Strip Clubs...

Strip clubs are a waste of money.With the time I would spend at a strip club I could get pussy somewhere else and not pay to see a girl.

 

I have to say that me and my man enjoy it because we are young. I don't feel like i'm missing out on anything, but there's just an appeal to see sexuality other than our own.

Our relationship has become stronger since we decided to go to a strip club once and a while and rent porn. Nothing nasty. There's this one club we go to that has naked women dancing beautifully where no men can grab them or shove money in some hole. It's not really a strip club because they don't come out with anything on to begin with. It's not nasty or slutty. It's almost like art in my eyes. And for some reason seeing how my man reacts to other women there has really made me respect him more and I am more confidant that he is true to me.

 

Let me be the first to congratulate you...*L*

 

Good thing I know my husband better than you do

And to clear things up, my husband thinks the clubs are gross and sleazy, not the strippers. He doesn't know any strippers, so he can't say much about them. He feels bad for the women more than anything.

I have known strippers in my time, and they were all nice girls. Some were a little too out of it (from a lot of drugs), some were abused as children and now relentlessly persuing that kind of attention from men, and some were unemployed single mothers trying to make a living. Some were all of the above. All of them were nice enough to me.

 

"Seriously, not all, but most guys who tell their women shit like that are KISSING ASS! They tell you what they think you want to hear, so you won't rag on them about the time they did go, and never suspect them of going again."

OK well, my husband hasn't gone or even acted like he wanted to since we've been serious (before we were married) and yes he's been asked. Sure it's a bit of compromise, when my girfriend(s) asks me to go out clubbing to get guys to buy us drinks all night (cause that's what a lot of women REALLY want to do freakwentflyer, I bet you'd get pissed if your wife wanted to do that instead of read a harmless book or watch a harmless celebrity but you still think it's ok to go to strip clubs huh?) I choose to stay at home with my husband. Here's the thing, strip clubs have real people in them whereas books and movies don't really. You don't have to be worried about a girl leaving you for a celebrity most likely but it's entirely possible that a man might leave you for a slutty stripper. And before you say he's probably going when he says he's going out to somewhere else, let me just tell you that he doesn't even have a license and we usually go everywhere together.


"You say you're a happily married woman. But, my guess is you won't be for long. Men who deny their instincts become limp dicks by the time they're in their mid 30's. And I'm not saying he should cheat on you or you on him, or start swinging or anything like that, I just mean in your minds, stop being such insecure prudes."

How judgemental....I agree with hippychickmomma on this, try not to imagine that ALL men are as piggish as you. I'm sorry if that bothers you to be called a pig but you are the one who said she's not going to be happily married for long because her husband doesn't go stare at naked chicks. Not all men have to go to strip clubs, give me a godamn break, the animal in us wants sex, most husbands should be able to get that from their wife. If that was true I guess I should start going out to get free drinks from guys who want me like I did when I was single, that should help my marriage huh? Funny thing is I would rather be with my husband, and he would rather be with me...that's why we got married. Whether you can fathom that or not. I feel bad for anyone who has to go to a strip club for fulfillment. I guess I am just lucky


Now let me clarify again, cause God knows people get defensive over strip clubs, I don't care who wants to go, by themselves or with their spouse or with their dog...I don't give a shit. I just get angry when people act like you just have to settle for your spouse going to strip clubs, even if it really bothers you, cause all men have to do it or else "they're denying they're instincts" ALL I'M SAYING IS NO,NOT ALL MEN HAVE TO GO AND YOU DON'T HAVE TO SETTLE CAUSE NOT ALL MEN EVEN WANT TO GO. DO NOT SETTLE JUST BECAUSE SOME PEOPLE TOLD YOU ALL MEN DO IT. THEY CALL YOU INSECURE BECAUSE YOU DON'T WANT YOUR MAN TO GO BUT IT TAKES CONFIDENCE TO TELL YOUR MATE WHAT YOU WANT AND TO LEAVE THEM IF THEY WON'T COMPROMISE. THE REAL INSECURE GIRLS ARE THE ONES WHO NEVER SAY ANYTHING (IF IT BOTHERS YOU SOME GIRLS LIKE STRIP CLUBS BUT IT'S OKAY IF YOU DON'T) CAUSE THEY DON'T WANT THEIR SPOUSE TO LEAVE.

