the reality of this is that hes probably looking for a break or an escape. thats how I see it. But he can't admit it. guys just escape when things get tough...sleeping and then ignoring your needs sounds like his way of blowing the real issues off. She just wants closure to the real issues.
Or, maybe he didn`t really want her around, aside from the fact that she does the dishes for him or that she is easier than Andrea, but is too pussy-whipped to come right out and say it. They may want to consider approaching relationships like it`s 2011 and there`s widely available contraceptives and DNA-testing, instead of parodying The Inquisition. Just a thought.
If that were the case, I'm fine with not being invited. It is no biggie. I had no want or desire to go out, considering I had work in the morning. However, I find it complete bullshit he couldn't just say " hey I'm going out tonight...." But he stated he was going out for a short while, an hour even. And I'm irked that he wasted my weekend by sleeping in the hotel and watching tv, and irked by his laziness....and well you get the gist of it Anyways, I'm still irked. I guess the confirmation as to if it's ok for me to be so is swaying back and forth.
Wassammadda?? Don`t you like going for walks? Which book are you currently reading? Who`s your fave sex-symbol to masturbate to? I see a huuge round of make up sex when you guys fly back. And, boy, am I a tad jealous! Just a tad! My ex-wife and I used to get freaky with that shit. :biggrin: BTW, I think you`re sexy when you`re angry. There's your confirmation...
You were married?! I'm never would have guessed. I always thought of you as the guy afraid of any sort of type of relationship that bound you to another person. As for the makeup sex, well....we'll see....
I said most times...hehe. I too was once young, dumb, and full o`cum enough to think that turning myself into human cattle made any sense whatsoever. But, hey, who knows...I`m certainly stupid enough to make the same mistake twice. BTW, if you hold back on sex and punish your bf for not taking you out, you can then brag to your girlfriends about how you give in just enough to let him think he`s in control, but how women hold the key in a relationship, and how boys are such babies who are scared of commitment and responsibility, and need to be nagged...erm, nudged.
i'll gladly go to maui by myself, i don't give a shit how tired my traveling partner is. did he actually say that the dishes were there for you?
Yes, even I find he was a bit inconsiderate (not in the first place he went to the bar with his friends of course). Case solved!
the funny thing is had he gone out with you the one night and also with his friends the next you'd still find a way to be pissed with him... it's how girls are.
Ha! This reminds me...a friend of mine (we`re not as close as we used to be, after all he`s married ) does the dishes so that his wife gives him what he calls "free night tickets" (nights in which he can go out by himself). Gotta admit, his wife is pretty cute. I`d hit it, maybe being a puppy on a leash isn`t so bad so long as she`s holding it.:drool5:
I'm not dissing women in general here but.... being a man, every once in a while (a little often to be honest), I like to... NOT have my girlfriend around. Not because I don't love her, not because I want to go out and cheat on her, but just because after being with her all the time, it really feels good to get a break. And the part I dont understand is how you girls dont ever seem to need a break. Even if shit is going bad and we are fighting 24/7, you still get pissed if we need some space... putting MY needs aside, dont YOU ever just want to... NOT be with your man? I truly dont get it. It looks like we're all in the same boat boys!
Pretty sure there's a bunch of times I don't want to be with my "man". I don't suffer from separation anxiety. It seems there are a handful of you missing the point here. I couldn't really give a flying fuck if he wants to spend time with his friends. I just don't want to spend my weekend holed up in a little room watching tv only to get home to clean up his messes.
I think you should have had a spoil yourself in the bath with candles and wine and great music night rather than wasting your time bickering via text. He'd respect you a lot more for it, and it would have been far more fun for both of you. You probably put a real downer on his night and made yours miserable too. Also, had I been in your situation, I'd have snuggled up to my sleeping boyfriend and made the most of that peaceful time, too. He was tired, and there was no changing that. So is it more constructive to feel bitter about it or to make the most of what's there? There's no use complaining that you didn't get to do what you wanted when you used your free time unwisely when left to yourself. I mean this in the nicest way possible, because I used feel the same way about things like this...but it's not all about you. And for the things he's actually done which are inconsiderate (clothes on the floor and mess etc) there is a great way to bring these up...it involves kindness and tact and does not involve an argument.
I agree with the guys in this thread moreso than the ladies. You're both free spirits. You didn't have to go on his business trip with him and once you were there you did have the option to leave the room and go out on your own. Just like he had the option to sleep the entire time and hang out with his friends when he returned. I mean, he sounds a little boring for sleeping the whole time, but that doesn't mean he did anything wrong. Also, I don't really see why you think he lied to you. People get caught up in shit. If I make plans with someone with the intention of staying out an hour, it literally never happens that way, whether or not I have someone waiting at home for me. I think both sexes should be able to hang out with their friends without feeling like they're on a leash. The staying out an hour thing shouldn't have even been an issue in the first place. Even if you didn't ask him to place a time limit on it, he obviously felt like he had to place a time limit on it which makes me think you don't exactly give him the freedom to do whatever he wants. Oh, and as for the dishes...girlfriend, pick your battles. Have you seen guys' homes when they don't live with women? Guys are fucking disgusting. That doesn't change when they enter into relationships.
