What is it with this guy..no one seems to know

^To be fair though, I think this guy deserves a chance he doesn't seem to be pulling any tricks from what you've told us. But you never know, the thing about relationship is that a certain amount of trust is needed to begin any romantic relationship and that's okay.

Paranoia that is often generated from the anxiety of 'should I or should I not trust ___' (this advices happens to both guys and girls who have a lot emotionally riding on a budding or closing relationship) actually hurts the ability to be genuine with a person which can hinder attractiveness and ultimately screw up everything. So be calm, confident, honest, and fun with a hint of flirty in the beginning and in most cases it seems to work.

 

It sounds like he's made it clear he wants something casual...So I'd advise stopping all these texts about periods or how he's not interested enough in you or whatever. Either screw him or don't.

 

He's obviously into you. He's just really shy and lame. God knows why you would actually want a guy like that but he's yours if you want him.

 

he set up a date to come see me, he didn't show. I asked him why, he said fuk I'm soo sorry I meant to txt you earlier. I got called into work tonight, I said when you finish come over. He said I got shit on I'm really sorry... I mean really? Did you seriously forget you were coming over for a fuuuukk!?? (I didn't say that it's what I thought) About a week later he said maybe we can catch up for that drink sometime soon.. I seriously needed to stop the games, I found out where he was drinking one night..I confronted him, he looked like he just shit his pants. I said do you want me to go away? he said no not at all. I said you don't want to come home with me? he said yes..I do, I have problems, my own issues. But from there on OMG his hands were all over me, he didn't let go he made out with me for about an hour. He was quite drunk and intoxicated but let me point out..very willingly came home with me. I slept with him. He was pretty lazy but after 3 months of chasing I pretty much had a fair amount of energy to put in, he was lazy bc he was drunk and very tired.. having said that a couple of times I went to stop bc I was worried he was too drunk he said what are you doing? Keep going. We had finished and we got into bed and he slept like a baby..

 

..the worst thing happend here where I got a txt from g/f, I told her that I finally got him home and he was very intoxicated, she was so angry at me, she said he prob doesn't know where he is and who he's with..it has a name...'date rape' I woke him fairly abruptly I said I need to take you home. I am reactive, I panic. I got the poor guy into the car and didn't talk for a few minutes. I then asked him do you remember anything? he said yes, I said that's why I dragged you out so quick, I was scared you didn't know what happend, he said I was drunk but not to that point. I said sorry..he was like oh weill doesn't matter.. I felt bad :/ I bought him a soft drink and we chat fine all the way. I dropped him off and he thanked me. I don't know weather to text him again, I might have freaked him out, maybe I should be leaving it to him to do?
..One other thing when I confronted him at the bar I said I've been very persistant with you! He said persistance is good..trust me persistance is very good! I take it he likes to be chased...ohh and he's not virginal, he might have been lazy but he knew exactly what he was doing..

 

..and I probably should mention he's on drugs :S I'm prepared to work hard at it (meaning chasing even if it's just for sex) but I don't want my persistance to put him off..

 

Well you've had sex with him, so you shouldn't have to "chase" him. He knows what you're like in bed and that you're willing and energetic and stuff. This whole situation sounds slightly off to me but I can't quite put my finger on it.

FYI a person that's intoxicated can't *legally* give consent so sex with said person is technically rape, but I don't think that issue comes up much with adults. We all know the risks of drinking too much and tend to prefer to take personal responsibility for such consequences so long as we were not attacked or otherwise victimized by a drunken sex partner...

Not really much of a reason to drag a sleeping man out of bed

 

I kind of tried that, I sent him a txt yesterday morning saying hey come and play..I want to fool around with you sometime. I haven't heard anything from him, it's been over a week since I saw him so I don't think I contacted him too early

 

Too much work.

 

It's not just that..I've been persistant but I think he thinks of me as a low life whore
..think I better let him go :/

 

You're never gonna be a low-life whore in my book, you little minx,,

lol,,or olo,,whichever you prefer :0

 

Sweet thank you!! He might pick up interest if I just back away, then again I'm in the right frame of mind to let him have it too, he's level of interest in me must be exceptionally low.. If he has any :-/ I know he was drunk but mg! He couldn't get enough of me!

 

Who cares what he thinks of you...let him go...he's making you do all the work...if he can show some initiative take it from there...if not...bye-bye.

 

If he doesn't want it, will you let me "have it"?

What's your "frame of mind"? I haven't had "enough of you" either,,,lol.

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