What are you/have you been doing today?

So today my best friend of thirteen years fell out with my because I said to her "Well it's fine for you, still living at home with mummy and daddy". I'm pretty fucking devastated.

 

how old is she?

 

23 (I know!). Basically a-she-said-she-said story. I was saying how hard it is to find a job and she was like well I can travel as far as Leeds, you have to put yourself out there. So I said "Well it's fine for you you have a car and still live with mummy and daddy whereas I need a specific wage to feed my family. So she says

"Well if you hadn't bought that dog you'd be able to afford a car" I was going to reply with how he's a protection dog (there's been too many stabbings outside my house in the last year) but I couldn't be arsed so I deleted the whole thing. This happened three days ago and she's been posting double meaning statuses about how she doesn't need certain people in her life and how it's sad but these people are holding her back.

I was going to message her today seeing if she wanted to get tea somewhere only to find she's blocked me and my husband. I'm fucking devastated that being friends since 1997 she's fallen out with me over a comment which was a joke and she of all people should've known that..

 

Sorry to hear bout your fallout 'hellodreadhead' that really sucks that she could be so silly about something so small,my only idea is that.......this does sound awful too but she was waiting for something to crop up so she could use it as a excuse to dump you?Were you gettting on previously ok? It just seems like such a waste of 13years for one small comment.She must know your under pressure to get a job and that its stressing you out and ppl say dumb things all the time( me included) but to completly cut you out is really a strange thing to do? Anyway hope that did'nt make you feel worse as it was'nt intended just thought the same as you that its weird and maybe there was another explanation????

 

We've been fine as far as I know.. Well actually it is interesting you say that Chemigals, She was supposed to be taking me to knowlsey Safari Park as a treat for my uni results then all of a sudden she couldn't afford to go yet at the same time she can afford to go to the cinema etc with other friends. So maybe you are right maybe she did wanna ditch me. I don't think I'll ever know only contact I have with her when it's not face to face is via facebook and msn and she's not accepting any of my messages. Husband sent her a text asking to know what the fuck is going on but she's ignoring it. Dunno what to do.

Edit

She said to my husband nothings going on I just haven't spoken to her in a while.... So why's she blocked us?!

 

That would make steam come out of my ears Hellodreadhead. That is really stinky. Hopefully she's just pms/pmt'ing and will be brand new in a couple days.

 

But still pmsing or not, how many of us would block our friends like after after 12-13 years of friendship. I'm fuming that she's hiding whatever issue she's got with me from my husband. I don't get why she'd do what she did then say that we're fine. I'm not talking to her over it if she gets wind I'm gutted that she's fallen out with me she'll try and turn it into something bigger to make it like she's the victim. I wouldn't put it past her to fall out with me because my dog hates her actually so fuck knows. It's all childish and stupid.

 

HA!
when I had facebook/myspace I severly disliked when people did this
and it would always end with you know who you are
so douchey!

I am sure things will bounce back though.
Just don't let it bounce back on nothing ever happened terms
Make sure she knows you were joking and that shes Captain Crazy

and if that fails.... shank the betch

 

I think I may remove myself from all social sites they've caused me nothing but trouble. My other best friend fell out with me after she got rid of her dog for eating christmas day left overs I said that it probably wouldn't miss her living on a 100 acre plot of land in a bid to make her feel better for getting rid. Maybe it's the way I say things, or maybe my friends just like to twist things

 

its because the internets shows no sarcasms.... fact

I think you should just exercise caution when you say something. If it can be taken wrong, it probably will, but that's also dependent upon your friends... I can tell my friends whatever online and they don't take it seriously.

 

But I've said worse things to her online and I thought I could say anything without her taking offence and with the LOL! She'd see it as a joke. Still no reply from her. Gaaaaa this is SO stupid

 

maybe the other things bothered her too and this was just the "last straw" for her, so to speak.

Personally, I don't like people that refuse to talk about something when there's a problem. I avoid making friends like that. I think, regardless of the offense, that its kinda ridiculous to completely ignore someone and not talk to them at all, even if you are pissed at them... I'm always open to talk something over myself and I look for the same quality in my friends.

 

We've always had a great relationship prior to that comment so great infact she often tries to get me to say the N word to her and she calls me the N word back to "provoke" a response which she never gets.

I know for a fact if I ever said that word to her she'd use it against me at some point. I don't like this at all. The only thing I can think of that would bother her would be my drug taking. But even then she's never said anything and she pokes fun at me "trying to be black".

 

me and my black friends call each other nigga all the time as well as me and my white friends, but I know a lot of people think of it as a huge taboo... key is context...

Anyways... since you're her friend, you'd know better than most why... I don't think anyone in this forum can really give you any advice, you know her better than any of us. Just let her cool off for a while and try again later. Or you can go the old fashioned way and send her a letter.

 

thanks 73n5h1 hopefully she'll come round

 

no problem... good luck ^__^

 

wtf? why do people think it's cute to use the "n" word? i think anybody who says it sound like an uneducated **** or is just trying to provoke a lame response. fucking losers.

anyways, today is better. i still miss my puppy. the house is so empty without him. harry potter! eeek! and um, school is quickly approaching, which means my money better be here!

 

Word

noone should say it. no matter what they look like

 

Because I don't like to say it. So I say N word. Whatever if you think people try and be cute with it or provoke a response. Neither is correct with me. Nor am I an "uneducated ****".

 

Me and me bro call each other niggers all the time. Along with faggot, **** and many other such lulzy words and phrases. Truly our humour is post modern and high brow.