What first attracts you to a woman?

Sometimes just their voice can be an attraction. I usually like any that have the same sense of humour as me & talk on topics I know something about or want to learn their views on different ones. Looks aren't always important - it's what their personalities are like & how well you get on with them.

 

1. Body symmetry (includes face, can't be anorexic looking)

2. Personality (assertive but easy going, good verbal communicator, punctual, open minded, socially aware)

3. Body scent (requirement)

4. Pleasant sounding voice that can be heard (required)

If it goes a step further then (consent for the relationship, and hopefully sex, is required)

If number 3 is not there it negates 1-2.


A pretty face does help in my case but it's only scores 1 point more.

Bust size or butt doesn't matter.



Huh...this sounds like a job application >.<

 

wouldn't that factor into body symmetry?

 

smile eyes butt boobs

 

Well to me they are separate, but they are related yes.

Pm me if you want more clarification.

 

Well, I'm not gonna lie... I have pretty high standards both physically and mentally. But both those aside, what really attracts me is that raw chemistry (as cliche as that sounds) that you just can't describe. I've only encountered it with 3 girls in my life. And I find it's not something that can develop with time. It's either there from the first moment you meet or it's not.

 

Responding to your last statement, I tend to agree but also disagree as well.

That raw chemistry, that bond, that a couple has to share does need to be present in some form for a serious romantic relationship to work longterm, but even then it's not a sure thing.

Also to clarify, when I say "raw chemistry or that bond" I'm not talking about that over sterotyped whirlwind lust-filled beginning stage of a relationship. Even if you do have that kind of close comfortable attraction bond, it's still not a sure deal the relationship will work out.


Now I'm of the firm belief that "the bond" can occur and at surface-glance, based on how we see categorize relationships in our head from what the world has taught us, disguise itself as a really good friendship and may go undetected by one or both parties involved...until a catalyst happens and makes someone mentally consciously acknowledge that ok...we've past the point of friendship here. Once that happens it's usually make or break time.


So yeah I agree to the point that the potential to go into romantic territory has to be founded at the beginning, but I disagree that conscious awareness of that "chemistry" has to be completely manifest at the beginning and has no room to grow given the right conditions.

 

I actually don't disagree with what you're saying. It's just in my own personal experience, that chemistry has either been there right from the start, or it hasn't. I've had girlfriends that I never experienced that electric chemistry with (despite my desire to have it with them). And the few girls that I have shared that with, it didn't make the relationship last because of it. But... even though those "chemical" relationships didn't work out (for various reasons), that chemistry between us still exist. So much so, that if you put us in a room together I have no doubt that we'd be into each other again, even if only for 1 night.

 

I'm an average looking guy, but I've been told that I have a great smile.

Honestly, the first thing I look at on a girl are her tits, but I don't judge her attractiveness based on them. They're just the first thing I look at. Once that's out of the way, I look to her eyes and her smile. To me, there's nothing prettier on a girl than pretty eyes and a great smile. I'm very good at getting people to laugh, so it doesn't take me long to see them smile.

 

I'm not that interested in physical appearances anyway (within reason), but nearly all the women I've been with are ones who have approached me for sex, so I guess the ones I'm most attracted to are liberated type. I'm too withdrawn to make the first move - something that women seem to be attracted to - perhaps because they feel less threatened that way.

 

Her vagina

 

It's obviously looks first. Then personality.

 

Her intellect. Easily.

 

In all seriousness I have also come to realize that an intelligent woman is what wins in the long run.

 

I should probably add that intelligence is important too, I think in my original post I lumped it with the meaning of what I meant by personality.

 

I find powerful woman sexy as I enjoy the conflict.

 

Well you're a better man than I because I hate drama and I'm a girl myself.

What first attracts me to a woman is her hair. It's her crowning glory. My personal favorite type of hair is long black curly hair. But I love a variety of hairstyles like the deep red wavy hair I saw on this stripper a few days ago. As long as it's feminine.

 

To the other extreme, the 3 things that turn me off of a woman (or a man, for that matter) are piercings, make-up & tattoos.

 

smile, curly black hair, gorgeous eyes, poise..

 

OMG Bi men are so sexy. Yeah I agree about the turnoffs, I would say nipple rings are the worst as they desexualize the breast.