 

Hey, I'll be the first to admit, it doesn't take much to get me riled up and get my blood boiling when it comes to certain subjects. I also have a tendency (and my husband can vouch for this) to blow things way out of proportion when provoked. That's me, I'm extremely sensitive and there are just some subjects that get my panties in a bunch. But isn't that everyone? I'm sure every person has at least one issue that gets to them.

I really don't care if you, or anyone else enjoys visiting strip clubs, because we're all different people and we all enjoy certain things. My angry posts were more of a reaction to what I was reading by certain individuals, and how I just couldn't believe that all men could be like that. What about real love? Shouldn't that be enough? Anyway, neither I nor my husband have to participate in visiting clubs to be happy and fulfilled in our marriage, we've been together for 9 years and our relationship gets better with each passing year. We love one another more now than we did the day we married. Maybe we're in the minority.

Believe me, I might be a prude when it comes to strip clubs, but a prude with my husband, I am definitely not.

And hey, "breeding" is fun. Nothing like hitting the jackpot on the first shot.

Peace.

 

Quote- Starfaerie-"Sure it's a bit of compromise, when my girfriend(s) asks me to go out clubbing to get guys to buy us drinks all night (cause that's what a lot of women REALLY want to do freakwentflyer, I bet you'd get pissed if your wife wanted to do that instead of read a harmless book or watch a harmless celebrity but you still think it's ok to go to strip clubs huh?) I choose to stay at home with my husband. Here's the thing, strip clubs have real people in them whereas books and movies don't really. You don't have to be worried about a girl leaving you for a celebrity most likely but it's entirely possible that a man might leave you for a slutty stripper. And before you say he's probably going when he says he's going out to somewhere else, let me just tell you that he doesn't even have a license and we usually go everywhere together."
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You all are making me feel awfully bad for getting into this with you ladies. I didn't mean to make any personal attacks.

 

In all reality, when you boil this all down to a nice flavorful stock, it ends up like this:

The only reasons an individual would not like strip clubs is;
1. Low self-esteem
2. Just a tight ass prude
3. Queer as a $3.00 bill

It all comes back to these reasons and these reasons only.

 

Shut up Beans! LMAO

Well Freakwentflyer, I can get riled up to... I mean it just sounds like you and your wife have a different relationship from me and my husband or hippychick and her man...that's totally fine. I think we all accidentally say things as if everyone was like us, so sorry if I blew up too much lol. I mean hey, I really don't give a crap about the clubs...if Chris wanted to go right now I might feel bad cause I'm still losing baby fat, but all the times he was asked before he didn't even ask me, he just said no...and I don't mind not going out to get guys numbers anymore. I mean that's just the way we feel. I just don't want anyone saying 'oh, he's just lying to you to make you feel better'...I also get riled about it cause the guys he works with say things like, "oh all guys have to go to strip clubs" and make fun of him for being "whipped" if he has the nerve to say he'd rather be with me. PLus, I just don't want anyone to settle for a guy (or a girl) who does something they really can't get over...so it bugs me whenever people say "oh all *whatever* do *whatever*.

 

Give me a fucking break! The aforementioned reasons, funny as they may have come across, are the only one's there is.

"My man doesn't like those kind of places."

My God, ladies! Your man has you wrapped around his manipulative little finger, doesn't he?

 

didn't you know the modern woman has no identity outside of their relationships ?!


calm down just a pointed comment masquerading as a joke


= a symbol to make you feel better about a personal attack

 

That "joke" carries more truth than you think!

 

Sleep. Need sleep. Starting to loose touch...

