What percent of guys are great in bed?

I couldn't really say as I don't have decades personal experience to pull from. But I'd imagine, like nearly all things in life, man gets better at over time. Take technology, athletics... I don't see why sex would be any different.

Who knows . And since he doesn't seem to want to elaborate on the point he was trying to get at, I really don't want to waste my time trying to speculate.

 

I hear that.

Thanks for the input, I hope someone else can also give their feedback to my question.

 

Oh,hell yes it's changed. I came up thru the 50s (in high school) and sex wasn't talked about ,especially by women. Ever. And of course ,there was no internet showing all that is shown today. It's easier now to talk about-to do-and to get better at. You youngins are LUCKY! I was just talking about this with another member and I mentioned the 50s pussy drought. Which was REAL,dammit!

Not that porn is much of an example--but it's there in all its good and bad.

 

I'll bite. Why don't you tell us what those are.

None of the vanilla chicks ever blew my mind in bed. Of the pay-to-plays, I can think of about 5 out of 100+.

Those were the ones that left me drooling with shaky legs for a day and a half afterwards.

So, that makes it less than 5%.

 

And you feel that percentage works the same both ways? You too believe that less than 5% of guys out there have amazing sex skills? And if so, do you believe you’re in that 5%?

 

Oh, nice. Well-played. Trying to corner me there.

There's no way for me to answer those questions without looking like an asshole. All I can say is that with the vanilla chicks, I was carrying the overwhelming part of the workload.

And, I'm not even talking about submissive chicks, because real submissive chicks take a lot, for lack of a better term. lol

 

The definition of what is and isn't vanilla now has changed over the past 50 years.

What does that term mean to you now in terms of sex acts and stunts willingly done by those involved.

For instance I'm noticing that anal and episodes of rougher sex is more common among the current late teens and twenty-thirties just in general.

What is the definition of vanilla now?

 

This is an interesting question.
1stly, how do you define "good in bed"?
Is it endurance, appearance, variety, "adventurousness", technique, compatibility, or just someone they feel a "connection with".
There's so many ways to define it.

2nd, I wonder how many girls have had enough guys to say "x percent this" etc?

One thing I would say is, I do have a lot of sympathy for some girls.
There seem to be a fair number of guys who either seem to be clueless, or are just incapable of providing whatever.

In England, most guys dont tend to talk much to their male friends about sex.
Some do, many won't ever.

Sometimes I've spoken to guys and thought "Christ, I'm amazed his girl is still with him".

Personally, I've got a big fascination with sex. Not just techniques and responses. But also whole systems of it. Such as Taoist sex and ofcourse Tantric yoga etc. To me, the whole topic is so vast, I don't see how more than a proportion of guys could be considered huge"experts" at it.
But.. its down to what is perceived as "great"..

PS I'm not even sure whether that many girls would value a pornstar type scenario with a guy? Dunno.

 

VG's posts make perfect sense when you consider that he is gay and has never really expressed that high of regard for the opposite sex.


xxaru on the other hand, could there be a more modest and less self-aggrandizing person on the planet.

I'm gonna guess that you place yourself in the top 1% of men who are great in bed, but my suspicion is that you most likely are really bad at it, otherwise why do you always find some way to inform everyone what a marvelous stud you, regardless of the thread topic?
Sounds more like insecurity to me.

 

Lol, that's ok. It's an internet forum. We all can come across as assholes every now and again... lord know I certainly do :book:

I don't think there's really one set definition for everybody. The consensus we're going with thus far is the "holy fuck what did you just do to me" effect. If you got that effect then I think it's safe to say he/she was pretty damn good.

I don't know whether I should laugh or laugh harder at this. First of all, I know I may come off as a bit of an asshole sometimes... see a few lines up. But so do a lot of people on this board. Yet somehow my statements that imply that I must be a good lay, cause you to want to hate on me and call me out as having an insecurity complex :smilielol5:... That usually is a sign of jealousy in my experience.

