What will you not put up with from people

I'm super rebellious. Especially with my parents. They've always used the "superiority" reasoning over me. They are older, so they are smarter. Or they are my parents, so I must do as told and never ask questions. That never really worked on me, but apparently it worked on them, so they just sort of put it on repeat and expected me to give in but I never did. Now we don't really get along lol.

 

Can't say I blame you there. I was always super rebellious. Still am, really. I think that's why I'm drawn to HF... it has that anarchist energy about it. I feel right at home. lol!

 

i don't put up with people letting themselves be bullied

 

It's funny, because I'm actually not rebellious when it comes to things like government, or work, or being a team player. It's basically just when people try to have authority over me for no good reason and without justification. I absolutely no problem paying respect to a person or establishment that is greater than I, but I think when it comes to my parents, they just tried to have total control over me, even tried to restrict my personality and who I was trying to be as a person, and I think I sort of cranked up the rebellion exponentially as a reflex.

 

Yeah, my rebellion was mostly channeled to my parents. When I fell in love for the first time when I was about 15, my parents forbid me to see him and I did all kinds of crazy things to see him anyway. Then at 16 I just flat out told them I wasn't going to do what they said and would see him regardless. They actually gave up trying to control me.. I can be very stubborn. LOL!

Seriously though.. I don't see anything wrong with standing up for yourself and asserting your independence. You're at that age where you're striking out on your own and breaking free of restrictions. Be your own master! When you really feel that sense of self mastery, the rebellion will probably just dissipate on its own anyway.

 

Yeh, I'm just the black sheep of the family. I wish you could see how mutch I don't fit in. If I didn't look so much like my father I would be convinced that the hospital sent my parents home with the wrong baby.

 

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Cheers Glen.

 

my bothers used to tell me i was adopted. i hoped it was true.

 

Hmmm, I dunno if I can give a simple answer for that. I can forgive faults and I'm not certain a one word answer like respect or lying would fit. I honestly don't demand respect from everyone I know on a day to day basis. It seems a bit grandiose for anyone to say that you receive respect from everyone you know.

I think some of you are just using respect as a way of saying don't cross 'that line'. Whatever that line is. Almost everyone has that point.

 

Off hand, I can think of maybe three people I've cut out of my life. There've probably been more I've just avoided, but it takes a special kind of asshole to be that memorable.

 

things up with which i will not put...lol. that phrase has been stuck in my head for a couple days now.

 

Well, are you to the point of divorcing yourself from them?

It's still pretty easy to let someone poison your world even if you have cut them out. But it's impossible to move on if you still let people that toxic into your life.

 

They're my family.

 

So they haven't crossed that line yet.

 

yeah I divorced my mother. she was so toxic it was sucking all the light and strength from my existence and I couldn't deal with it without it affecting me very badly. I think it was one of the best decisions I ever made, because after that I was able to really start healing, although it still took a long time to work all the funk out of my system. Not that it's 100% out or anything, but I'm happier now than I've ever been.

 

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I'm not sure I have a line that they can cross when it comes to my family.

 

Perhaps your family isn't all that bad, if you can't think of that line.

 

oh, I'm sure I could come up with some hypothetical mass-murder, child-rapist line, but realistically, I just don't see what they could do to make me cut them completely out of my life. Family is really all you have, as terrible as they may be.

 

Friendships-disloyalty or trying to talk shit about a mutual friend. I don't hang with back stabbing bitches and recently let a long term friendship go because this ex-friend was always talking shit about everyone bbecause she was so unhappy with her own choices.
Relationships: Cheating-I've been cheated on once and saying bye bye wasn't hard at all. As much as I love Andy, I'd leave if he ever cheated on me.

Family: Sadly, I put up with tons of shit from my family and will prob never set boundaries with them. Are you ever overly nice to someone because you feel you owe them? That's how it is with me and my family.