 

Wish my husband wasn't deployed so he could come in here and vouch for the guys that aren't into strip clubs anymore. i couldn't care less even if he did like them and go to them, and he knows that, but he doesn't care for them anymore and none of those hilarious reasons apply to him. Get over yourself. This is why some of these ladies are getting up in arms. Because of asshole comments like that, which make the women who's husbands honestly don't like SC's, and don't fit your profile, sound like naive little girls with blinders on....and I tell you what buddy, that's not even close to the truth here so just step out of the conversation please, otherwise you're just being an asshole and a troll because you're certainly not debating a damn thing.

 

Got some sleep/reloaded meds.

Guess what I see?
Many brick walls.
Brick walls usually don't make for Good conversation.

So much for the Theory of Open-mindedness...

 

I apologize that I attacked you, I mean that, but it's still not fair to lump all men, or women for that matter, into one category and call it a day. Everyone is different. There are always exceptions to the rule. Quite frankly, from what you're saying about men, it gives an awful impression about them in general. I mean, it sounds like every last one of them are dogs. How depressing!

Sure, I admit, I love it when I'm out and about and men take notice of me or flirt. But is there ever any thought in my head of being unhappy being "bound" to my husband for life? Absolutely not. I love him more than anyone could imagine. He and I have been to hell and back but survived, and came out with a relationship stronger than we could have ever thought possible. I think that he and I love one another in a way that some people are pessimistic about, possibly those with unhappy relationships, those who are not truly satisfied, simply because they have never experienced it and/or don't believe that a love like that is possible. But I believe in my heart that it is. We've got to be doing something right if we've been together for 9 years and we love one another more now than we did the day we were married.

I believe that some people do not do well with confinement within a relationship, that some people are simply free spirits that cannot be tamed and will never be truly happy if so-called caged, but I also believe that those are the same people who shouldn't commit themselves to marriage, as deep within themselves, they will never truly be happy or satisfied, they will be forever restless. But, not all people are like that, and it's unfair to assume everyone is.

We are all different, we are all unique. It's what makes life so interesting.

I wish you much love and happiness, and blessings to your little girl and twins on the way.

Peace, I mean no harm, seriously.

 

Women are sooooooo easy to fool.

 

Hmmm considering my boyfriend doesn't ask my permission to do anything I would imagine he can do whatever he likes. However if he knows something will make me uncomfortable he would not, simply out of respect. And he would tell me what his plans were, he wouldn't sneak around or lie about it, which is the most important thing. As far as porn goes we both like that and I'm not threatened in any way shape or form by it. But honestly the idea of a strip club does make me a bit uneasy. It isn't that I don't trust my boyfriend (perhaps in a sense it could seem that way) but it is just makes it all too easy to be tempted, so why put yourself in that situation? And because my best friend was a stripper for a while, I know that the whole idea is to make more money from the men, and some of them (not all, perhaps not even many, but how do you know which one your man will run into that night?) will go to any lengths to get that money.

This is a tough question. I would really like to believe that it wouldn't bother me, but I think deep down it would make me feel like I'm not good enough. Luckily Jeremy isn't into that.

 

Well, a lot of people keep saying it's insecurity that makes some women hate strip clubs so much, but I mean does it matter? So what if it's insecurity? You deserve to be with a person who respects your feelings. And if a woman is insecure about her man going because she's pregnant, or losing baby fat, or has been sick for awhile, then that's pretty normal...I mean I don't want to think my husband wants a skinnier, less stretchmarked girl but what would I think if he was going to watch girls who never have had a baby or at least have no stretch marks or something? I honestly couldn't say and luckily for me, I don't think I'll have to.

 

Right. But it isn't always insecurity either. Some women, like myself, happen to find stip clubs shallow and demeaning places. If a women chooses to strip -fine- I pass no judgement. I've had friends who were strippers. But I have an opinon on the subject that wont sway and if my boyfriend doesn't share my feelings (which I've had boyfriends that did) then he should atleast respect my feelings. And if he can't do that -fine- then we don't need to be together. Simple at that.
I feel the same way about male strip clubs as well. Sexuality for sale is a turn off for me.