This is fucked. I can't stop being friendzoned.

lol poor ingrid... she probably has big ears :ears:

 

i can relate to this quite a lot. but i get into a relationship and just look for any excuse to get back out of it.

i'm too nice for them

 

haha.. but she still is on the "real ladder", so say if she gets surgery and has nice ears again she can climb up the ladder.
whereas for women, the guys who are on the "friends ladder" are pretty much doomed to never get anything else but friendship from them.

 

but what if the guys appearance changed? why is there that distinct difference between the sexes, that the one gender will 'reconsider'

whilst the other will not?

 

i honestly don't know, i was just sharing something ive read but i really do not support those theories (the Ladder Theory or the friend-zone theory).
its always dangerous to make generic assumptions about the genders as if they were completely different races. i dont believe at all in the "men come from mars, women from venus" bullsh*t.
so yea, both theories are just assumptions, but im sure most women dont have that two-ladders mind.

 

lol! Wtf, I'd never heard of the Ladder Theory!! That`s stupid! :biggrin: Anyway, I can honestly say that I`d rather fall into the Abyss than be on the Friend Ladder. Hahaha!

 

lol yea. logically we're all in a lot of people's personal Abysses. what u don't want is to be in your crush's Abyss.

 

i'd rather be in the abyss

instead of hanging on somebody else's hook...

 

I'm sure it's already been said, but imo the most important thing is to make your intentions clear, and take charge. In my experience, women rarely take control, so if you don't, they will assume you're not interested, and thusly, next stop: friend zone.

 

So how do you make your intentions clear without seeming creeping and presumptuous, and/or making them uncomfortable. I'm sure it's not that hard, I just want to hear what you guys have to say. I probably need to stop analysing everything and be more in the moment.

 

That is great advice.

A good way to make your intentions known is to comment that something about her is sexy. Make sure you're sincere and not just trying to slip in the word. Although once you worry less about it, it becomes much easier.

Different styles work for different guys.. for me everything changed once I saw myself as a man instead of a boy, and I felt entitled to the women I spoke with. Take control, and make sure you're not doing something you don't want to do in order to try and please them. Again, though, depending on your personality, that might not work too well. I am really quite cocky and often get perceived as arrogant, and so this approach worked well for me.

 

that's infinitely better than friend ladder.

if they already decided that you're cute, you don't seem creeping and presumptuous. if they didn't, then you do.

 

U need swag bro like u need to make them want u don't never be aaskin bitches fo some they see u they know damn well what Chu gots in dem pants and if a bitch wants some she gone get iit

 

lmao.

 

:smilielol5:

Just practice how you approach girls with our friends, and get their feedback whether its good or bad. Then go to a club/bar or whatever you pick up chicks and keep trying your 'approach style' until something works.

1. Be confident 2. Say less 3. make sure you look good(clothes)

 

:smilielol5:

Just practice how you approach girls with our friends, and get their feedback whether its good or bad. Then go to a club/bar or whatever you pick up chicks and keep trying your 'approach style' until something works.

1. Be confident 2. Say less 3. make sure you look good(clothes)



Anyone else wants to add on to my list?

 

Here are some tips about being friend-zoned:
-It will take many years, and a lot of experience, but you will learn to read chemical signals. We all have pheromones, and those suckers work. You will know upon meeting a female whether or not she may be attracted to you and your chemicals.
-The above can be done by learning about body language and unconscious signals.
-Women (and I am one) tend to go for guys that strike a good balance of "I'm genuinely interested in getting to know you and spending time with you" and "I am aloof, and I like to flirt a bit". It is a fine gray area between desperation and scumbag. Learn that area. Make it your home. lol.
_ Make her think she has a chance with you by having genuine conversation, making genuine compliments, and acting genuinely interested. However, you also have to make her work for it, by not being too available.

 

i really like your posts

tell me about them?

i live on the moon.

but you know... whatever

 

lol exactly. i was sucked in until i realized what you were doing. you almost had me there

 

If it comes naturally to you it'll probably not seem creepy.

It's not that easy either as it seems ....

Useless statement. Be more in the moment?

What you need is to convey the idea of what you want without hanging a street sign 'round your neck. And there is no recipe for that.