Warcraft instead of sex?

I said no such thing I said make yourself happy

 

You said something to the effect that women read the lines of the relationship and hold the key...

Wrong, Cate. We can read between the lines too.

 

I cant help but wonder how he would react if she were to ignore him for the same amount of time finding refuge in another activity that exempted him?

 

People in relationships have the commitment to be emotionally available and engaged.

But not to pleasure their partners or not have privacy. That's ridiculous.

So, I think the boyfriend is wrong to the extent that he's being uncommunicative. But not for anything else.

Edit: also to give emotional priority to a partner.

 

She did state "he's barely spoken to me in that period of time, and if he does, it's a bunch of drivel I can't understand. Fuck that game...seriously." does that not show not being there emotionally?

she stated "The big deal about it is, I sent him a message on MySpace telling him I was horny, thinking maybe a dumb little "sexy" message like that might at least get his mind somewhat thinking about it, then when I asked him about it, he deleted it before he even read it." why did he not even bother to read it?

she stated "I did, he got pissed. Apparently I should've been more forward with him. Seeing as I should've known he would've deleted my message, which flat out told him, "HEY I WANT TO FUCK."" when she attempted to speak to him about it.

Seems he is very unavailable for her.

Now I do know this is a one sided information source too and I was married so I do also know how that goes.

 

Oh, I agree that it appears to be a case of unavailability.

But that has absolutely nothing to do with sex, is all I'm saying.

Actually, I'm also saying that unavailability can be a reaction to not having a well-drawn out boundary of private space within the relationship.

 

It's a video game addiction is simply what it is. He does this every time he gets into some game, but it's never been quite this bad before. But I've seen people throw their lives away to that game. Seriously, I lost lots of friends to that damn game already. I already don't feel too great about it, not to mention if I hadn't shelled out $15, his gaming buddy wouldn't be playing with him.

 

Sounds like a convenient scapegoat of a reason. With all due respect.

You know that joke about the guy comes back from work to find his wife with another man, and throws away the mattress. "I knew I should of gotten rid of that mattress!"

 

Seeing as he was jumping down my throat for ass (and getting it almost every time he even had the whim) before he and Jake really got heavily into the game, it's hard not to connect the two. Though I don't know, I'm sure somehow it's my fault.

 

Why does it have to be someone's fault?

Also, might he not be escaping into videogame land for a reason? Is the videogame a cause or an effect?

 

i think it saves those for a while... he could have gone to that site before he ever got warcraft.


i sort of understand videogame addiction, because i've been there several times before. yet, never to the point where i would turn down sex or ignore the important people in my life...

 

I dont know anything about Warcraft. never played or even seen it.

I seriously doubt it could top sex though

 

warcraft is pretty fucking great... i've never actually played WoW, because i know that it would take up my entire life.

again though, none of it begins to compare with sex...

 

What if it was with her....

 

must be a good game that wow............

 

im sorry hon, thats seroiusly shitty
id be half tempted to unplug the internet for a week and see what happens, for all that thats not a great solution/approach

it does seem indicative of a bigger problem, like yank was sayin. i dont disagree with praxis either, in that theres probably a lot of stuff going on beneath the surface in regards to why hes more into a video game than you... but i dont think taking a big step back is gonna help. id almost say couples counselling, if you could drag him away from teh computer for that long

 

I have the answer, I am the master...




and when he tops your highest peaks, level he gets these

 

me...

 

I just thought that too, on re-reading this thread.

One thing I will say, stop blaming yourself Kinky. There is always 2 sides to everything and I think that maybe trying to lure him in may in fact make him feel pressurised like Praxis said.

Anyway, maybe you should go out for a night and while he's away from the computer, tell him how you are feeling neglected and see what he has to say.

 

isnt she dead now?? and uhm, ew, I would rather do a dog.