well it makes me feel very sad for people who think they are horrible or think so negatively about themselves that it interferes with their life and health when there is nothing wrong with them, i have worked in the past with people who have the mentality of an infant, and just lay in bed all day starring at walls because they can't communicate and their limbs and bodies are twisted and deformed. when i look at people like this, and then at people who hate themselves, or people with eating disorders and other things like that, i wonder how can these people think their lives are so bad? there are so many people with worse problems than them. it's easy to think this way, if you don't understand how it is. i know it has to do with mentality and factors in the person's past, but i wish they could snap out of it and see that indeed they are beautiful. i know it's more work than that loving yourself and being happy with yourself, it's the fou8ndation of higher spiritual being
i live 40 minutes outside of sac hi. you guys- maybe he has the same issues bubbling in his head as oshin but expresses them differently, and as the way she reacts to her pains is not her fualt- she just needs some guidance or what not- the same to him. some people attain the feeling of control in their life by vomiting after they eat, some by "bashing" people, some by abusing animals, some by working 18 hours a day everyday. all these things are unhealthy, it's just that some have a more negative connotation associated. that doesn't mean that one person deserves more attention or compassion then the other.
-or that one should be praised and loved and worried about because of their behavior, while the other is repremanded
Dude, it's okay to not want dreadlocks. You shouldn't feel the need to apologize to any of us, and I'm SURE you're not letting anyone down. Perhaps your letting yourself down by not being emotionally able enough, at this point in your life, to make such a drastic change to your appearance. That's okay and completely understandable, so don't apologize. I will agree with whoever said it's a bad idea to drink and type, however. Ever heard of drunk-dialing? The same thing can happen online, and then you can wake up embarrassed as hell at what your drunken self posted in the middle of the night. Good luck, I hope you're able to start your journey when YOU are ready. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for not being able to start/finish, and ignore the pointless bickering in this thread. It's nothing personal, but it has been quite stressful around here the past few days. Chin up, man. Life is beautiful.
sue wow you just blew me away and your totaly right i do think much of these bashers are totsaly dealling with the same self hatresd and im so impressed with youyr understanding..i guess it just hits a sore spot with me..over and iver i see ppl who have issues and they are struggling to work pout there shit only to have bashers come along and make everything worse.. the bashers therapy isto bash every1 downto a level below them whyle others are struggling to dig out of a hole reaching and graspoing for anything to hold oin..th basher comes along and speps on theyre fingers till they fall deeper and deeper still just so the basher can look down and think yea..im better then that at least but idf every1 in the world continues goiung deeper and deeper into misery wont the world kinda sick for us all? maynbe the biggest bully of em all can feel a tiny bit less misery but wouldnt it be better if we all lifted eachother higher? rweached for the stars togryher and tried making all loves alittle brighter?? hmmm all i was trying to say was..sie..u just impresed me..get ready to be hugged till u cant breathe
good point sue. i just get really defensive sometimes, especially when it comes to things like this where people actually ask for help. we all know it's sometimes hard to open up. i've done just that with family and friends and only occasionally get more than blanks stares, because they don't know what i'm going through. but anyway, I hope things work out for oshinn. you seem like a decent person, and deserve to be happy like the rest of us. Oh yeah, sue: whereabouts are ya? 40 minutes isn't far.
