When its Over What Helps?

We were together a little over six months.

 

So in six months, he only said i love you once?
And the next day he dumped you?
And then he laughed about it with his friends?

Do I have the details right?

 

No he said he loved me the day after we started dating. We knew eachother for two months before that. He said he loved me the day before he dumped me and then said he fell out of love with me the next day. Then about 5 minutes after he dumped me he called his friend, he was laughing, and acting like nothing had happened.

 

I think it sounds like he was a douche, and if you STILL want to be his friend, then you're only bringing heartache on yourself.

I can't remember the last time someone told me they love me the day after we started dating....probably in high school and that was only because he THOUGHT he was going to get lucky.

 

Well we had know eachother for about two months before. I don't think I can be friends with him though. It just brings up alot of pain to talk to him. He hurt me so badly. I definitely deserve better and everyone has been telling me this. I'm starting to realise that he was holding me back as well. When you have to be a mother to your boyfriend it takes up alot of your time. I never want to be a mother to a boyfriend again. Its beyond irritating and I can't imagine going through it again. I know I'll be able to move on, it will just take a bit of time.:toetap05:

 

What I suggest is to go back to basics, no guys (romantically) no sex ect. put your time into family and friends.

Remind yourself of your Independence. It took me a long time... but it's the only thing you can do... and write. Paper and pen, or online journal. Writing heals... or even painting/drawing.

 

didnt read the whole thread---but what helps when its over is alcohol---dulls the pain

 

Yeah I'm realising that I need time before I get into another relationship. I need to heal myself first. I'll try the writing, it use to help me alot.

I did find that telling him exactly how I felt about what he did to me helped alot. I don't know why, but getting to express how bad he hurt me helped. I never got to do that with any other guy. I got to say exactly what I had been thinking for along time with no emotion held back. It felt so good and I think it really helped me get back on track.

There are definitely things in life that I would never be able to do if I was with him. So I'm going to do them and live without him. I'm definitely better off without him, but I do find that I miss him. Everyone makes me feel like thats not ok and I just can't help it. It was so nice having someone to sleep next to at night and someone to cuddle with. I miss being held and being kissed. I know it was all a lie, but I still miss it. I just hope that one day I'll find a person that won't be that lie and what I feel will be the truth on both ends.