Too much respect to have sex!

LISTEN TO ME, i went through the same shit for years, and i cannot believe that the people in this thread think you have the esteem problems!!!! when you mistreat people it's usually because you have self esteem issues, you on the other hand have made knowledgable observances in your own experiences and come to a conclusion that men are ass holes.and i appalude you for being honest..at least you know what you want.i am a firm believer that there is someone for everyone.

 

you are rude, why is it sad? because she doesn't want to be hurt ?she is very articulate and she actually knows what she wants?she is shy and has independence and a job?so she may be a little down, you make it seem like she is some sort of freak. i say work on meeting people or getting a hobby , there are lots of shy people out there and lots of not so shy people it's just a matter of keeping your head high and not letting those who can hurt you hurt you. this is not sad alot of people who posted on this thread however, are.

 

mlee -- thank you. I'm almost never on my own side, and almost nothing anyone said here bothered me (in fact, with a few exceptions I agreed with a lot of it), but it's true, I'm almost completely independent, I am exceptionally shy, and I would like some company but am afraid to pursue it. Kind of pathetic, maybe, but also ... kind of human.

rasto --- do you think calling me by a body part gives you power over me? Do you feel smug or get a (literal or metaphorical) hard-on thinking that it offends me? It doesn't, but the principle behind it is infantile, ridiculous and almost fascist.
For all you know I am a preop transsexual and don't even have a "snatch", so please, stop making yourself look like an idiot.

But since you asked, this is what is wrong with me:
I am very shy and don't talk to many people. In my experience, men have only wanted me around for sex, even though I have wanted friendship too (not a relationship, not a commitment, just something other than them sticking their cocks into me, getting off, and leaving).
Between this and the fact that my current sometimes-partner is a fellow shy person who does not touch me except to fuck me, I have come to believe that I am dirty and unapproachable to decent men. I almost see myself as a prostitute. I've come to terms with the fact and live my life cheerfully, but now I have met someone who is nice, and the fact that I do not even want to pursue him has made me wonder if I am permanently stunted.
I want to know if anyone else has ever felt this way or similarly, and how they have dealt with it. I would really like to know if I am in fact worthy of this nice guy, but nobody on an Internet forum could tell me something like that, so I'll take what I can get

 

Rasto??? LLLOOOLLL!!! no not really... RasProphecy gurl get it right and come correct... I didnt call you sunnysnatch with intent, I never peeped your screen name just glanced at it my bad no hostility intended... Your a transexxual? If thats you in the sig, you look good, like a women.

 

I'm actually not, I was born like this and if I do change, it will be the OTHER way

No hard feelings. I originally thought you were one of the misogynists I run into EVERY DAY who hit women or scream at them out car windows or spit on them or try to grab them off their bicycles -- just to make themselves feel like they have power over someone weaker and not feel so inadequate about their own penises. But I'm glad I was wrong

(as you can tell, I feel rather strongly about the way men often treat women ... ahem ahem cough. Women aren't blameless, but sheesh ... most of us human beings, men AND women, are just trying to live, and don't deserve to be abused.)

 

our thoughts coincide darlin, nobody deserves to be abused.... nobody.

 

i have every right to react to a sad story by feeling sad. in my opinion, you're the one who's outta line, but whatever.

 

mlee is ALWAYZ outta line...

 

your always blowing loads in faces and smokin blunts.....loser

 

so then maybe you should be more articulate in what you mean by saying this is sad very sad. ithink she may know that...she doesn't need you to remind her duh////your outta time

 

i'm outta line??? your fuckin kidding right???everyone has opinions some that matter and others that don't, like, your opinions. you are so contradictory," i didn't see you r screename" bullshit, you always change people's screen names around to be an ass.your always "come correct"looks like you need to come correct.all you ever have to offer people is "fuck that bitch and fuck her guts and blah blah blunt blah blah marley, and blah blah she's a whore"great advice from the great RASPROPHECY, WHAT A FUCKIN JOKE

 

i can kinda relate to this
i don't think it's sad, but i can see how it might come off as sad
like for me i see no problem in not having a relationship, i have lots of friends that keep me satisfied in terms of relationships
i can understand your shyness completely i think we've all been there, otherwise we wouldn't find ourselves on this site
getting out of your shell and appreciating yourself and loosing the shyness is something that you have to decide for yourself, it's not something that is necessary for everyone, but it might help you...i really don't know you so i can't make any assumptions based around that though...friends are good to have no matter who you are

you're young so i don't see the problem in you being single and having sexual relationships, and being comfortable in that...eventually i think though you may want something more, it's human nature to want companionship and a fulfillment aside from sex
although maybe not, this might work for you...everyone is different and having to live in society's standards is just bullshit, do what you feel is right for you
i find friendship aside from sex helps me grow as a person, even if it's just a friendship online, having someone to talk to and work through internal thoughts is helpful
if you ever want to talk, i put forth no judgements and i'd consider myself a good listener

 

I don't see a problem with having sex ... not at all My tally is kinda high, I guess.
My problem is that I like to at least be FRIENDS with everyone I sleep with ... and it seems that said people just like to lie while it suits them and then turn out to be backstabbing opportunists once they've exhausted my usefulness to them.
And like I said, I don't like official committed relationships, so ...

A lot of people I know who do the non-relationship thing end up having at least one person with whom they also feel close. I would like that, even if not now then at least someday, and since right now I have the opportunity to have such a person but am so completely and nonchalantly convinced I would not deserve to have it ... I was worried.

 

when i grow up i wanna be just as articulate as you are!

 

PS: I wasn't offended by anything anyone said here, except I still don't understand one of Duck's comments and for a while thought raspropechy was being a misogynist.
I kinda agreed with Lady that I was sorta sad, in any sense.

So, no hard feelings to anyone on my account?`I like you all.

 

LLOOLLL!!!!

And to get the facts straight... I never used the word 'whore' on this forum board.... Not once. Again little girl... Come correct.

 

Semen bucket ! If men treat you like this, I would tell them to go find a hole in the wall..I'm done with you.

 

i know what you mean by backstabbing opportunists who gross wyou otu once they have exhausted once usefullness, i jut met one.,.
and who even makle it as if it is the othe rway around and i have gross the they just cant define about what..
thats really nasty.
Guys talking of friendship all the time butnever able to hold onto one or to make something out of one, who talk oftrust buit dont give theirs, of love but keep it for themselves, and of loyalty and all that but never show any..
all in the mouth with actions saying the oposit.
I know htat kind.. and truth it learn one to just stay away from personal emotional involvement.
thats what i jsut learned nowm and i will stay that way, it will save me for the rest of the road.
That one hurted to much, and humiliated me too much, i wont ever try again to get in love or any way emotionaly close to a guy.
I am unable to do so anymore.

 

when, is the question

 

oh! ow! i am in pain!