Yes, that is it. One cannot appreciate the mountaintops unless they have been in the valleys. No rain makes a desert. "It is better to put on slippers than to try to carpet the world." Stuart Smalley (Al Franken) "Be the change you want to see in the world." Gandhi "We do not see the world as it is, but as we are." Anais Nin I am hoping to find my way 'home'. I hope that makes sense. I dont believe we can change anything but ourselves, and the attempts to do otherwise usually result in grief. That concept is from "The Choice Theory" by Glasser, likely my favorite book.