This has gotten a bit out of hand....I know I'll never understand why people intentionally have to be assholes regardless of the internet, but when people intentionally act negatively towards another person on a forum it really makes no sense. (Why?) There's never a good reason, hell there's never a good reason off these board. I'm not gonna defend or attack anyone, I'm just gonna call this as I see it, because it appears as though not just one person (you guys probably know who I'm referring to) has acted wrongly towards another. First of all, I noticed dajaga's first post was deleted, in which he said, right off the bat. I gathered that he was being a bit sarcastic (very hard to tell with written words), but either way it comes across as negative and therefore obviously would be interpreted as such. Naturally the comment about how he sorta throws away any chance at it being sarcasm. Bolantej, at first you were kind in pointing out to him why it could be interpreted as negative, then you went into an "attack mode" if you will that was just as bad as his in the first place. Assuming to know ones situation (the internet porn and why he bashes people etc...) usually will only incite a pointless argument, just as it did. Especially the God comments, I mean seriously bro, , then you go on to say, . This could be a conversation in its own right, so I'll just briefly sum up why I found that to be pretty ironic. First of all apparently God knows all, so knowing that, if indeed he does then he would know who natural selection would benefit and who it would not, taking the randomness and "natural" out of it, because now it is basically planned out. A bit off topic: Proving or disproving a God or multiple Gods exist is a mute point (You're absolutely right Seth) . However that's where the term reality comes in to play. Reality is simply what is most probable according to our limited knowledge (much of which is proven to be false or "off" later on). So, the most probably situation here on earth is that there is no "God", "Gods" etc..however there's still a possibility there is/are (I would like to think so...but I'm a realist, so I generally accept what is most "probable") Dude...again? You continually prove why religion can be used very negatively. (There's both the good and the bad in just about all) You won't call him a moron, but you'll say that you hope God has mercy on his parents???? For bringing him into this world nonetheless. Who he is, is up to him, regardless of whether or not they know what they are responsible for bringing in to this world, ultimately he is who he is, not who is parents are. (Granted in many/most cases children turn out somewhat similar to their parents, but that just fits in to their "surroundings") That was an extremely ignorant statement my friend. I'm not trying to "attack" you, just pointing out the obvious. Hempmama, Jah bless..... Nympfsue, Jah bless you as well, what you said was very insightful and in a way enlightening (even having been exposed to what you talk about....only a "street version" though). So, yea....basically summed up what I gathered from what people have said...no sense in getting "defensive" after this is posted, because I'm not on the "offensive". Can't we all just get along and stop being so cruel to each other (everywhere). My brothers and my sisters remember......One Love (Let's actually live it)
your 19 and so much more mature and rational then some certain 48 year olds on here ppl like u restore my faith in humamity
Wow everybody...its amazing to me the harsh things that some people say on here...I thought this was a peace loving site? Strange....anywhooo...Oshinn remember that your life is all your own...your here for the first time and well...here for the last time as well. I know we all have hangups that started from back in our childhood and that sometimes have the snowball effect into adulthood....and your obviously dealing with some of those....and thats okay. It just means your human. If your not ready to dread than by all means dont. Find what makes you happy and pursue it. Life is all about having the courage to pursue what makes you happy. Perhaps your just not ready yet...maybe a year from now you'll feel more comfortable to dread...maybe not...whatever...its really not that big of a deal. Whats more important is finding who you are and what makes you happy. I find myself battling body image issues all the time and have to stop myself and shift gears mentally to stay true to me. Its hard this day and age when we have anorexic models telling us what is beautiful. Before I had my daughter I was super skinny....I weighed 130 and am 5'11! I wore a size 5-6 and thought I was hot stuff! Haha. Now, Im a size 12 which is a healthy weight for my height but I cant help but to feel like such a fatass sometimes because I compare myself to all the Hollywood starlets that are forced fed down our throats! My point is.....fuck it. Your friggin gorgeous...im sure of it...and you'll be even more gorgeous once you realize that yourself...dreads or no dreads!
guys, it's nuts that this went crazy like it did, but i appreciate all your replies. and dajaga, i get why you said what you said. i turn in to a wonderfully maudlin crapper when i get sauced, which doesn't make it any less sincere, it just makes it more difficult for other people to take it seriously. as a sidenote, sorry you don't dig the forum, bro, but nobody's chaining you here. as for everyone else... this is a decision that's very important to me, as you know. and i've decided not to start locks for now. it's much deeper than that, of course, as SE said. i've had an eating disorder for quite sometime that with the help of my loverman i am trying like hell to "get over", as much as it can be gotten over. so the entire image thing is wrapped up in a lot- while locks would force me to take this on fully i don't prefer to right now. but hey, i'm still hanging out, and once i move in a week and a half i'm going to start putting more hats up for sale. peace and apples, guys.
oshin..if your lovermans ok with it..id like to help as well ive helped many before most fairly successfully but not all, but i think youve chosen to try so that right theres a big bit of ther battle won itsip to u both, if youd like i'd be happy to dedicate all my time and energy to doing whsaever i can.. the biggestthing u really need is..just simply hope... if u got hope..u know iu can get there.. lets talk
