Tricked into Fatherhood

yeah, maybe, cause the laws are different around the world and of course his visitation he will have to arrange and the child support payments that he will be making for the next 18 years.

 

here in America..child support payments average somewhere around 400- 500 per child plus provide full medical insurance..

 

mmmm, OK. She's Thai and he's European.

He's leaving the country at the end of the month.

EDIT: I have no idea where the law stands on this matter over here.

 

that makes it interesting..

 

It's unfortunate the men really have no choice once a woman get pregnant, he wants to take responsibility by terminating it. He's only choice is her choice. If he wanted to keep and love the child and she wanted to get rid of it he still would not have a choice.
Once she puts his name on the birth certificate he will be financially responsible, unless he can prove other wise.

 

it happened to both my brothers. one, not so good a dad to his daughter, the other, good as he can be, all things considered. i'm incredibly sensitive to watching a relationship falling apart then watching their women suddenly get pregnant to seal their control over the men, then using the children to get their way. it makes me incredibly angry. it's wrong, not just to the father, but to the child.

though, in the woman's defense, it was obvious they were train wrecks of human beings beforehand. i always warned my brothers about dating fixer-uppers. but they had to be guided by the dick and misplaced trust. idiots. now there's a couple INCREDIBLY sad little girls out there.

 

whatttt? my dad paid my mom 1000 dollars a month for three kids.

then when my mom had to pay child support, she paid 400 for all three of us.

 

I think he should grab hold of the kid and run as fast as he can.
But then again, he doesnt want the kid.
Its just that if this is the sort of shit shes pulling now, i mean whats going to happen when she has a kid to influence?
And yeah, maybe it wasnt malicious.
But it was stupid. And done in complete disregard for the dude.
I guess, if it was me, I'd keep the kid.

But ultimately, I think she should get an abortion.
Or (although its too late now) take the morning after pill.
Its just, I think when a kids born, it should be loved.
And if he cant do that.
If she can't do that.
Then I think it shouldnt live a loveless life.

 

in the 80's, my dad paid $300/month per child until we turned 18.

 

you can be sure that there is one in place and I would imagine she is seeking it out right now for hers and her babies security and future.

 

nah. he's well and truly stuck, in my opinion. and that's that. unjust though it IS.

 

I completely understand that there are A LOT of women out there who do get pregnant to only control and trap someone, and I guess if I was a guy I would always have that in the back of my mind, but then if I was concerned about it I would make sure I took the precautions to make sure she didn't end up pregnant and not just go by the whole "I take birth control" the man has to have some responsibility too, especially if he doesn't want any mishaps, put that rubber on or don't have sex with them.... It is sad because the ones who really suffer are the babies being born for the wrong reasons and not the right ones..

Man, I am just so lucky that I can't have babies :biggrin: never in my life did I think I would say that, but it is true...

 

Eh..
I hate it when people say that women are the weaker sex.

 

I am thinking she got pregnant because she knew he was leaving back to Europe and that he would break up with her right before..which he did..and she does not want it to end...she wants to leave to.

 

Oh, he will get letters and phone calls for 18 years saying “the baby needs medicine” “we are in the streets need money” “need money” “need more money”.

Maybe he can whip her up one of those morning after drinks before he leaves.

 

Nope. He actually had no intentions of leaving before all this happened. In fact, he's leaving in the hope that she will realise that he is really not going to have anything to do with the baby. And maybe, she might then go for a termination.

 

ugh. like it's just a pawn on a chessboard. totally fucked up.

 

There is no rosy side to this ugly story unfortunately.

 

nope. just sad.

 

I'm glad I got fixed over 20 years ago.