When, if ever, does a bisexual man become gay?

About as well said as possible. We are what we are and like what we like so enjoy it to the fullest. Labels are stupid.

 

Im in the same boat and gone the bi route. At this age, it doens't matter and doing whatever is necessary (sucking cock) works. Bottom Line is there is no comparison to a good woman. Im forunate to have a good woman who backs me in my endeavors for continued sexual satisfaction.

 

Doesn't really matter if you refuse to be labeled; you will be labeled just the same so you might as well go ahead and do what you gotta do and stop riffing over something that you can't do anything about other than not pay attention to label angst which is just the haters out there doing their best to erase the notion of bisexuality being real by insinuating that the labels don't mean anything when they always did - but bisexual is being "expanded" by leaps and bounds and in ways that even I don't pretend to understand; it's stuff that has me asking, "What the fuck are they talking about?" because whatever it is, it's not bisexuality as I've learned to understand it.

One always chooses to act on whatever they're feeling; being male, my only "choice" was to be heterosexual and, well, we see how that worked out, huh? Had the sex laid on me, found it very much to my liking, haven't looked back ever since but, still, I had to choose to do what I was doing while trying to understand why I was doing what I was doing and I have an... understanding about it all and to the extent that if I could have chosen to be bisexual, that's the choice I would have made but, as such, some drunk and horny dude "made that choice" for me... but I still had to choose to continue on the path of sexual duality and diversity.

I'll say it again and will keep on saying it: It is pure, unadulterated bullshit to assume, insinuate, or imply that a bisexual man, at some point, is going to become a gay man - and this is the bullshit that we need to stop paying attention to or buying into - and let alone believing in. It's the same stupid-assed shit I heard when I became bisexual in 1964 and that, my friends, should tell you something about how long this bullshit has been around - and how long so many bisexual men have been believing it or have been told that if they have sex with a guy, they're gonna be gay - but since being gay is bad and all that, look at how many men, here in 2024, are afraid to express their sexuality because they have concerns about becoming gay... then ask yourself if this makes any damned sense. Being bisexual is not being on the way to being gay... unless, again, one finds that the gay lifestyle suits them better - and then they choose to pursue this lifestyle.

 

I totally agree. I have a few times asked myself after sexual escapades with other men if I am gay or not but then three days later, I am having a fantastic sexual afternoon with a woman. This would alternate between men and women as I did eventually determine for myself, NO, I am not gay as I still desire sexual relations with a woman equally as much as I desire sexual relations with another man. Most of my relations with men are oral sex, and we enjoy pleasuring each other. It's rare occasions that I allow a man or men to penetrate my ass. I still desire the warm, softness, and allure that a woman provides.

 

I'm with you on this; sucking dick is nice as is occasionally getting screwed, but being with a woman is the shit. I got to see gayness through the eyes of my gay boyfriend and the picture he painted for me was pretty sad; he had told me that one of the reasons why he fell in love with was because I wasn't gay; between my experiences with him and being with other gay men, I can't imagine having a sexual existence that consisted of dick only and no more than having an existence that consists of only pussy... but it just pisses me off to hear this bullshit about bi guys going to turn into gay guys because all that crap does is fuck with the heads of men who, if this wasn't being thrown around, they'd be happily having the sex with guys that they want to get into instead of worrying about turning into a gay man... in 2024.

Are you fucking kidding me? Like I said that shit was old when I heard it 60 years ago in 1964!

 

I think I can call myself gay. I hate to place myself in a category, but the fact is that I haven't had sex with a woman in long time while I have an active sexlife.

I have a lot of sex with my man and I am starting to think that this is the most enjoyable sex in my whole life.
I still like to see a female body and I could easily have sex with a woman. But still, I prefer this one man in my life.

I am guessing that this sexual exploration is turning into a meaningful relationship. Love? I don't know, but it's possible. Do I love the man or sex with him? Maybe both.

I never ever thought that this could happen to me. Being with a man, being a btm, spending all my weekends with this man... And loving it all more that I could ever imagine.

And after all I am thinking that maybe I shouldn't care. Why not just enjoy and let it go as it goes. Confusing it is anyway.

 

Yeah, when I fell in love with my gay boyfriend, I had similar thoughts to the ones you shared and realized that, end of the day, just dive in and enjoy being in this unusual and unexpected moment. It wasn't like I was exchanging a man for a woman; I told my wife how I felt about him, and she had said, "That's cute!" - then told me that she already knew how he felt about me because he told her - and got her permission to pursue me! Sneaky! Even though we were in love and the sex, whew, holy fuck, was he ever amazing in bed and was more of a voracious cocksucker than I was, I couldn't see myself being gay. I talked to him about this one day and that's when he said that one of the reasons why he fell in love with me was because I wasn't gay and that I shouldn't change who or what I am.

There's having sex with a guy then there's being in love with a guy, which amplifies the sex and it's wonderful and confusing when you're pretty sure that you could never fall in love with a guy - and then you do and then you understand that love doesn't care about your sexual orientation... or anything else that we think is important, for that matter. I'm bi, he was effeminately gay, and we fit together well as a couple (both in and out of bed), and he even got to find out what it's like to get some pussy and said afterward, "Now I understand why you're the way you are; it's not something I'd do all of the time but, yeah, pussy ain't all that bad!" That just made me love him more because he "broke some rules about being gay" so that he could better understand me.

But he wasn't going to live a bisexual life any more than I was going to live a gay one. I knew that some guys go from straight to bi to gay... but it's not all of us; bi guys become gay guys if being gay is what they find works for them in their life so if you think that you're feeling bi - but fearful of exploring the possibilities because you might turn into a gay dude - well, don't believe that shit! Get off the bench and into the game! The sex could turn into a meaningful relationship... if it's meant to be and that what the two of you want but, yeah, sure - enjoy the ride and revel in it!

 

I am on my way to spend a weekend with my boyfriend. In less than an hour I will be naked sucking his dick. I will be taking him in my ass numerous times during the weekend. And I couldn't imagine anything better right now. If a woman offered herself to me, I would just keep walking. I feel very good and excited. So I think it's fair to say that I can call myself gay at this point. Turning back some day? I have no idea! And I really don't even care.

 

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