Well, fuck!

ahhhhhh I saw your sig now I feel special too hehe that made my night

 

well you made mine!


see I enjoy this- we can have a heated debate and still be ok when all is said and done! Mad probs lyns

 

I'm not going to argue with you anymore as you are the one continually equating it to finances. I am sorry you feel that the mother should have to use cloth diapers and do all that extra laundry when she is prob working a million hours a week as well. Regardless even if you are paying 500 dollars a month in child support that doesn't cover daycare, food, diapers, a roof over a child's head even for a week out here. So with that line of logic perhaps it's geographical barriers?

ie-I make about 32k a year but cannot afford to live alone or shit even pay my personal monthly bills, if I lived lets say where one of my uncles is living right now I would have a very nice house on what I make. And unfortunatley my field and company does not differentiate for geographical increases in expenses so I would make the same if I lived in Brent Alabama or where I am now in San Diego even though i could buy a house in brent for 70k where it would cost a million here. I am pretty financialy savvy actualy. I made some wise investments, give decent amounts to not for profits other then my own I work for I just have the bad gene of expensive taste in clothing which has drained me but non the less do not discount my intelligence. I am sorry you are bitter about your situation but like I said before you had the choice to take your pants off or to keep them on.

 

heheeeee you too...got any alfredo left? I just made gluten free yogurt brownies...so I'll bring dessert.

 

yes- yes I do c'mon over

 

I'll pick up some ice cream on the way...mmmm I hope it doesn't melt by the time I get there....lol

 

just pack a cooler full of ice.. should be ok

 

hmmm would that be carry on or checked baggage lol

 

depends whether you want to snack on it on the way

 

hah good one!!!!!!!!!

 

Look i am the one yall are talkin about. I am the mother of his child and we need to get one thing clear. I never once said he could not see the baby after it was born. I didnt break up with him because he wouldnt marry me. I did it because we dont have anything left in our relationship. The tables have turned completly around. Almost two years ago i was the one wanting to get an apartment and live and raise a family with him but now that i am pregnant it's the complete opposite. He doesnt understand that if we live together it will be harder on the both of us. We wont get any finacial help because we make to much money. If i do it on my own with the support of him the baby will have insurance, a decent school district, and not around the fighting i know we would do. He would see the child whenever he wanted and he doesnt understand that. He thinks i am trying to take away his rights which is not the case. I'm just making it easier on the both of us. If he cant handle my pregnancy hormones than how do yall think he is gonna be able to handle me being tired, bitchy, and irritable after the baby comes. He doesnt understand that i have alot on my plate and im just tryin to think of the child and not what he thinks may work out. Do yall disagree or agree.

 

private message you both make yourselves look to be foolish airing your dirty laundry in public you should really keep things like this private as talking about them like this does nothing but make it worse it is kind of like asking the person across from you to ask the person next to you to pass the salt

 

100 percent agree. And I applaud you it is so fucking nice when the tables turn like that and the power switches back. And no one should be in a relationship where you have to worry about power struggles as long as somone treats me right they can have all of it but if they don't then I'm out none of this fighting for it crap anymore. So yeah I think you're 100 percent rational and right.

 

it's needed though expecially in situations where there is no closure at all. I know it made me feel a lot better.

 

it is still something that will help them deal with each other better this does nothing but make people chime in and choose sides and creates a disturbance it is unhealthy

 

i only said that because he was making me look like i wasnt gonna let him see his child and making me out to be some kind gold diggin type of person. Honestly i dont want his money. And if he cares about money that much than dont sign the birth certificate. That will solve that problem. I can do it on my own i have a great support behind me and i know it would be worth it in the end. I dont need some dead beat dad who wants to bitch about child support rather than take care of a child. I came from a broken home and i will be damned if my child will have to go through what i did. I know the one of the reason he wants me to live with him is to get out of child support. He has no idea how much formula costs and how much of it you go through. He doesnt know anything. He should just understand i am doin the right thing. I dont want to fight with him but everytime i talk to him thats all we do and me bein almost 5 months i dont need to put up with it and i wont. I have bigger things to focus on.

 

i cant talk to him he gets all mad and all we do is fight.

 

yeah so this still is not solving anything you should really work on being productive as this does nothing but make the issues you two suffer through deeper in the end this will not have accomplished anything

 

since you are asking for opinions you are getting mine. so you two have differences. which i am sure can be worked out. by leaving you are not making things easier. you are doing the opposite. unless he is beating the living piss out of you it is of my opinion to stay and fix things up for the sake of your unborn child. it is totally selfish to cut and run. your child will grow up with emotional problems that you do not know of. i know because i am a product of it. i have a ton of respect for people who stay in a relationship and work out the kinks. i have no respect for people who look for a partner that they think will bend over backwards for their every need. that is fairy tale bullshit that you only see in hollywood movies. i am miserable 8 out of the 7 days of the week but i have fucking children to look out for. not just by putting food on the table, but emotionally. this is what happens when you have a child; you get put on the back burner and your child comes first. and apparently, that is something you are not willing to do so already you have an unhealthy and unfit start into motherhood.

have a nice life, slob.

 

if you guys cannot handle taking turns with speaking correspond through e-mail or something it will still be more productive than opening your troubles to the public and asking people who they agree with