What do you find attractive?

I'm attracted to intelligence (I guess opposites do attract).

 

I like a good sense of humour :biggrinjester:

 

"Nobody want's to fuck a comedian," Frank Zappa

C/S,
Rev J

 

Men:
Tall
Facial hair
Tattoos
Strength
Plump Lips

Women:
Very fem
Soft hair
Soft skin
Round boobs
Shapely butt
Plump lips

 

Kindness.

 

I tend to like pale skin with slightly yellow and pinks hues in certain lighting.I'm crazy about flat shoes.Even though I still have a couple of discussing habits,I occasionally feel I am wasted on the women of this world and feel just in the right zone to be a terrific boyfriend...Other than that,I've more or less given up with women.

 

I like a man who feels strong, is clean and happy with himself.
Looks aren't important but a great (real) smile is. A man who has established himself and is done the drinking and partying his bucks away.
One who is straight in his head, no drugs, and knows where he is going.
I really don't care about much more then that as long as he is sincere and can prove he loves me just by his expressions and what he says.
I don't care much about tans either, had a tanning bed given to me and I sold it for cheap. If I wanted any thing that big I wanted a dry sauna so I got that later. It fit better too. Tanning is for looks, a sauna is for health IMO.

 

^ I don't thinks would be ideal partners lol...

 

Hey, my husband is a comedian



<3 Bunnie

 

That's funny

 

A drunken wench who wants to screw.

 

a wino spewing philosophical ramblings..

 

I'm attracted to so many different things, a lot depends on the person, I know some women who would be considered extremely hot and sexy, but they couldn't get my cock hard because their attitude and personalities suck!!
I do have a soft spot for red heads
And green eyes
And slightly larger butts
Small to medium sized titties
And nice soft hands without those horrible long or false nails
A good PERSONALITY can be a real turn on too

 

^^ Yes you said it man, No long or false nails. Trashy as fuck

 

strong independence

and quiet


its a real catch 22 because most women like that are either not interested in men or want a rich one

 

I prefer my women to have two legs and two arms and two eyes and two eyebrows and two ears and two nostrils. Im kinda picky like that

 

This is a complex question to answer, and it comes in 2-3 parts. The easiest is to describe physical traits, but honestly I don't know if I have a type because I can appreciate so much of the physical variation out there.

The second part is personality, and that is much harder to describe so I might need to make a part 2 post describing that.

The third part is misc. stuff, that isn't about physical looks, or personality, but is in this other category I can't quite label.


Part 1: Physical Traits

1. Eye color, be it brown, blue, green, or hazel. However naturally, I do appreciate the rarer eye color, that's just well....hard to find like green in the general populace.

2. Hair color brown, blonde, honey/light brown, red and black, not particularly picky, but in terms of shape of the hair I do prefer straight, or wavy or ringlet type curls.


3. Body shape, I've been attracted to both curvy women, and women whose figures were basically sticks. So I guess I'm not very picky, and just want them healthy?


4. Height, anywhere ranging from 4 feet 8 inches tall to 6 feet 2 inches tall is fine by me, although she might have her own preferences.

5. Minimal perfume and makeup on women because too much, is a turnoff implies insecurity, and is also a drain on finances if those materialistic things are a constant demand for her to feel happy or valued in life.

6. Facial symmetry (i'd imagine most people wouldn't want to see someone's eyes where their chin would be and another eye in the usual place where eyes are on the human face).

7. The person keeps clean hygienically (ties in with #8 in Part 2)

8. Good teeth. (But with braces nowadays, this is an easy fix, provided they brush their teeth and floss throughout their entire life which would include their childhood)


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Part 2: Personality

1. Doesn't play games, she's honest and trusting, but cutthroat to those who misplace her trust or use her; pushovers aren't sexy they're sad.

2. Someone who is confident, kind, happy, optimistic, but balances those traits with a sense of realism and compassion.

3. Who is generally patient, relaxed, but not lax or dependent or entitled on others in order to enjoy life. In other words, she's independent, and has goals of her own irrespective of the relationship.

4. Has good communication skills with others and with herself so she can express herself accurately, without having to have others read between the lines as a default expectation for others to get to know what she's about.

5. Knows how to use the past, to live in the present, but reflect upon the future she wants to make, and not feel shame or have the need to block or run away from the past, which is very different from making peace with the past and using it objectively for reflection and growth.

6. Is a loyal friend and lover.

7. Doesn't read or play into or against traditional gender roles, and can dissociate tasks with cultural double meanings. Sees tasks as tasks, and can be flexible about who does what when it comes to raising a family, work, and housework.

8. Is health conscious both in exercise and diet, and can add that to the relationship for both of us, and potential offspring, but isn't uptight about it if rich food enters the lifestyle on occasion or with guests.

9. Doesn't shy away from philosophical, political, deep, discussions just on a whim, and is both intelligent and wise.

10. Has a sense of adventure, but also doesn't mind being a homebody.

11. Is good with children, regardless if they enter the picture or not in a relationship.

Part 3: Misc.

1. Preferably knows how to cook.

2. Is good with children.

3. Understands basic household finances and the differences between needs and wants, and that style doesn't necessarily have to be compromised when money is tight.

4. She likes sex, is reserved (not skittish or ashamed) about her sexuality in public, but is open with me and herself about it in private. (Aka: doesn't engage in kiss and tell gossip about her sex life, unless she needs to learn or know something about sex or relationship from trusted friends and family).



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That's pretty much it...however I now have a question for everyone else.


Are my standards too high?

 

What I find attractive about my husband is that he always thanks me for making dinner. I was raised to think that's my duty as a good wife to cook for him. Yet he thanks me for it and it surprises me every time. Makes me love him that much more, because he doesn't have to say it, but he does. Every night.

Why I dated him? Because he was smart and we could talk about real issues.
Why I married him? We both have a dark sense of humor and he makes me laugh.

 

(With regards to the personality) That pretty much describes me to a T! Too bad I'm already taken....

That was a very thoughtful response. I liked # 6: Loyal friend and lover.

 

You dont sound too picky, no teeth requirements....