Uhhhhhhggggg

have sex with her first, just in case she gets mad and leaves you sexless for a while.:jester:

 

Would a 3some with a male help maybe?

 

i say.. fuck that betch

 

You know what you gotta do. If you're calling your misses a hoe, then there's only one answer.
Fuck her, then fuck her off.

 

well.. you hate te hipforums and you're still hangin around them.. whats your excuse

 

i say ya hook up wit me .. i can eat pussy like a fuckin lez

 

Thanks guys for all the advice... and sexual offerings haha.

Well, she woke me up at 8 was leaving for work and said "I won't be home till late" to which I said "why?" and she said "I'm going on a long, long, long walk after work, I won't be home until 8." Then she kissed me, said I love you and left. So yeah, not to sure how to take tbat. I wrote her a note last night that basically said I'm not happy, I've been putting in so much effort and she needs to (excuse the sports analogy) step up to the plate and work for our relationship. She just wrote in sharpie huge over the letter "I cannot change!!!". But I'm not asking for change, I'm asking for compromise, I'm asking for effort and intrest in working to keep our relationship healthy.

Is that too much to ask, honestly? An outsiders view would be great. Am I being to controling / selfish?

 

people rarely change in an instant. if u want things 2 be better you could work at it for 5 years and still have 10% chance of success. if your not happy early on than thats as obvious as t can be. plenty of fish in the sea, andwith your looks you could have almost anyone of them

 

^^^ werd!... i personally believe that a "one" is bullshit and you should not keep yourself in such a box.. like green said.. there are plenty of fish in the sea.. and those fish need lovin too.. spread the love my friend!

 

I know but it's not the beginning, we're in our 4th year together and we live together. You cant just give up at this point. I love her tremendously and have been happy for the majority of the relationship but the past few months have been not so good...

 

are you sure its not you then? i mean it may seem likeher, but say simple issue, someone keeps leaving the toilet seat up, you dont like it- maybe its your fault for not liking it, i mean it only means putting it down isntead of moaning and goraning about it. i dont kno the exact issues u see so i just gave an example

 

I know it's both of us, not just me, not just her. I don't get caught up on the little things, I know that. I've been doing her laundry and doing most of the cleaning so stuff like that doesn't bother me at all, I know she's busy.

I truely feel like I am more in a "friendship" relationship right now than an intimate one. And I know she's been busy, her family just moved, she switched anti-depressants and she works a lot but the only problem I have with it all is she isn't puting any time or work into our relationship. I unstand shes busy, but I am too and if she doesn't have enough time for our relationship then it's not worth it, you know? I feel saying that is a bit selfish on my part but it's been 3 months like this and I'm getting really sick of feeling like shit all the time.

 

4 years or not.. everything has an expiration date

 

Did this all change shortly after she returned from Africa?

 

^^Yeah.

 

Well twice I was involved in a pretty serious relationship where she moved away for 3 months to study abroad. With both women, things went downhill drastically after the return. SO i guess I don't have much advice. Except Denver is full of hip single women.

 

Well if shes taking antidepressants, those things majorly fuck with a persons disposition to begin with. I dont know how you are approaching her with what you are unhappy about, and dont get pissed because I am trying to help not jump to conclusions. But maybe you are being too accusatory or whatever. If you are saying things that shes doing that you dont like, try to put it in a way that focuses more on how it affects you instead of her behavior. Basically instead of saying "I hate it when you..." say "When you do that it makes me feel..." I know thats helped me in the past.

Intimacy is tough, its worth it though and I miss it. Ive always thought that it would be harder for two dudes to be intimate with each other in comparison to a hetero couple, but thats probably because Im not gay. Ive never really thought about two women. Was there intimacy before?

 

AKA ~ I need some sweet poontang

 

when she gets home from that long ass walk she's going on, just walk up to her and give her a huge hug, and kiss her, and just talk to her dude, work your shit out face to face...

 

^^^ Yeah, seriously.

We use to have really good sex a lot. Then she went to Africa and came back and we had really good sex when she visited me at school. And it was all downhill since I've come home. I'm always trying to kiss her and get her in the mood and put on nice music and get some wine and wear sexy lingerie and such and I just keep getting turned down over and over and over and over andover. I know she says its not my fault, but thats how I take it. In my mind, shes either not attracted to me anymore or she's cheating on me. And this has driven me to the point I've been crash dieting and doing other unhealthy things because I think I'm not attractive to her anymore.
I just think I'm really frustrated and angry with her because of that, so I'm just picking out flaws. I don't know. We just need to have a really long heart to heart and get everything out in the open.

Sorry for this whole rant, but all of your advice and opinions have been very helpful! Thanks guys!