The birds and the bees.

I had a girlfriend when I was a freshman who told me that her parents were having sex one time when she had a friend over to stay the night. She said that her parents were going at it so hard in the next room that her closet door was rattling to her parent's rhythm just a few feet next to her friends bed. My girlfriend said she almost died of embarrassment while she was pretending to be asleep. She also said they did it all night long.

I never heard my parents do it. Actually I always assumed my siblings and I were immaculately concieved.

The first rated R movie I saw was when I was twelve. My brother and I thought Conan the Barbarian was rated R because of violence only and convinced our parents likewise. My dad took us I almost crawled under the seat when they showed naked breasts. No one talked during the ride home.

 

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Cheers Glen.

 

Yeah I heard my parents on many occasions. When I had friends over they would make us have a slumber party in the living room because my bedroom was right next to theirs. We couldn't hear them if we were downstairs.

My best friend asked her mom what an orgasm was when we were in 5th grade. I spent a lot of time at her house and couldn't tell you how many times we heard real orgasms from her mom. We were just like "oh my God, again?"

When we would watch movies with nudity or sex scenes my parents would tell me to cover my eyes then laugh. There was never a time they thought they should change the channel.

 

No. I was the baby of the family by a lot of years. By the time I came around all parenting went out the window. I wasnt watching porn. But my parents watched what they wanted to watch and they didn't care if I was in the room. I turned out ok. I'm a fully functioning member of society.

 

That seems foreign to me and I feel a need to respond with an lol, but I think that sounds like a more natural and healthy attitude toward sex. Maybe I wouldn't have been so shy when I was younger around females if my family had been like that.

 

My family was crazy, fun and embarrassing at times but I wouldn't have changed it at all. They just didn't make it a big deal. That never made it feel like a sin or a dirty thing you don't talk about. They taught me how to respect myself and my body. I think because of the way I was brought up I wasn't overly curious so I waited until I found the right person. I've only been with my husband. So being bright up in a house like that didn't turn me into a sexual deviant.

My dad is 68 and is still like that and messes with my husband (of 14 years). He'll jokingly say "hey, are you fucking my daughter?" My husband smiles and says "yes I am". My dad is crazy and says things like that for shock value. It's no big deal with us. He'll tell me about how he throws his back out while he's having sex. It's weird to some people but normal to us.

 

Lol, that is awesome. I have only step children now, but if I ever decide to have kids of my own, that's the way I'm going to do it.

 

There is probably an in-between that more of us should use. Sexuality is 1) private and 2) adult, which children are not yet developed enough to put in context. The same sex I was having as a 20 y/o feels far different than now as a 52 y/o. Even those years of maturing as an adult gives me a far different perspective. As rubySoho6 points out, it's not necessarily damaging to have lots of exposure, but either extreme isn't the answer. In my own life, I have a comfort level to discuss sex in a lot of settings including with my children. My husband can hardly even talk about it with me, let alone educate our kids. I've had to be the one for sex talks with both my daughter and my son. Sensuality is also what led to the end of my marriage, and they both know that about me. While mom has caused some hurt, it is a truth that can't be denied.-

 

For the record, and I know this isn't what you are saying, but I don't feel like anything my parents had me experience was inappropriate or unhealthy. Sure I saw movie sex scenes when I was a kid. Movies they made back then were not the same movies they make now. The "sex" was tame compared to what kids see now. I didn't grow up sheltered and I'm so grateful for that. If I'm ever blessed with kids I plan on being as open with them as I can. Your body and sex is not a shameful thing. I think teaching self confidence and self respect is more important that anything else. My parents weren't niave. They knew chances were that I wouldn't wait until my wedding night. Instead of living in fantasy land thinking I would be remain a virgin until marriage they told me what they wanted for me. They wanted me to wait until I found someone special because that's what I deserved. WHEN I chose to have sex they wanted me to be safe. I think that is about as healthy of a conversation as you can have with your child. They raised 6 kids that way without a single teenage pregnancy. I think their way has proven to be successful.

 

I think there are and have been many cultures that sex is not something hidden from kids of any age. I don't have the brainpower to do the research right now, but I thought Polynesians and native american used to have no taboo about having sex in front of children, and both of those cultures, by most historical accounts, seemed to be happy and healthy until Europeans screwed them up.

I might have a chance to research this more before work but right now my mind is cloudy and I need to go back to sleep - after I read a r ew m9re posts.