Warcraft instead of sex?

I meant that you must know enough about women to not be married, hence meaning you know to not marry one..get it..yeah, yeah, i would have been booed but i thought it was funny...i take risks..

 

ever notice 2 major events happen in church and with a suite among family and loved ones. Marriage and death, both are the same thing

 

Haha, yeah...It's the beginning of the end...

 

dont forget brain washing
thats filler between death and marriage

 

Kinky,

First of all, I want to be serious for once and express my heartfelt sympathy.

This topic is very strong for me, since I was in your boyfriend's situation in the past in a very traumatic relationship for both of us.

I'm also not in the best of conditions to speak of this right now (hungover).

What I can say for now is that a lot of relationships turn co-dependent, and the balance between private and shared space is lost.

Everything you've been writing on this forum of late sounds like the boundaries between you and your boyfriend (even your friends) are not being respected.

I hardly give advice, but I'd strongly advise you (as a male) to give your boyfriend AS MUCH private space for his fantasizing about other women as he needs.

I'd also advise you that absolutely nothing can be done to make him desire you. You are fine. It has nothing to do with you.

But sex does tend to wane in co-dependent scenarios in which private space is non-existent.

In fact, I think looking up his browser for porn is VERY wrong. He's not playing games. He's just disinterested. You can't beat sexual interest into men.

I really wish the best of luck to you guys. If I may give you one last advice, explain to him what happened, how it made you feel, but apologize and say that you're willing to grant him his private space.

There is nothing sexier than a woman who is secure enough to do that. As for your own needs, you can fulfill them yourself.

I feel for you. Good luck.

 

So says prax.

Lady understand what prax is saying ... but never ever try to explain. You make it public and you'll knock that last nail into the coffin.

 

Yeah, I would also not write about it on the internet. Just talk about it with family or friends.

Or PM someone you trust here.

Waking: You disagree with me?

P.S. Your boyfriend is not playing games. He has a legitimate need to fantasize. Try to understand.

 

I disagree, there is a difference between a healthy relationship with porn and games and another when you ignore the needs o your partner for 3 to 4 weeks come on! Private space my ass, next you will tell her its okay to let the guy bang a girl in her bedroom while she has to wait outside?

If he neglects and ignores his partner to play and jack off then thats not cool at all. Amanda hardly seems the type to be controlling and clingy, its been over 3 weeks and they are young and not married so they should be like rabbits.

 

I dont think she should bring it up. She should give him his space but she should not tell him she is.

 

hell yeah my boyfriend and me go at it like two wild animals

 

In theory. On the surface, it looked like that between me and my ex too.

But I came out of it feeling literally raped.

I'm not saying she is to blame. I'm not saying he is to blame. I'm saying it's a DYNAMIC.

Finally, fantasizing and cheating are entirely unrelated.

 

why wont he have sex though it seems weird

 

I tend to think, when you hold your feelings in, you're asking for trouble in a relationship.

It comes out some other way. She made a mistake is all. He's being inconsiderate too, so they need to forgive each other.

 

Yeah, only problem was I wasn't snooping. When I'm snooping, it's not to catch him to punish him, it's because when we have a fairly active sex life, I think it's hot that he gets off on his own. I don't pay attention to what he gets off to, I've never gone to any of those links or paid any mind to his porn folders. I was on his computer because he has mine right in front of the air conditioner and it's way too fucking cold at 8 AM to get on mine. It happened to pop up in the address bar when I was typing in an address.

The big deal about it is, I sent him a message on MySpace telling him I was horny, thinking maybe a dumb little "sexy" message like that might at least get his mind somewhat thinking about it, then when I asked him about it, he deleted it before he even read it.

 

Kinky. I think you need to let him know whatsup. He needs to treat you right.

 

or woman...

 

I did, he got pissed. Apparently I should've been more forward with him. Seeing as I should've known he would've deleted my message, which flat out told him, "HEY I WANT TO FUCK."

 

Too bad for him. You are the woman. You ultimately wear the pants, reading between the lines of relationship. Treat yourself WELL.

 

Ok. Even if you're not snooping...

Try to understand that the temporary lack of activity has NOTHING to do with porn.

Porn is no competition.

Additionally, I would stop "trying" to sex him up. There was nothing more claustrophobic for me than when my ex did that. I wanted to initiate too, when I felt like it.

I understand you're feeling bad about this. But I suspect you might be taking the forest for the trees.

I might be wrong. Let me stop giving advice and good luck again.

 

See, this is the kind of thing that get women in trouble.

Like men are just stupid chimps who can be changed and manipulated, etc.