What defines love????

Is Love NAUGHTY????

 

There are all kinds of love....One doesn't have to be naughty to be in love or to love someone!
I think you know that!............

 

I do know that. xxx

 

My wife and I have a open marriage but that doesn't mean we don't love each other !

 

Absolutely, if it works, don't fix it. Xxxxx

 

lol....

 

We always want to throw ourselves into the arms of fate...

The real temptation is to believe that if love doesn't just sort of happen that it somehow wasn't meant to be.



In all my years of therapy (I have been in a lot of therapy) I have observed that love is what you make it. So...


Your behavior.. shows love. How are you behaving?

Your actions.. they show love. What are you doing?

Your words.. they are love. What are you saying?



You can probably see where I'm going with this. I feel like it really takes two; you can only do your half. But what you put in, you sometimes get back. It's totally what you put into it, whether it's family, friendship, or romance. Your gesture is meaning.

 

You put some thought into that Soul.
You are right. X

 

I once drove 4 hrs. to go hunting and fishing for a long weekend at a buddy's cabin it was a weekend we had planned for months. Before I left my wife and I had an argument. At dinner time on the first night. I told him I was going home. He thought I was nuts, tried to get me to stay. But he said he understood. So I packed up the truck and drove four hrs strait home. Got home late just before she went to bed. I gave her a hug and kiss And told her I was sorry and how much I loved her. She said I could have just called. But it was important to tell her face to face. The Funny thing is I have no ide what we were arguing about. But we spent a romantic weekend together. ( I really did want to go hunting.LOL) So I think Love is sacrifice, commitment and that overwhelming desire to be with and do for the other person. And putting up with al the stupid annoying things we do to each other. IMHO. It does help to find their "Love Language" fill that tank. The wife and I read the 5 love languages book. I would encourage many couples to read it.

 

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There are two kinds of love.
Emotion love and Universal love.
Emotional love is really more of an agreement based on desire. I love you and I am waiting and expecting for you to say I love you too. I desire you and you desire me. If I come home from work unexpectedly one day and see a guy or girl exiting from the bedroom window then more than likely the thing you called love will immediately change colors to hate, anger, jealousy, revenge, etc. And of course the love deal is now finished.

Universal love is the state of mind where you have no propensity to hate anyone on the planet. Everyone on the planet is equal to you. None are above you and none are below you. If in the same scenario as mentioned above, the cheated would see that person exiting the window and figure that the relationship has now most likely completed what it was destine to teach and learn. He would enter the house and ask a few questions about the situation and more than likely tell his partner that its probably time they each moved on.

The difference is the latter does not have you locked in the turbulence of the emotional trap. If you have a like minded partner you live a more calm, smooth and soothing life style without the emotional swings that come with emotional love. Many will say if you don't have emotional love for someone, you are not living a full life. I beg to differ. I have been in both and the latter is way far and above the best of the best I have ever encountered.

It is more like living with your BFF who has no secrets at all and loves to have sex with you.

 

There is a third, and IMO a preferable, scenario. You are in love, have chosen a partner to each remain true to, yet by mutual agreement are free to experience sexual adventures with others.

In this scenario, nobody's leaping out the window. Instead they carry on unfazed by your arrival. You may expect to feel free to join in, or you may feel like waiting until they've decided they're done with their interaction, but in any case you are happy for your loved one getting some.

 

sounds good to me

 

I didn't mean to laugh about your question that was a mistake "I'm sorry for that" it took awhile to realize that...........

 

Love will forever remain a mystery to some.

 

Sad but I agree .Not everyone will find their very special person who they connect with and get those internal butterflies fluttering

 

OR

 

As 'Soulcompromise' observed; love is a verb, not a noun.

 

Love is a verb when there is entanglement between the lovers and others are not included. Love is a noun when you become love. Difficult to understand but in this state of mind there is no ability to hate anyone or anything. This is where you see everyone as yourself. Everyone is a separate part of the whole. This understanding is growing and it is the only way for the population of the earth to stop killing each other. Individual love is the verb. Total love is the noun.

 

Define naughty. There is no such thing unless you make up some rules and then break them.