What's Happening???

You get married by their deathbed. Literally.

That would be my move, anyway. What a wonderful send off for them.

 

On April 12th, at about 7:00 a. m., my son left town to be married the next day.

At 7:30 a.m., the hospice called me with the news that my mother had died.

I had a 5 year old, and 3 five month old babies, at home with me.

I told my son to go on and get married on the 13th.

He returned home on the morning of the 14th and came straight to the funeral home for her funeral.

It was important to my mother that he marry the mother of his children. The trip was planned and paid for. Luckily it was only a few hours from home to the destination of the wedding.

My daughter-in-law brought her bridal bouquet to place in the casket with my mother.

 

I say all the right things
At exactly the right time
And I mean nothing to you and I don't know why

 

What do you mean, Neo? Your wedding is coming up very soon and someone you love very much and would like to be at your wedding is on their deathbed? Talk about a very difficult situation. I might ask them what they think I should do. Or perhaps carry on with the wedding and then show them the video/photos?

 

I don't know if that would be possible considering how many people have already made travel arrangements. I'm talking the other side of the country. I dont know what to do. I just got a bombshell dropped on me.

It's too late to change plans but I can't not say goodbye to my grandmother

 

Wow. That's a tough one. I'm confounded. I don't know what I would do, but my head would be spinning in circles trying to sort it all out. I'm sure you'll make the right decision though.

 

Understood.

You already know what you need to do.

Edit: and it's going to suck, and it's NOT going to be easy.

 

My condolences. I wish I knew what a person should do in such a situation but I am utterly clueless.

 

Neo, you are obligated to your guests if it's too late to postpone.

Hopefully, you can get away to see your grandmother before guests come into town.

 

100% disagree.

You can postpone the wedding. People will be upset. True. Many might lose money due to non refundable plane tickets etc. That sucks. Truly does.

Her grandmother can't postpone death. It's a one shot deal and Neo needs to be there.

 

I cried reading this. I lost my paternal grandmother a few years ago and I miss her so. Can you say good bye to your grandmother and then have your wedding? I’m not sure if the time constraint would make it possible. I’m sorry Neo that this is going on.

 

Oh it was serious talk. Never mind me then.3

 

Talk about bittersweet

Do you have time to go see her before the wedding?

I think weddings can be postponed but at the same time...would she want you to do that?

I dont know, thats such a tough spot to be in. And i'm really sorry to hear that

 

Well, apparently you know more about it than I do.

 

I'm just intuiting. I could be wrong, naturally. Wouldn't be the first time.

 

If you don't mind my weighin' in ma'am you could make a YouTube channel & upload the event live. Set up a TV or computer next to her & have her or someone who can turn it on start the video so she can watch. I know it sure as shit ain't the same but it's better than nothin'.

 

That can work, or there's other sites too. Make sure you apply for the youtube lisence beforehand though because there's a limitation on when you can broadcast live. I'm just trying to think of the other site where it's all good once you sign up.. Twitch. we started off with that in iRacing.

 

If was me, I'd just go see her before the event as a couple. Maybe there's a nice garden at the hospital y'all could sit together etc. At least she'd get to see you two as a couple even if it was not legally married.

My granddad died and I never got to be there, nor the funeral. It always bothered me, but it was a sudden thing. Had I have known I would have gone to see him obviously but it was sudden, my family told me to stay at home. I see his site at the cemetery when I visit, dad and I have a beer for him and then my dad empties a beer over his plaque. It probably looks disrespectful but it's what my family does at cemeteries. Always with the beer.

 

Well folks I gotta hit the hay but I'll leave ya'll with a partin' shot of the farm

Yes folks this is American by BeatinFeet69 posted Jul 30, 2018 at 9:18 PM

Have a g'night ya'll

 

Marone!

After a few phone calls I find out the real story isn't as bleak as I was led to believe. Long story short, my grandmother isn't going anywhere anytime soon. But she has been officially diagnosed with dementia, she is in her 90s, she is losing her hearing, has chronic back pain, and is recovering from hip surgery. She's not in great shape, but she's okay, and forbids me to throw a monkey wrench into my plans. She says she'll see me in September.

Long story still short but a tad bit more in-depth, my grandmother isn't going anywhere anytime soon, but I really want to choke my mother.

This evening has been a rollercoaster of emotions. Thank you for your support everyone. I don't want Aeri and McFuddy to duel it out either.

Anyway, I'm going to go have a mild heart attack and collapse for the night