Straight men can be so dense.

Amen to that. and they are about as original as "where do you get your protien" for veg*ns.:toetap05:

 

well, he went there last night. It wasn't a direct request, more a "could we invite someone?"
Not sure I'd want to go there myself. I'm not good at sharing at once.
And now that I'm well out of my 20s, I don't know how to find someone aside from an advert. And that is distasteful to me.
I haven't dated a woman since the 90s (was married for 14 years- didn't "play"). I have been thinking about it a lot recently (I'm 70-30 male oriented), for me.
But my lovely, typical straight male has opened a can o' worms.
Could I share? Could I be in a triad? Do I want to even know?

 

Stacy, I'm far from mad. Weary of the typical response, perhaps, but we're at the "Ok, what's with this person?" part of "dating."
He was seriously asking why I was bi. I asked why he was straight.
He accepted that answer, knowing I'll continue to think out a coherent verbal response.
It was sort of a trailing off comment, asking about inviting someone to play. That's usually a bit more than half serious with him. Not quite a request.
I've been watching him flirt for years, and I read him pretty well, but I've learned to be patient for my answers.

I think some of the guys have made valid points about why two women could be a fantasy.
And I don't see it as "sluttish" but I don't think in terms of calling women sluts, so that might be why.
I can see the scenario in general (not commenting on my situation here) being manipulative, a non consensual power play, cruel-- or loving, easygoing, beautiful and fun.
I know of triads that work. But not long term, and he was only asking for one experience.
I think I'll suggest going out to the lesbian clubs and see how he reacts.