vaginal or c-section

Seriously, YOU'RE the pregnant one. YOU'RE the one that's going to be going under major surgery and then recovery. If you can't get much help through labour, how much help do you think you would get during recovery from major abdominal surgery?

It's YOUR body, YOUR pregnancy, YOU'RE the momma. Make your own decision and tell DH to be supportive and pray for the best!

 

THAT would be great!!!! Precipitous births (quick ones, which happen with little warning and fast labors) are usuallly very safe and you have the baby before the hospital can get it's hooks into you. If you DID have a precip, it would elimiate all your worry about not dilating. Right?

A word to the wise. You are getting a lot of advice here, but I have to let you know, some toddlers do just fine at births, depending on the child AND the labor and how mama is. Some children become quite afraid and need to be taken out of the room. They don't realzie the noises mama is making the screaming or moaning or chanting is NORMAL and may think she is dying. On rare occasion, if something goes terribly wrong (and this is RARE) the child may be scarred. He needs his OWN support person, who can take him somewhere quiet and safe, if you feel out of control, or he gets scared, or intervention, which may be very terrible for a toddler to watch happens.

There should always be a "big brother suppor system" (or sister) for you. Not your husband, because HE should be there for you and the new baby, and if Aiden needs to be taken out of the room, your husband will not be able to be with YOU.

Do you have a friend, or a trusted relative or someone to keep an eye on him, in case he needs help? Your dh will be concentrating on you, and Aiden or you will get shorted, because your man can't be in two places or taking care of two people at once. If you do anything, make sure someone other than your hus takes care of the little boy.

 

well there is only one person itrust to watch aiden but by the time i have the baby she will be taking car of a 6 month old plus a 2 year old and well shane doesnt trust any one when it comes to aiden. the only person he would let watch aiden is his mom and like i said before she has a hectic schedule for work. im thinking about getting a doula and shane could just take care of aiden

 

My mum had only vaginal births, and I was the first. It was really hard for her because she wouldn't dilate - she was induced into labor, which lasted two days - and my brother was upside down and came out blue. And yet she never wanted a cesearean section. I think preparing for a vaginal birth would be less stressful than worrying about surgery, etc. I don't know anyone who's had a water birth, but if I ever had a child that's probably the way I would give birth.