When did this become tolerable?

Maybe not, but do you walk up to strangers and tell them what you think of their outfit?

 

I think talking to strangers is fine and actually quite fun. BUT, i believe a quiet "excuse me" before making conversation is ALWAYS in order. I mean for Gods sake you have no idea what that person youve just spoken to is currently going through. I get people i dont even know jus tapping me on the shoulder and telling me jokes and crap!...Anything could have happened to me that day that they dont know about. Idiots. So, i make them feel stupid by speaking back at high speed in a foreign language

Xx

 

so what you're saying is, you want me to plow you. ok.

 

Im shorry?

 

Politeness might be one way to show your respect for others, but, for me, I think it is abused and misused.

This is exactly what I mean (misuse). For many, this is what they would consider being "polite."

This is what my problem is: I dislike how politeness has become this default action we resort to, especially in light of escaping confrontation or meaningful interaction. I also further dislike the duplicit nature this implies in people. I'm not sure how personal space ties in with this.

I agree with you though, there should be social boundaries but there shouldn't be this need to create false interaction through "politeness"

 

whats "excuse me" really going to achieve?

either way, you're still going to get their life story unless you tell them to shut the fuck up.

 

"excuse me" shows that you are aware that what youre actually doing by talking to them is invading their personal space. Interrupting their thinking time, and dragging them away from their own thoughts and making them listen to you for a while.

And so "excuse me" is really saying "I realise you may well have been deep in thought. You may not be very happy at this time, and there may be things going on in your life right now. I realise you are your own person, totally unconnected with me, with your own life, thoughts, feelings, and that youre valuable. So please, excuse me for interrupting all this, but i need you to listen to me."

Theyre two useful words.

 

Nah i dont see that crap as politeness. I actually see it as plain rudeness.

No, politeness for me is the simple courtesies. The "please"s, "thank you"s, "excuse me, sir/madam" etc.

and also correct body language. You do NOT touch random strangers and expect them not to be defensive.

Xx

 

Understandable. Its a level of consideration I understand, but I was getting at something beyond this. I would listen to someone if they so desperatly needed to talk to someone. But if it was mindless ramble, I wouldn't give them the time.

 

Fear.

Stop being a fucking pussy.

 

How dare you insult me in such an impertinent manner




You're right though
I've realized the problem within myself and with others
and, yes, I'm a hypocrite for critisizing their actions when I do the same.

 

Jealous?

Of course I'm right.

But quit all this problem and hypocrite talk.

You're a fucking human being.

 

....Maybe.

and maybe thats whats bugging me, human nature and behaviour


I'm irritated and finding certain people very deplorable latley.

 

You're an unfortunate lass. Born into the age of absurdity.

Now you've got a choice. Accept things the way they are, as most disillusioned do, or live up to your handle and live the only life you've got the way you want.

Careful of the cops. They don't understand.


and hows about naming some names!!!!

 

The Age of Asburdity? What is that, the title of your forthcoming book? Its fitting. Very. I like it!


And, it's people in general, myself included. Ever just step back while in a situation, interacting with others and think "what the fuck am I doing?"



and

I'm back. Clear your oh so busy calendar. Pencil me in.

 

faking who you are is problematic. It's like lying to people to the nth degree

but being polite, abstaining from being rude, is somethign I respect. There's no need to get into peoples faces over nothing, or insult them without cause.

 

Well insulting people for no reason isnt exactly logical


I'm talking about when you do have that reason.

and


Why is there this incessant need to evade being "rude"?

 

Fitting. Indeed.

Yeah. But only after I've embarrassed myself.

How big of a pipe dream is wishing you were someone you're not?

absolutely!!!!

 

because people don't like being hurt or attacked. I know I don't like it when someone decides to be a bitch at me, or rude to me. It's uncomfortable, painful even.

 

Manners are a way of showing those around us we respect them.

... Beautiful.