What are the chances that she's pregnant?

There's also this: http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/gpr/09/3/gpr090308.html

 

I feel for the OP. You should probably get your head twisted around the idea that your life is not your own anymore, not even close. I guess this is a concept that is hard to grasp until it's really a reality. I was 25 when I had my first. She was a pill baby, so obviously not expected. Luckily, I love the person I had her with and was with him for several years prior. Still, I sometimes struggle with the realness of it all.

You seem like a good kid. It's a tough lesson in life to learn.

 

Yes, but in some cases (speaking for myself included) women already know they'd regret it. And if they already think they'd regret it before they go through with it, chances are they would regret it. I was more refuting the implication that women who don't get abortions don't get them because they're trying to manipulate a guy. It happens, yes, but it's far from the majority of cases.

 

@Roor

I don't think I can make it clear how strongly I feel about keeping this baby. When I went with her to our ob on monday I was feeling curious and nervous as hell. It took a short while because the images weren't showing up on the u.s. monitor. When the first movements started appearing, all I could see were fluctuations in the video. The doctor pointed out the outlines of the baby, and I finally saw the entire picture. When that happened my heart started pumping so fast that I couldn't speak. I really felt like crying tbh. It's hard for me to find the words to explain how beautiful it all was. For the first time since this all started, I felt like this was really real man. I feel like I'm actually part of something important. like me and her are really doing this together for something worthwhile. I don't know how to put it, but I do know for sure that not doing away with the life of this precious baby is the best decision we made since we met.

 

Nothing, I repeat, NOTHING I do in this situation is just for her. What I do, I do for the three of us. She didn't ask me to take her out for her chest pains. She told me about it and I offered to take her because I wanted to help. I didn't have anything to lose and it gave us an opportunity to talk. I'm just trying to form some kind of friendly relationship between us if we're gonna be in this together.

And I've been busting my ass making sure the right things are done for this child. The doctor was telling us that her blood pressure was slightly higher than normal because her Bmi is around 42 (5'8-276). This could induce diabetes in Bernadette and make the delivery harder to pull through. So you know what, i've been talking with her and making sure she cuts down on the starches, eats the right fruit/vegetables and takes the C and E vitamins that were prescribed. We've been going to all the appointments on time. Some days right after school or work. I've had to take out most of the money from my checks every week for baby supplies etc. My parents help with as much as they can (which i feel ashamed about) but they can only give so much.

I'm trying as best as I can.

 

So you told your parents? How did they take the news?

 

Out of respect for them and for personal reasons, I don't want to bring that up. But yes, I've told them. I'll leave it at that.

 

We can infer that it means they didn't take it well

 

I recommend using cotton diapers, you'll have to wash them to get the poop outta them, but in the long run they're cheaper than disposable, environmentally friendly, and don't tend to give a baby diaper rash. In addition, when they're older they get feedback about when they've gone to the bathroom in their pants, which is mental feedback they need for potty training.

 

Update please.

P.S. I agree 100% with Xxaru. There's no way in hell I would be taking this chick to doctor's appointments, buying her bras, etc. especially is she is skanky enough to let one rip in someone else's car and then laugh about it.

I would not do anything until I got a paternity test, which is after the baby is born. I wouldn't have told the parents this early on either.

I hear wedding bells.

 

@monkjr

Thank you for the cotton diapers suggestion. That sounds helpful.

 

Her being the one to physically carry the baby doesn't mean I can just stand around and be an avid witness. I have a responsibility to make sure sure all the necessities are taken care of. Those examinations are for health issues and the states of the pregnancy. That's important.

And like I said, I only went with her to go shopping that day. I didn't buy her the bras.

 

@xxaru

somewhat

 

I Hear A Future Life Of "Hells Bells"...



Cheers Glen.

 

You have no responsibility until it is confirmed that you are in fact the father. She could have been with lots of other guys around that same time.

 

When we went for the ultrasound I brought up to our doctor what might've been the timing. She gave me an estimate that the week of the party I went to was most likely the week of conception, give or take a few days. It isn't 100% but it's apparently likely. And as long as that's the case, I'm not gonna just sit back and do nothing. Maybe it is possible that she was with someone else during that period. It's hard to imagine with the way she is but still possible.

But the point is that if I am the father of this baby, I have to look out for it's safety and health during this. I can't do otherwise if there is a chance.

 

Well done for you, sir. Way to step up. It's sad that some of the others here are advocating you do absolutely nothing. That's disgusting and inhuman (and a bit misogynistic, really) in my opinion.

 

You're actually suggesting that, because she farted in someone's car, she's a "skank?" And not deserving of this guy taking her to her doctor's appointments? Really? Holy cow, that's ridiculous.

 

Don't you think that's so nasty to let out a riproaring smelly fart in someone's car and then laugh? How unladylike can you get?

And if I were pregnant and weird enough to keep the baby of a one night stand I would just look after myself on my own and then get help once the baby was born.

 

Unladylike =/= skank. Skank refers to sleaziness, generally. Not sure how that would apply to someone farting, regardless of where it took place.

It's not about YOUR decision, or even hers for that matter (though I'm pretty sure if you actually did get pregnant, and someone offered to help pay for things or take you to the Dr or whatnot, you'd have a different outlook on the matter). It's about his, actually. He's the one who made the decision to stick by her and help out. I'm not sure how anyone can see that as anything other than admirable.

And I'm not sure how someone's decision to keep a baby would be labeled "weird." :/