So my mom said...

Well I wasn't the OP but couldn't help but respond to that one.
If you want a list of female guitar players that just have "nasty" hair...then that could be endless and completely subjective.

 

Thanks man. I feel the love. So you're telling me that you should let change who you are and make you what they want?

Yeah. I know that they love me, and I love them back. I'm not disagreeing with any of that. Sorry if that's what it sounds like, cause that's not the case. I promise.

That is definitely not a very well thought-out post. Your hair doesn't have an affect upon how well you can play the guitar. And you definitely don't know Callie4Strings, so calling her an ungrateful, spoiled twerp probably isn't a very smart route.

Think before you speak man.

 

i'm really sorry. my parents really dont care about my hair and my mom even admitted (although it took some coaxing) that she likes it

 

"My mom even admitted (although it took some coaxing) that she likes it"

 

Thanks Seth...I dont believe they were calling me that but the original OP. Im far past the age of being anyone's spoiled kid I just got hot about the guitar god bit...like women dont have it hard enough in the music world. Not everyone wants to be Brittany freakin' Spears. I am not a guitar god...I am a bass goddess!!!

 

Music's music, and if you love what you're do, you're as close to God status as you'll ever be.

I've never played bass. I really want to some time though.

Yeah. It's pretty ridiculous that there's so much discrimination in the music world against women. I definitely give you all some credit

 

If compromise changes who you are you have more problems than just your difficulties with your parents.


And one poster had a point...her mom said her hair was dirty. There is a difference between dirty hair and locked hair.

 

Why do some people feel a need to be complete assholes on here? I dont get it. Is your life so mundane and lame and are you so much of a pansy that you feel you need to come on here to vent your misplaced anger or to stir things up? Get a life and get a clue.

 

Wait. Is this directed at me?

 

Dictionary.com defines compromise as:

Compromise: a settlement of differences by mutual concessions; an agreement reached by adjustment of conflicting or opposing claims, principles, etc., by reciprocal modification of demands.

Now you wouldn't say that you have to change to meet the requests of someone else?

 

When people feed off of who you are, want you to change in order to please them. Yes it does change you. It eats you from the inside out..little by little. Then one day...your ass is 35 and wondering who the hell you are and what happened to that person you were. Yeppers!!!!!


I think her mom threw her in the ever so lovely sterotype of locks=unclean
This is what I took from it anyway.

 

Yeah. That's most likely it.

Moral of the story, don't let people change who you are. And this means, compromising to be someone that they want is changing yourself. So it's a no-no.

 

No. Because you meet them halfway. That doesn't mean you don't value the same things you've always valued. I've always be a nature-centered, fun loving free-spirited individual. I knew forever ago that I wasn't Christian but since I was living in my parents' home I still went every Sunday. It didn't change the fact that I was Pagan but it did allow me to observe another religion and make some connections with really great people. And best of all it kept the peace in my home. I have a great relationship with my mom and I can say I'm better sure she'd do anything for me. What I do now that I've moved out is my own business but I respected the fact I was living under her roof.

You have to think about the situation positively. Don't be in such a rush to be an individual and "be cool" that you grow up without any common sense.

 

And meet the orriginal poster who lost interest three pages in.
XD

 

I was forced to go to church too, but I stopped when I was 15. I knew I wanted something different for a year before I did it, I just didn't have the guts because I knew all hell would break loose. And it did, but I'm so glad I did it. I think it's hypocritical to go through the motions. My parents got over it and it was worth the fight. I wouldn't have considered it compromise to continue going, I'd have considered it submission. Not to mention I feel like I was brain-washed and I've never felt more mentally healthy than when I broke free. Sometimes parents are wrong, and we don't owe it to them to succumb to something we feel is wrong. I am a person too with my own mind and a parent should never teach you to go along with something you feel is wrong.

 

Yeah. I can see what you mean. I'm not trying to say that you should give your parents hell, just because you want to be different then what they want. I'm just saying that you need to let them know that you are different, and you think it's fair for them to allow you to be an individual and make your own choices. I also go to church, and yes, it's a great opportunity to observe Christianity. What I'm trying to say is that yes, you do owe it to your parents to respect their wishes, but at the same time, they owe it to you to respect yours.

I'm really sorry. I probably should just carry this over to a separate thread. But that's probably a lost cause :/ I'm sorry

Amen. 'Nuff said?

 

Thank you

 

I see where you're coming from. My mother knew I wasn't a Christian but as long as I went to church she was fine.

 

Yeah

So are we kinda on the same page now?

I always hate leaving things in arguments, when the people don't know the others stance on the position.

 

compromising and going to church when you are a pagan is one thing. perhaps not dreading your hair while you are still under your parents' roof falls into the same category. but Seth MacLaren not being allowed to be a vegetarian? THAT is fucked up. if my mother had told me i couldn't be a vegetarian, what would i do? meat makes me ill. compromise is great when it works, but some parents don't want to compromise, because they don't consider that their own children are individual human beings with unique needs. it's stifling and inhuman.