What does it feel like for a women to have an ORGASM ?

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I think female orgasm is rare because I personally have only ever experienced a women having an orgasm with me on one occasion ( OK three different occasions but only once properly ).

 

well, not to be insulting, but the fact that the women you've been with haven't had orgasms might reflect more on your ability as a lover than on their ability to orgasm. however, to be fair, some women aren't so great at communicating with their lovers. instead they'll just move on.

 

You obviously didn't read my previous post !

Three women over my life have had an orgasm with me of those women only one had what I would call an intense orgasm.

That intense orgasm took about 7 hours to produce, so its no easy task to achieve.

To achieve that it requires a lot of foreplay, probably a lot more than most men I know would be willing to do.

When I say orgasm I mean we are both dripping with sweat, her pulse rate is very high and she's gasping for breath, followed by vaginal barrel contractions and loss of bodily control, if you haven't experienced that you haven't really reached what I believe is a real orgasm.

 

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i read every post on this thread, so i don't know what you're talking about there. regardless, i'm pretty sure the experience you described with this one woman is not typical. it does not normally take 7 hours to produce an intense orgasm. but orgasm isn't just about physical stimulation. it's also about being able to relax and let yourself go, it's about communicating, and of course it's about being turned on...which is just as much in the mind (if not more) than the body. and there are no universals...what turns a person on is very individual. and why do you feel the need to label womens' orgasms as real or not real anyway? not sure what you're getting at here.

 

Your right when you write the experince I had was not typical.

I think orgasm takes as long as it takes, that may be less than 9+ hours, because I don't have a lot of similar experiences to draw from I guess I may never know, whether a women can have an orgasm in less time ?

I think it is true that a women has to relax and let go, but maybe if the sexual tension is enough, perhaps orgasm is inevitable anyway ?

I'm not labelling orgasms as real or not real, I can't make an assumption on a womens orgasms because how could I know ?

I think what I experienced with a partner was indeed rare, and very intense, and maybe this is what a complete orgasm is ?

I think any sex where the women gets vaginal wetness is good - I just think the complete orgasm is the very best and something that people should be aiming for !

If you don't read what an orgasm is you will never know whether or not you had one.

 

i'm telling you, most women will have an orgasm in far less than 7 hours. if they didn't, the female orgasm would be exceedingly rare. in my experience, the ability to relax and enjoy the sensation is necessary. however, there may be women out there who could be forced to orgasm with sexual stimulation. but i think most would just get very sore. any orgasm is a good orgasm in my opinion. it's not always the same experience each time. just because a woman isn't thrashing around screaming doesn't mean she isn't having a good experience. be careful not to be judgemental or have high expectations for yourself and your partner or you could make the whole thing a total drag. if someone told me i didn't have a 'real' orgasm, i think i'd be extremely annoyed.

 

I think very intense orgasm "is" very rare, and I think it does take a long time to produce, maybe it is possible to achieve it in less time, I just don't know ?

You are right when you say you have to relax and enjoy, that is probably the biggest hurdle to over come on the road to an intense orgasmic experience.

Affective foreplay is foreplay that is very subtle and gentle, the way you put it it sounds like your getting your vulva ground away or he is too heavy handed or clumsy and insensitive.

For foreplay to be affective it needs to be very gentle and a mans hands need to be soft and smooth, not dry and cracked.

If the pressure is excessive a womens vulva will get sore and that is counter productive.

I think my own tecnique not only relaxes a women but its arouses them.

I don't enter a women until she is ready, and that takes quite awhile, so really the most important thing is to focus on getting the women extremely wet, and then - and only then should a man enter the women to finish her off.

No a women that has an orgasm doesn't necessarily scream ( well the one that I had didn't) mostly its quiet except for some vague murmur mostly elevated breathing and panting, OK then maybe a oooh from me .

I'm not saying she is not having a good experience I'm saying that orgasm can get a lot more intense to put it very mildly.

No way is it a drag, I have never had any real problems in this area.

Again I'm not saying you didn't have a real orgasm, more about the intensity than anything else.

 

lol, OMG. ive been posting subjects like this and no women give a stright answer. why cant they just tell us? ive never had sex, or gotten a bj, or anything, besides mad out. (im only 15), but DAMN, when the time comes, how the hell will i know if shes having one or not? shit....this is very frusterating to me... can they just simply, and detailed, tell us what happens. like does she start moaning intensely, and like does every women "squirt" when they are cumming? PLEASE tell me.

just for those who care... ok women... obviously everyone know what happens when a guy has an orgasm. It almost impossible NOT to have one, if youve passes purberty. When a guy has an orgasm gism comes out, and we make lots of moaning sounds. (some of us, doesnt nessecessarily mean LOUD, moans) thats about it. why cant an honest women just share the information with us, it would be so usfull to us guys, so then maybe we can pleasure you better, if we know if your about to have one, or not. Or it could be that while intercoase, your not "feeling it", so we need to step it up. COMMUNICATE please.. well all i really want to know is what happens basically. i dont need ambiguous statements like, "it feels like an ocean of electricity passes trough my body in waves", cause that doesnt tell me anything. (no offence to whomever wrote that. sorry if taken that way.

