Trying to find relief

NNNNNNNO! I don't want to!

 

Chick on there's profile said "If you hate feminism and/or support Trump, swipe left now. Also, fuck cops!"

Goddamn, the impoverished millenial mind is a lost cause. I hate my fucking generation.

 

Your choices are limited. Give in to fear and self doubt and remain alone, or:

Begin the slow but sure ascent to self confidence by stepping out of your comfort zone and ultimately find someone to share your life with.

You prefer the results of the latter. Logic and your own hierarchy of needs dictates what must be done.

I will say no more.

 

Well, I've swiped completely through tinder. No new people in my area. Well, That was a waste of time.

 

It also says in my settings that I don't show up in the card stack. Why the fuck not?

 

could be attitude..with a attitude like yours, well...good luck

 

Can someone help me with a technical question. It says on my tinder settings that my profile doesn't "show up in the card stack". Which is to say that it isn't showing up for girls to view. Why is this, and how can I fix it?

 

Well??

 

I dunno.

Order an eastern european bride or something.

 

Dude...relax. This hippie message board. I'm sure Tinder has a website. Go over there and figure out how to card stack or whatever.

 

Ok, so there's some bitch on tinder. Skip her, or skip tinder altogether.

 

If you really want to kill your sex drive, you might want to try something like taking an SSRI antidepressant. They're well known for killing sex drive, and it does seem like you may be depressed.

There's plenty of men who embrace strict celibacy as part of a spiritual path. It's a legitimate choice...you don't have to make yourself a slave to sex or to women.

It sounds like your reasons for wanting to be celibate come from finding barriers to relationships rather than a desire to separate yourself from worldly things though. I'm not sure if that's a good motive. Maybe, but maybe not.

Anyway dude, I feel your pain. Hope things work out right

 

For the vast majority of men on HF, the two are mutually exclusive. I say we go with sincerity

 

And do what? I can't meet people in public the old fashioned way because every molecule of me is pure shit, and because I literally die on the inside in social situations. Girls dismiss me out of hand without a second thought and don't even for a split second take me into consideration. They just look right through me. Better guys get the attention every time (which is pretty much any other guy added to the situation). I'm a loser and and an ugly pile of shit. The fact that there is no woman in the world who would even touch me, and my track record of 0 past girlfriends proves this unequivocally. I don't even think I deserve to live. I think natural selection needs to do its job and weed me out.

 

I don't know where your pic is at, but a couple of females here seemed to like it

Also 6'2" and skinny...lots of chicks are into that.

Your main problem seems to be a self-confidence issue

There's probably girls that like you, but you don't realize it

Therapy might help you.

Even better might be to go to strip club and learn how to talk to girls. Daytime hours seem to be best for this.

 

This.

Chemistry is important, it is. But, a lot of confidence begins in your mind. Women can sense when a guy is ''thirsty,'' or desperate, or is down on himself. Not to say, you should hide what you're feeling, but if you were going on a job interview, you wouldn't say a bunch of negative things to your interviewer about yourself, and expect to get the job. Likewise, our lives pretty much are a product of what we think. If you think you're a ''pos'' then, you'll exude that. I don't think it's good to ''fake'' who you are, but you can work to improve your outlook on yourself, and life. And go to the gym, too, if you're not already. Working out will help your confidence, and will help with your depressive mood.

You come across as smart and witty, fwiw. That goes a long way, and not every woman might get you, but many might. But, you have to believe in yourself a little more.

 

Man, that sucks....
I had to look that up because I never heard of it. That looks very uncomfortable! Do you have difficulty breathing?

 

Yes. Couldn't do sports because of it. The dent in the chest is only a small part of the problems it gives you. Your backbone and ribs have to grow around the deformity. It leaves you with bizarrely curved backbone, rolled shoulders, flared ribs, and pot belly. Its the most unattractive and goofy-looking thing, and is the precise opposite of what girls look for in a male physique. Literally, it's the opposite of what an attractive male body is. Going into public to meet Girls, especially at a beach or a pool, is an utter and decisive waste of time. I dont even take my shirt off in public, and swimming with a shirt on makes you look like a lame fuck, so going to the beach or something like that is a waste of time for me. You add virtually any other guy to the situation and he is going to outclass me In every way. At the beach or at public pools there are guys aplenty with their normal pecs, abs, and backbones, and good looking bodies. Its over right from the start with me. I'm a complete non starter with women. That's why i get so fucking mad when I post pics and people say "you dont look bad". You dont even know what the fuck you're talking about. A couple of pictures I took of myself after a million takes to get a deceivingly good shot doesn't tell you anything about what I look like. You have no idea how utterly atrocious I am in real life.

Here's a somewhat crude illustration of what pectus does to you. (But keep in mind that my case is far worse than the average and is in a category all its own).

 

This is also why working out is a waste of time for me too. Its a loss and a fail right from the start.

 

Slasher, is there anything you're particularly interested in, hobby-wise? What are your strengths? Everyone has something they are really good at or at least take a strong interest in. If there is something and you've identified it, then that's what your focus should turn to.