What to look for in a friend?

I've been pondering this too. I know I am attracted to her, but it's for different reasons than I'd normally Dom for instance, she's very blonde with big D cup breasts. I've never been into this combination. She's a nudist of sorts that was similar to me in the sense that she's not into public nudity but rather just walk through the fields of Poland soaking the wilderness and that's exactly how I feel atm so that was one reason I started to talk to her.

So I've seen everything already and, well I like what I see I guess. Plus she's bi, so you're wrong there. but not like a "oh look at me I'm bi" attitude, more like "yeah if it happens it happens.all fun to me" so even her sense of adventure and premiscuous ways are akin to mine.

I guess if I was looking for a sexual friend, then she'd be fitting because as I age and get a bit more curious, well I feel she'd be that person that would be, what's the word.. Assertive and confident enough to bring the best out of me.

But that's a long shot and I'm not really interested in any of that. I know it can be on the cards because it's sort of how we came about each other in the first place, but like we've mention before if you can click on a common interest then things go from there. Well we have that common interest.

And now I'm just rambling so you know, you're probably right. I just find her different, unique, foreign.. I think that's cool. But she's starting to infatuating to me if that's the word? Addictive even.

 

And that's the problem with me, I get too attached to people. If it's not her it's that 19yo from a few months back, or that person on HF that burned me hard. And then I get possessive when rejected. And then people go missing. not really. But sometimes.

 

When I think about my long-lasting friendships, there are not too many of them. All of them are somewhere between slightly strange and so odd that they cannot function in society, bright, open minded idea people. Many of them are extroverts, or at least very talkative.

Other than that they don't have much in common, but most of them I can do pretty much any activity with.

 

To me, the most important thing is a good personality. Finding a person who shares that with more than a few of your interests is like looking for a needle in a haystack.
However, being like 2 peas in a pod, can also end up being boring.

 

Yeah, I think there needs to be some differing aspects just to make the friendship interesting.

Like, I need people to go for different teams in sports etc. Cause I like teasing people. But for music and TV shows and movies I think if you can be spot on with each other then that helps.

Political and religious ideals don't bother me unless I'm going to be scrutinised for my own beliefs. In this case, my new friend is similar to me, she doesn't care and not interested in politics. Suits me fine. Religion she says she's into reading about all sorts but has really never grown into anything but she finds it interesting (a conversation I never got to fully get into on new years eve) but this is also similar to me, as I love reading about religions, but I follow my own, primarily because I believe it doesn't matter what you really follow, the consistencies between the first Mesopotamian doctrines flow throughout history. Ie. We probably devote ourselves to the same beings under different names and guises.

By the way, she thought I was hell cool with all the runes and stuff I do.

 

Most of my friends I hang out with while fishing or at fishing related events. Overall I'm not the greatest at making friends. Mostly my anxiety makes me not want to hang out with people. My past relationship didn't make it any easier as i became a rather recluse individual. Kinda losing whatever it takes to be social and not seem horribly anxious and awkward.

 

It was always hard for me too I guess with the asbergers and all. But the people I do know are very close.

As you get older it seems it's harder and harder. The "friend" is ones wife and kids. And some people look at you in an immature way if you still live the way you once did.

 

Yeah, but those people are silly. Growing up (at least in this area) is way overrated.

I think it's sad how as you get older you don't hang out at each others houses just doing nothing much, or playing instruments, or art, computer games, board games, whatever.. Gets harder to co-ordinate, people have kids.. but I still think it can be done. It's just easier to come in and stare at the T.V. all evening than call up a friend and just hang out. Or yeah, people think that's immature.

But I've got a feeling more people would actually like to socialize like they used to than they admit, even to themselves.

 

I'm pretty sure I have a good friend here. spoke for like an hour on the phone tonight like who even does that anymore? Too busy, banging away your keyboard of messsenger, I'd forgotten what my phone actually does. Ring.

No, I'm feeling happy.

 

Someone who will go the extra mile for you.

 

That's usually me.

 

I don't look for anything but i've often wonder what makes a good friend. Whether i would make a good friend or not at this point in my life. Last time i had real friends was back in elementary school in which we would often fight and argue yet still remain friends. There was that authentic expression and loyalty there. Then i moved and little by little we went separate ways.

Lately i've witnessed and experienced quite a bit of flip flopping among friendships and acquaintances that has been off putting. Makes it seem like good friends are harder to find these days.

 

I'm 31 years old and honestly, who would even want me as their friend? Who would be friends with me? I hate everyone and everything seems stupid to me.

 

The answers to your questions are in your last statement.

Later

 

Yeah, it's a Randall quote from Clerks II, I always liked that part.

 

I have not had many friends in my life ( two or three ) But I think I can say honestly if you are looking for something in a friendship you will never be friends ! edont know how to explain but the Mates I have had male and female just Popped up !! then slowly you realize that they are your friend without any of you deciding or planning anything !

 

Well it's not like I've ever actually asked anyone hey will you be my friend. it just happens lol.

 

I think the only time I've remotely even said anything like that was to an already established friend and it would have been hey buy me a coke, aww come on I'll be your friend.

 

I had lunch with a friend today and I would say that true friends are there for each other, even when they disagree with their life choices. (I’ve disagreed with hers over the past year) By support, I mean you don’t abandon them just because you disagree.

 

Will you be my Friend Irmi ?