2nd, I don't think it really matters much where I'd place myself. This thread is not about me. It's about how one sex sees the others talent wise in the bedroom, which for some reason you chose to jump in this thread without answering.

And as for me being insecure and horrible in bed... you can think whatever you want about me. I know that I have no reason to lie or embellish about anything I do and/or am capable of sexually. I'm one of the few (VERY FEW) people on this forum who's not actually hiding behind some shroud of anonymity. My pics are readily available for anyone to see, and a number of my sexual exploits have even been documented. So anyone who doubts me could easily see the evidence for themselves and make their own conclusions.

Now all that said... before you come on here and start trying to make random assumptions about people you know nothing about, you should first be mature enough to actually answer the question at hand.

 

Becoming a great lover, like becoming a great athlete, requires training and practice. At 19, I met a woman almost 10 years older, who spent a week with me teaching me every possible thing I ever wanted to know regarding making love to a woman. I retained a lot of what I was taught, and after 10,000 or so practice sessions, I think I have mastered it.

 

I couldn't agree more :2thumbsup:

 

The woman he has sex with, will tell him if he's a great lover or not.
Then he can say he's been fully qualified for the position or not.

 

I think that overall the "wtf did you do to me?" kind of passion in sex is kind of hard to find in general though, and everyone's opinion on what that is is different.

Everyone is going to have a different expectation on how strong and frequent the orgasms need to be and how passionate the sexual experience has to be for the individuals involved to achieve a "What did you just do to me?" status.

Also what is just "meh" for one person sexually speaking, might be out of this world for another.

So knowing these things where does that leave us with how we can even measure how many people in general are great in bed, let alone just guys?

Like you guys also said experience, learning from that experience, because lets face it some people never learn no matter how much experience, is also a factor. So perhaps we should rate skill on a progressive scale?

So take the OP's original question and make age categories:

What percent of guys are great in bed?

Categories: 12-17, 18-39, 40-60, 61-85, 86+

And for sake of this discussion let's just pretend nobody has any type of intimacy younger than those proposed age categories.

 

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Well, the replies are always going to be subjective. There's no getting around that with a question like this. But I don't think that really makes much of a difference. Because regardless of how subjectively a girl is grading, at the end of the day she either thinks the guy was great, or he wasn't. Even though amazing to her may be average to another, the question isn't meant to be that scientific.

We're not really judging what constitutes greatness (that's for another thread discussion), we just want to see how difficult it really is for someone to find a great lay (regardless of how they define it). And I think even though we're all different, we're more alike than you may think. So I think many people are going to define great in very similar ways.

So... to get back on track... Really, the original question was how many are "great" in bed. So yes, while the "wtf did you do to me's" may be less than a handful for some girls/guys, there may be quite a few that were still great, but not quite "wtf" great.

So if I'm answering the question, I'd think of who were the people I fucked that I remember as being really, really good. So if the scale is from 1-10, and 11 equals "holy shit, wtf did you do to me", then I'm taking everyone who ranks a 9 and above and including them in my percentage.

 

I'm going to keep it simple and estimate this to be about 50% for me. Some people I have connected better with in general which made it way more enjoyable or fun. some people just "get it" and do it right always. Other people are awkward in general.

 

I have found that about half are good at many or most things while half might be good only at a few things... It is rare to find someone who is exceptional in all areas if your figure in stamina, skill, equipment, creativity and especially personality and attitude. Same for us girls though.

 

My girl sets pretty high standards. Only talked about a couple of different guys that took her to new levels. One being a one night stand. Another being a fuck buddy, and with him she admits it went downhill after a few time. He was too much into numbers, and wanted to screw as many women as possible.

On the other end she only mentioned a couple of guys who were terrible. She about laughed at one guy, that finished in 30 seconds. When getting dressed he asked about getting together again.

 

I'd say most men are....with the right partner. I've had some great sex and some shit sex and it comes down to chemistry. What works with one person may turn off another.

 

This

So many people think great sex is the responsibility of the man whereas its the responsibility of both partners