you sound like both an amazing person, and an [especially] amazing mother

 

mandy, you fucking rock.

 

And in unison, the people shouted out:

Amen!!!

 

On a slightly off topic note, I wanted to comment on controlling parents. It doesn't necessarily stop when you turn 18, especially if you're not able to simply leave. Being 18 doesn't automatically mean you can support yourself. Maybe they don't ground you anymore, or physically punish you anymore, but they still have some sense of power. What are you going to do, call the cops and make the law enforce your right to make your own decisions? My dad gave me an 11 0'clock curfew when I was almost 19, my sister's curfew was 12. I'd stay out late anyway, but he'd yell and try to flaunt his authority, threaten me with things like taking away my piano lessons, or not letting me drive. Later he'd threaten to take away my car, even though that would mean I'd have no transportation to work and end up losing my job. Sometimes it's alot to fight with someone 24/7. That's how they win. But thankfully, my dad has lightened up almost 100%, a day I thought I'd never see. Just keep in mind that being an adult doesn't mean you can't have parent issues, especially if they're vindictive and will stop at nothing to have control, even if it means hitting below the belt.

 

Yeah. That's what I'm terrified is going to happen. I think I'm just going to be like, "Well mom, well dad; I'm going to head out. I'll be back sooner or later. And I'll keep in touch. Thanks for everything. Love you and goodbye"

 

I'm in the situation of my mom begging me to stay at home we're cool she just is in the mind set that I have no clue about how to run my life. She is constantly asking me if I've drained my bank account and maxed out my credit card. I really think though its love. Thats really why any parent does anything. It still has a lot to do with how they were raised. A lot of parents though do try to be to strict to protect their kids from the world.

 

my mums loves me and so she has to love my dreads. no question

 

aww thanks guys.
Dreadedsunflower...it sounds like your mom is just afraid of loosing you...her precious baby girl!

 

Haha I love it when my boards explode.

Anyway, I believe it's mainly because they're new, and I refused to use hair products to make them look 'nicer', so my parents are quick to judge.
Know what I mean?

 

Oh hello! Forgot it was even you who started this thread lol

 

my mother was extremely controlling to the point where i had to leave. she never even let me go out. if she did, it was only on the weekends and i had to be home well before midnight. i lived for the 2 nights a week i spent at my dads. i was so sheltered i began to lose it, and ended up getting arrested. of course, after that, i wasn't allowed to do anything, ever. my junior prom night i packed up some clothes and ran away. lived with my boyfriend for my last year of high school and ever since. it took FOREVER, but she has finally accepted that i am a unique being and not a reflection of herself she can mold to her tastes. i finally convinced her that letting me peacefully embark on my quest for self discovery and happiness would make both of our lives a hell of a lot easier and less worrisome. my grandparents are wealthy and pretentious and still see me as a crazy heathen, and it saddens me sometimes that they are so narrow minded, but they leave me alone and don't try to run my life anymore. all i'm saying is, yes, you may go through shit at first, but in the long run, you will thank yourself for manning up and seizing your independence. just remember to always be kind to your parents, even if it's hard, and show them that you are being true to your soul.

 

Yeah. I think you guys are right.

Well, I was vegetarian for 3 months. And they're like, "We're done with this. You're grounded from EVERYTHING until you quit and then for a month afterwards".

Like, I couldn't leave the house. Couldn't play guitar. Couldn't play piano. Couldn't watch T.V. Couldn't read. Couldn't use the computer. (And this was at the time my girlfriend broke up with me, which made it extra fun).

 

Grounded for being vegetarian?! *wtf face*

 

they should of been happy you were being healthy, but most people don't understand vegetarians