Well, fuck!

hey now, not all kids from divorced/seperated/not together parents turn out badly or damaged or unfixable. My parents divorced when I was 3 or 4 and I'm just fine, because they still loved me for me

 

You have no idea what u are talking about. I came from the type of home where i saw my mom bounce from guy to guy. Screaming at my father. Fighting over and over again. Im not cutting and running. Im not going anywhere. We cant work out our differences you dont understand our relationship. We are completly wrong for each other and yes it bull shit to realize all this when i got pregnant but better now than when the baby is two and i want to leave then.

 

My brother parents divorced when he was seven and he's not emotionally unstable. He understands they cant work out their differences and my dad sees him all the time and they love him both the same. So not every child will emotionally scarred

 

I wish the best for your child..

I grew up in a household where Mom and Dad probably should have split. Eventually I was placed in foster care because among other things my life was in jeopardy.

 

exactly I think he proved his intntions when the marrying issue came up in december. I agree with you either he doesn't sign the certificate and doesn't see the kid or you get court ordered child support. I don't remember my dad from when I was young. My mom divorced him when I was 2 and the last time I saw him as a child was at 4 and I don't know what went down but I guess my grandpa threatened him and after that day my mom and I moved under a different name. My dad hired a PI to find me when I was 20 and things were great until my mom decided to sue him for backed child support since he was a multi-millionare and never stopped bragging about it and gave me a trust and an entry into mu law school and a house and then my mom sued because bascially i was naive and she knew he was trying to buy me. he would tell me fucked up thing like he still loved my mom and would he ever have a chance and would then say how much i looked like her when she was my age and when she sued he did the ultimate crime to get to her and me.

I am ssoooo glad she didn't stay married to him. I would have grew up with everything material wise I wanted but I honestly think I would have killed my dad if i grew up with him. and on my gradfather's death bed I will thank him for what he did i took his last name last year.
Yes, you're doing the right thing. Any man who doesn't want a kid over a few hundred bucks a month is not one you want to marry or spend the rest of your life with.

 

I know that my child will be fine with or with our him becasue i have my family who already is excited and my best friend. I have a great support backing me up so wether he is around or not the child is gonna be loved by me and the rest of my family.

 

my grandparents were really active in my life. My mom had a melt down and I lived with them for awhile and she went away for college for a semester and I lived with them then too. I was really close with my uncles too. I was so lucky I don't know any kid who had as much love as me. Every guy I'm with thinks I'm spoiled or am too submissive because 'I didn;t grow up with my dad' but the truth is I grew up with a mostly male family and just got really spoiled and think all men should be as nice as my grandpa and uncles were to me!

 

I am the first one to say "if you get your dick wet, ya gotta deal with the responsibilities that come with it." meaning he should pay child support, just like a woman who loses custody of their children should pay child support.

as for him not marrying her, well from personal experience (being pregnant when I got married) sometimes it is probably not in the best interest if the couple is not compatible enough for marriage to not get married. why have a child live in a house that is full of turmoil, arguing, violence or just bad karma all the way around.
Death should step up and pay for the child and show some interest in the pregnancy. it is his kid afterall.

It doesnt matter if he signs the birth certificate, she just has to file a paternity suit, to see if he is the dad or not.

 

thats how it will be my family will be there for the baby and would do anything for it and they think it's my time to finally do something i can be proud of you know. They dont lilke the situation but its something that they cant change. It's thier first grand child they are excited

 

Good for you, your family and your child. A support system will help tremendously.

 

THere is no doubt in my mind that he is not the dad. I know he is but i dont think we should get married and if he doesnt want to pay child support or wants to complain and not be supportive i dont think he should sign the certificate. I want a father of my child of course but if he is gonna look at it like a bill he has to pay and spend time with then he can leave. We arent compatiable. It's not like i got pregnant and then decided to leave we have been on and off for almost two years. So obviously something is not clicking.

 

I hope things work out for you three.

 

well thank you. I hope does and im sure it will. But thanks anyways

 

You've and others have been arguing all round the real issue(s).
Let's see if the third time's a charm...*L*

OK if I beg to differ?
Who's harping on finances?

What do you think was used before disposables?
What do you think plain old po Folks use?
Isn't cloth actually better for the child/the Environment?

The first of the clairvoyance in this particular Post. ^ ^ ^

Got the idea?

Thanks for your concern but let's set the Record straight...

First you haven't seen "bitter".
Second you don't know the details of 'my situation'.
Third you chose to speculate (more clairvoyance?) rather than ask the details of my situation.

What was the point in adding the "like I said" comment?
The comment didn't/doesn't apply in my situation......but you knew that, eh?

Remember what is said of assumptions?

Anywho it's my turn to say "I'm not going to argue with you anymore" for now anyway...*c*


Take care,
A

 

I totally agree with that.

 

Title says it all.

 

thats bullshit. they will not let a baby go without insrance. Josh and Megan have a baby, arent married, get WIC and Medicaid, AND make more money than us. Stop trtying to feed me that lie cuz we both know its bullshit.

 

calm down i understand you are angry my child but like i told her you should focus on being productive what you guys are doing is not productive in fact it is quite destructive

 

but she is trying to get me to believe boldfaced lies.

 

i can not say that i see that as i do not know the situation what i do know is that you guys need to be more reasonable and let the anger drop anger is clouding judgement on the part of both of you i can tell you that the longer you two carry on like this the more difficult any type of relationship will become whether you get back together or whether the baby is the only tie that binds these types of behaviors are hard to forget as each party feels they were wronged and although they may try not to each party carries the burden of the events for a long time