Anyway. please help me.. thanks

 

I'm beginning to think most women have no idea of what an orgasm is, if they did surely they would post something ?

It's so pathetic to think that this is the case ?

It's incredible that most people choose synthetic drugs when the best drug is the natural opiates that come from orgasm, and the best thing is its totally free.

 

Its hard to describe what a orgasm feels like but I guess i'll try.
I think if you can think of a rubber band when you flick it, it gets to a point where it can't be pulled back anymore and you release it. it sort of feels like that.
My whole body gets really tense, I start breathing really hard and deep & I can sort of see a heap of colours then bang i have this really good deep feeling come over my body and I feel like I'm gonna black out.
I have this feeling that i'm really ticklish and I start sort of laughing at nothing.

 

lol, i know dude. I really think that thats right, because ive watched ALOT of sex-talk shows, and like half the women that call in about an orgasm topic ask the same question. (how do you know when you having an orgasm or not). HOLY SHIT!! i couldnt believe it the first time i herd it. i was like "WHAT? if they dont even know if they are having one, then how the hell do WE know if they are having one? lol, SHIT. not only that, but if they cant even have one, than how the hell can they "lie" to us about our sexual talent. Its not our damn fault, if they cant even tell us what it is, then they wont know if they are having one or not, so they just think, "oh, ive had one i think".

P.S TO ALL WOMEN. IF YOU CANNOT TELL US WHAT ONE IS THEN HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOUR HAVING ONE? just a question. Men can orgasm many times a day, and they KNOW that they are having one because of one simple little detail......SPERM, GISM, THE WHITE STUFF, LITTLE CHILDREN! CAN ANYONE NOT UNDERSTAND THAT CONCEPT? IF ANYTHING, THE DESCRIPTION OF A WOMENS ORGASM SHOULD BE LESS DETAILED, they have a vagina, men have a dick and 2 balls. (most of us). lol omg, i crack myself up, when i merg humor into seriousness..

 

my darling, the point i was trying to make before is that it is not so easy to describe. in my experience, which you may already have read further up this thread, it is an almost mystical event which sometimes surpasses the purely physical. just because something is hard to put into words should not cast doubt on whether or not the person had the experience.

IMO if you want to know whether or not your lady had "an intense orgasm" etc etc, the trick is to establish a relationship with her from the start that ensures her trust and love of you, and therefore her feeling comfortable around you, both sexually and in other ways, instead of putting the cart before the horse and having all sorts of demands for "real" or "intense" orgasms, etc.

if she feels those deeper emotional bonds with you, you should not have too much trouble telling whether or not she came.

and gentle ben, as much as i have come to love and respect your views, if i can say that just from your posts it is clear you are an intense and somewhat literally-minded man, and that possibly this may even be acting as a bit of a scare to a woman? maybe you are just making her feel too much under pressure to meet your expectations, and that may account for the long periods she needs to "get wet" etc.

but then again, maybe that is just how she is. everyone has a history and a reason for how they are.

 

good point... IMO? whats tha mean

 

in my opinion

 

Well, when its my conga she is writhing about on It feels like she is having a good fucking time, literally. She claws my back a lot which kinda intensifies my own headrush as I shoot my load, but she starts shreeking a lot and making satisfied moaning noises and then starts saying a loada shit and then she relaxes up, and I guess its pretty fucking good because 1)afterwards she dont chew my ear as much about getting shit done around the house
2) for a coupla hours she stops hassling me to get off the computer so I can get things done but inevitably about three or 4 hours later she wants me to launch a load more cock junk into her muff

 

and gentle ben, as much as i have come to love and respect your views, if i can say that just from your posts it is clear you are an intense and somewhat literally-minded man, and that possibly this may even be acting as a bit of a scare to a woman? maybe you are just making her feel too much under pressure to meet your expectations, and that may account for the long periods she needs to "get wet" etc.

I think you may be right when you write that she is "under pressure" to have an orgasm.

But I have been pretty good and I haven't put any obvious pressure on her lately ....

As far as getting wet, well she doesn't ( pssst !!) have any problem getting wet, in fact she arrives wet.

Oh by the way has any one heard of "orgasmic aneurysm" aka "orgasmic cepahlgia", "thunderclap headaches" because I think she may have experienced this recently, which scared the living daylights out of me.

It would be my worst nightmare if she died of a "brain aneurysm".

 

ya that would suck dude, if she died while having sex. BUT HEY, look on the bright side, wouldnt we all like to die fucking? i would. heres my fantasy.... i would be having the most wonderful sex of my life, blow my load, then be like, ahhh...putt... and thats the end of me. lol

 

Hmm - OK - thanks for at least replying, thats better than hardly any one replying.

Kudos to you xDaiixEllex.