What are the chances that she's pregnant?

@GBBlondie

Thank you for understanding where I'm coming from.

 

btr---you're awesome and you're going to make the best dad ever!!!

GBBlonde--thank you, someone else gets it!

TheSamantha--you're an idiot who knows nothing of biology other than what you see on Mtv. Please have yourself sterilized. You are what is wrong with the world.

 

What the hell is eating your ass?

 

50%. Either she is pregnant or she isn't.

 

Thank you for your support, Strawberry_Fields_Fo. I'm still very scared everyday but coming here helps. It is tough though.

 

It's a really scary thing for sure. If this baby is yours, just know that the first month of their life will be a stressful time for you. You know, the baby lived in a nice cozy spot for all those months, now it is outside of that spot and has no clue what is going on, it tends to cry alot but when you get past that, babies are pretty damn awesome.:sunny:Good luck to you!

 

My parents have been saying the same thing since I told them. How I wont have any time to myself and how being a parent is a 24 hour job. I think maybe all this stuff I'm dealing with now is mental preparation for that. 2 months ago I'd never imagine myself doing all these things, but here I am working through it, and I think that's progress. The ultrasound session was an eye opener for sure. The whole concept of being a dad is hard to process in my head, but just the idea of caring for something so precious makes it easier. Thanks for the kind words

 

It's hard for sure, I was scared to death when I got pregnant but you'll see, you fall into a routine quickly. You don't care about time to yourself because you love that baby so much. Sure you will have difficult times but the good times outweigh the bad. It's gonna be ok

 

I wish things could be going better with me and the mother, but I'm praying everything will turn out okay. And I agree about getting used to a routine. That helps out alot with responsibility.

I also finally told my friend Jacob about the pregnancy. Bernadette was feeling faint during lunch so I brought some water and helped her lay down in the library for the rest of the period. Jacob caught a glimpse of what I was doing and asked me about it. So I told him about what happened with the party and what's going on now. He was shocked and felt really down about it, but as always he has my back. We talked for a while after school about how bad I was feeling before and about the troubles with me and this girl, the doctor appointments, my parents, her parents, my girlfriend, and the future. It was really helpful. Made me feel like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. I wish I had told him earlier, but I was just so ashamed and embarrassed of what I did that I couldn't face him with it. But I'm glad I did.

 

Just remember, no matter how sane things seem, they won't stay that way, you will end up stabbed in the back and a child support slave with shit for rights.

Hit her hard and fast for custody. She might just hand it right over at the start, for the freedom and load off that it would give her. Make it appealing, and do what you can to justify it. Then make her YOUR child support slave.

Because somebody's life is going to suck. It doesn't sound like it should be yours.

 

See, friends are great in these situations. and don't be ashamed. you are not the first person to ever have done this and won't be the last. This is all still fresh and new, once the dust settles, people will start thinking clearly. It's not the end of the world, it is the beginning of something that could be way cool. In a few years, none of this will matter, everyone will have accepted it and everyone will be happy about this new little person in the family. They'll get over it, they have no choice. I will pray things turn out for the best for you too.

 

Dude Roor, what *is* up your butt?

Do you really think it's THAT MUCH MORE AWESOME to have an entire kid to raise than to pay child-support?

 

I take it you're neither a parent, nor prospective parent.

He wants to take responsibility. Part of that is trying to keep the kid from growing up to be like it's mom.

And in time, he'll probably feel this much more strongly. Once she begins fucking him over, and teaching his kid a shitty way of viewing and handling the world.

I'm not being hypocritical in telling him this, I'm quite sure it's a set of emotions and logical conclusions that I intimately understand.

 

Wow - have you had a bad experience previously?

Not every girl stabs in the back and gives shit for rights - the fathers that are a complete waste of time or are not decent enough to be a role model usually get that treatment (although there are exceptions.)

I commend you btr95 for taking responsibility. Your mother should be proud. :love:

 

Well I'm due in 5 days, so yes I get wanting to raise the child as best as I can and not leave him to be raised by someone unstable. But you are referring to one person making the other a child-support slave as if helping to PAY for a child's needs is somehow more of a burden than actually tending to them.

But I must have missed the part where this girl is unfit to raise her kid too.

 

She sounds like she has a really horrible way of facing the world. That effects children, they pick up one everything.

Unless they're going to live together, he sounds, from what we know, like a much better option for a custodial parent. And I hope for his and the child's sake, that they don't live together.

I'm not saying she shouldn't be in the kids life. But I don't see that she should be the custodial parent, simply because through an accident of nature she is the female. It sounds like he fucked up, but has jumped on growing up, and she has not and probably will not.

 

so when is this on springer?

 

HAHA, aw, this poor kid, I feel bad!

 

I'm truly lucky to have my parents and friends helping me out through this. They really are the best. I feel bad for bringing them into my mess ups but I'm happy to have them with me.

 

@Roor

We're working on trying to get joint custody.