when you make big decisions...

I try to make decisions with my heart rather than my mind, sometimes it's hard to distinguish. Sometimes it depends on the decision I'm making. Sometimes it's better to make decisions with one or the other. But either way if it's a big decision, fear tends to come into play. I have to think to myself 'do I really think this is bad logically or intuitively for me, or am I just fearful?' There's different reasons for fear, but if you look at the fear you have and realize you have no real grounds for fearing, you have to let yourself overcome that.

It doesn't help to overanalyze. I've done that many times. And I would say it doesn't help to not think about it at all, but sometimes you just have a feeling and if it's a strong one, I'd say go for it.

The only big decision I had in mind, was moving in with the herbster and let's say I went silly with that one. My initial intuition was that it was a great idea. But days went on, weeks went on, I started thinking about all kindsa crazy possibilities, I let one of my friends freak me out by thinking it'd be a disaster, I started thinking up all kinds of things to fear, about how other people might view my decision, and I changed my mind a couple times, then I got back to myself and realized 'this is something I really wanna do, there are so many good reasons to do it, maybe, perhaps there might be some bad possibilities, but I don't know that these things will even happen and I'll never know if I don't try', so I did.

 

thank you for that hannah

 

i like hannahs response the best...

 

I agree. The worst thing in life is to live with regrets because you followed a paved path rather then forging your own way through the brush and following your heart.

 

Gut/Heart/Head - usually in that order.

Contingency plan(s) are a must...

 

go with your gut and you wont go wrong

if you make a fear based decision, you may live to regret it.

live in love

 

I firmly believe in intuition.

However, I also tend to be a very practical individual and will go over every minute detail until I feel secure in making my final decision. To be honest, I have a difficult time making decisions, I tend to obsess and second guess myself afterwards, but more often than not, the decisions I made end up being the best ones for me anyhow.

 

This is why I got married. The wife can make all the decisions while I just sit here and play video games.

 

You sound exactly like my husband.

 

see I second guess too and that's why I seek confidence in a partner or shit even my friends...'ahere ya wanna go lynsey?' 'I don't know where you wanna go'...see if I hung out with unconfident people this could go on for hours.

 

i go with my gut and my ethics. works quickly. no matter what decisions i've made in the past, there's alway bad along with the good anyway.

 

I like for other people to make all the decisions. Then I can blame all of my problems on them for their poor decision making skills.

 

nice one. hadn't thought of that. i'm all proactive and shit.

 

Yep, and that's why i'm always blaming you

 

that's so passive aggressive

::sigh::